Over analyzing and thinking

[Srom]

As of probably 3 years ago, I've had a constant habit of overthinking or over analyzing situations before I'm about to ask someone something important. For example, I have a crush on one of my friend's younger sister. I haven't found the courage to actually go and tell her how I feel because I overthink on how she may respond to what I have to say given that she's in college, and it sort of prevents me for actually doing it because I'm afraid to face reality on what she may say, and even when I do get an answer(which I haven't asked yet) I tend to also overthink and try to read the situation and what that could mean for me.

Has anyone else faced the same issues, or deals with similar things? If so, is there anything helpful to stop myself from doing this?

 

[mukk_in]

Happens. Here's an easy solution (although, hard to practice ): "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything with thanksgiving...(Philippians 4:6-7"; "Do not worry..(Matthew 6:25-34)." Peace in Christ .

 

[Heart2Soul]

As of probably 3 years ago, I've had a constant habit of overthinking or over analyzing situations before I'm about to ask someone something important. For example, I have a crush on one of my friend's younger sister. I haven't found the courage to actually go and tell her how I feel because I overthink on how she may respond to what I have to say given that she's in college, and it sort of prevents me for actually doing it because I'm afraid to face reality on what she may say, and even when I do get an answer(which I haven't asked yet) I tend to also overthink and try to read the situation and what that could mean for me.

Has anyone else faced the same issues, or deals with similar things? If so, is there anything helpful to stop myself from doing this?

I never got asked out for a date in high school and it caused me to suffer a great deal of self-esteem issues then years later I ran into different guys from my school and they said "I wanted to ask you out but was too afraid!" …..so to learn years later (after I suffered self-esteem issues) that the problem wasn't me it was them and their fear!
Just giving you a girls side of the coin!

 

[Srom]

Happens. Here's an easy solution (although, hard to practice ): "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything with thanksgiving...(Philippians 4:6-7"; "Do not worry..(Matthew 6:25-34)." Peace in Christ .

Thank you! I will keep this in mind. It's kinda hard though to practice.

I never got asked out for a date in high school and it caused me to suffer a great deal of self-esteem issues then years later I ran into different guys from my school and they said "I wanted to ask you out but was too afraid!" …..so to learn years later (after I suffered self-esteem issues) that the problem wasn't me it was them and their fear!
Just giving you a girls side of the coin!

I definitely agree it's fear. I just pray that I grow out of this stage and be more confident and build up the courage to tell her at the right time. Thank you for your perspective!

 

[Heart2Soul]

Thank you! I will keep this in mind. It's kinda hard though to practice.




I definitely agree it's fear. I just pray that I grow out of this stage and be more confident and build up the courage to tell her at the right time. Thank you for your perspective!

Why don't you just begin by talking to her and getting to know her? She will probably respond quite readily!

 

[Tomm]

It's important to think before action, but don't overdo it.
The more you think and analyse, the more worried you'd become.

That's why it's so important to pray before facing her so that you may have the courage to face whatever response you might get.
If you were not successful, don't worry since God will definitely give you someone in the future. And she'd be the best one for you.

Why worry (if you pray enough) ??

 

[Srom]

Why don't you just begin by talking to her and getting to know her? She will probably respond quite readily!

We've talked on and off throughout the years. She's gotten to know me through her brother which is who I am friends with so she pretty much knows everything there is to know about me, and I pretty much know the same thing about her because my friend often talks about how her sister got into watching certain shows, and tells me what's going on in her life.

 

[Heart2Soul]

We've talked on and off throughout the years. She's gotten to know me through her brother which is who I am friends with so she pretty much knows everything there is to know about me, and I pretty much know the same thing about her because my friend often talks about how her sister got into watching certain shows, and tells me what's going on in her life.

Well, then pray about it...ask God for a spirit of boldness, and take the leap with confidence! Praying for you!

 

[Srom]

Well, then pray about it...ask God for a spirit of boldness, and take the leap with confidence! Praying for you!

Thank you! I pray that as well and it will be in the right time according to His will!