Outcasts

[Trashionista]

I voted the last one, but I think that's a tad bit of an overstatement. The people that matter to me, love me, and that's all that matters.

I can be a loner [there are some activities in my view - that have to be done alone] but I can be social when I have to be. I was really nerdy & awkward looking until I was about 17, but now... I'm not as pretentious or shallow as I was even 2 years ago, and I'm not all strange looking now. I'm not really extroverted, but I'm polite enough and seemingly normal enough in my interests, that most people like me or at least tolerate me.

But no-one blatantly excludes me or makes me feel unwelcome. Most of the time.

 

[Im_A]

someone else on another thread said that they were outcasted by church,socaity, and people in general. I personally can relate to this and I wanna make a poll on this. Please add your thoughts as I'm sure fellow outcasts out there will be encoureged

(hopefully this is seen as encouragement and not criticism...if not oh well. )

i used to think i was. but then i realized, no one is an outcast. it's a mere reaction to being rejected and all it is, is relationships of any sort that aren't of any worth...regardless if you find a lot of them a lot or not which realistically, we all will find a lot of them. so i figuree get along well with everyone and dismiss the worthless relations we get ourselves involved and don't worry about it. life goes on anyways, and life doesn't care about the disappointment we get from these situations. plus we all can find at least a few people to get alone well with so that fact alone kind of kills the idea of someone being an outcast.

 

[SonicBOOM]

(hopefully this is seen as encouragement and not criticism...if not oh well. )

i used to think i was. but then i realized, no one is an outcast. it's a mere reaction to being rejected and all it is, is relationships of any sort that aren't of any worth...regardless if you find a lot of them a lot or not which realistically, we all will find a lot of them. so i figuree get along well with everyone and dismiss the worthless relations we get ourselves involved and don't worry about it. life goes on anyways, and life doesn't care about the disappointment we get from these situations. plus we all can find at least a few people to get alone well with so that fact alone kind of kills the idea of someone being an outcast.

you know that makes sense. I've heard that people can feel incredably alone even in a group of people who love them. I do think that the possability of being to hurt to feel accepted is there. It's kind of sad when you think about it... our souls can be soooo sensitive.... it's horrable to think that our souls can be so wounded that we lose the ability to feel accepted altogether.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Or maybe you willfully outcast yourself. ?_?
I do sometimes..

 

[Im_A]

you know that makes sense. I've heard that people can feel incredably alone even in a group of people who love them. I do think that the possability of being to hurt to feel accepted is there. It's kind of sad when you think about it... our souls can be soooo sensitive.... it's horrable to think that our souls can be so wounded that we lose the ability to feel accepted altogether.

i agree whole heartidly. thing is, the next question for me, as i have thought about it myself before during the times that i did feel like an outcast was, am i the one doing it to myself? or are they the ones that are doing it?

now grant it, i do think at times we do come into relations with people that they do make ourselves feel "outcasted". but i do think there are just as many times that we do it to ourselves with no reasons, or what we expected didn't happen, so we get disappointed.

 

[Luther073082]

Most people like me for the most part. In fact a lot of people seem to know my name even though I've never met them.

I was an outcast once and I decided that it was going to stop.

 

[Snowyyy]

We shouldn't care what others think of us as long as we know we are right.

 

[SonicBOOM]

We shouldn't care what others think of us as long as we know we are right.

as much as I agree with you, the battle often is IF we are right. Like people tell us to be ourselves... yet how do i know that I'm truly being "real". Am I respecting others when i do it? After-all I see alot of arragent people who ignore public oppionion... how do i know i'm not one of them?

Please don't be offended I agree with you whole heartedly. It's just I think being yourself is one of the hardest battles we face... not because we don't know who we are... but mostly because we doubt that we are any good.

 

[Snowyyy]

as much as I agree with you, the battle often is IF we are right. Like people tell us to be ourselves... yet how do i know that I'm truly being "real". Am I respecting others when i do it? After-all I see alot of arragent people who ignore public oppionion... how do i know i'm not one of them?

Please don't be offended I agree with you whole heartedly. It's just I think being yourself is one of the hardest battles we face... not because we don't know who we are... but mostly because we doubt that we are any good.

I don't think that if we ignore public opinion we are being arrogant. I'd like to cite an example related to this -> I'm sure you have heard about the case of Madeleine McCann. Let us assume that there are many people who are accusing her parents for murdering their daughter. Now, in this case if they ignore the public opinion just cos they think they haven't done anything wrong, I don't think it is a sign of arrogance. We should not succumb to whatever the public says when we know they are wrong though it hurts a lot when people go against you. There are all sorts of people everywhere and difference of perception is bound to occur. But we have to follow what we think is right but yes how do we come to know what is right? This is a confusion I also face many times. But then we know about certain things such as honesty, hardwork, respecting others etc. and we can apply those ethics to whatever we are supposed to do. By this a bit confusion is resolved but still there are things that are perception-based. In that case if we choose "Option X", then people will complain or not like it; and if we choose "Option Y" then also people will whine and complain 'cos that's human nature. I know it hurts when people think you are wrong just cos they carry a different perception of things. I agree, even when we are mature enough there are circumstances when we don't know what to do or whatever we are doing is ethical.

 

[RyanLeeParis]

I suppose I am accepted by other people. Sometimes I feel I am different, or I annoy other people.

 

[Snowyyy]

Hehe sometimes it feels good to annoy others

 

[Nautica]

never but feel for those who are

 

[Cloudz]

Coming from an atheist upbringing why yes I have.

 

[StarCannon]

Middleschool was really hard for me... I think I attracted the attention of a sociopath and that sucked because it was always giving me a hard time behind my back... People would give me grief over my beliefs and my appearance. Highschool got better but not much. College is soooo much better. I was right to wait it all out.

 

[SonicBOOM]

Middleschool was really hard for me... I think I attracted the attention of a sociopath and that sucked because it was always giving me a hard time behind my back... People would give me grief over my beliefs and my appearance. Highschool got better but not much. College is soooo much better. I was right to wait it all out.

I had a hard time in highschool to

 

[Sunburst]

I have not been an outcast yet in my life. I hope never to be but maybe it may happen,who knows. I don't worry myself about it.

 

[TryingToLive]

I frequently feel set apart from whatever group I might try to associate myself with, but many times my feelings of unacceptance may come from insecurities and presumptions associated with a fear of being rejected

 

[xXxKristaxXx]

I am an "outcast" to some people at my church, they find out that I like to drink, smoke, party, have sex and all of that other stuff and they dont take it well.I guess I dont blame them, thats one of the reasons why I dont go to church anymore. Everybody tells me that God looks at who you are on the inside, if thats true then why should they or anyone else judge me? Its none of there business.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I was once an outcast. Now, guys want to be me, and women want to be with me

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I am an "outcast" to some people at my church, they find out that I like to drink, smoke, party, have sex and all of that other stuff and they dont take it well.I guess I dont blame them, thats one of the reasons why I dont go to church anymore. Everybody tells me that God looks at who you are on the inside, if thats true then why should they or anyone else judge me? Its none of there business.

Miss, have you ever heard of the terms "sin" and "repentance"? There are things we are clearly not to do as Christians. If we truly love God, we'll change our ways. Living for him means we have to abandon things. What purpose does "all that stuff" serve?