Our Anniversary

[c1ners]

Today would have been our 23rd anniversary. We planned on growing old together. Of sitting on our front porch swing, holding hands, while watching our grandchildren play on the play equipment that he would have built for them.

Not in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would have only been married to him for two short years. He was my bestfriend, my soulmate, and the perfect daddy our little girl could ever have.

People say that time heals all wounds, but I disagree. Time doesn't heal the pain of losing the love of your life. It's been 21 years, and I still miss him every single day.

 

[singingwife]

Thanks for sharing. Wow; 2 years married and 21 years widowed......
I too imagined growing old together, but we won't. I give people seniors' discounts at work, and am secretly sad that we won't have that together.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Today would have been my 28th anniversary. My husband's been gone for almost 4 years. He died January 2005, one day after his 55th birthday. Some people in my church are asking my friends why I am not dating yet. Funny how they don't dare ask me that question. Don't know if I will ever find anyone I would be interested enough in to date. So far not. I am just concentrating on raising my teenage boys to the best of my ability. Don't feel I need or have time for much else in my life than that. Besides of course, time for my Lord and studying His word. There are only few times when I look at someone else as a couple that I think, why can't I have someone? But I know that God has the best plan for me, so I have to trust Him in that plan.

 

[sadheart]

My husband went to be with the lord two weeks before our 40th anniversary and two months before his birthday. He went to be with the lord July 27th 2008. He had pancreatic cancer. He was in a trial study that was shrinking the tumor but the tumor was also around the sma artery. He was ready to be with the lord but did know want to leave me because he knew I would have a hard time. I miss him so much. I wonder fhow long the pain will last. He is everywhere I look. He was a good Christian husband, father and grandfather. We were never apart. Sundays are the hardest because he was so active in our church. God is good and I know he will help me get through this. I just can,t think about the future and my life being so different. How did you cope?
Chris

 

[c1ners]

Taking care of my baby daughter got me through my pain. Some of it anyhow. She was only 18 months old when we lost her daddy. Without her I probaby would have taken the entire bottle of pain pills and gone on to be with my Danny. Taking care of an 18 month old baby while in a wheelchair and with only one arm functional at the time was a full time job. Changing her diapers was the real challenge. I would scoot off the wheel chair onto the floor, but once I had her diaper off she would jump up and start running, laughing with glee at how mommy would have to hop after her. She'd let me get right up to her, and off she would go again. It's funny now looking back on it, but it wasn't too funny at the time.

I remember one day my grief was so great that I just couldn't stop crying. She came up to me and asked me what was wrong. When I told her that I missed her daddy, she put her hands on her little hips and told me she was going to heaven to ask God to give her daddy back to me. So serious she was. She got a couple steps and turned around asking "mommy, which way is Heaven?"

She's now 22 years old, and my pride and joy. I couldn't have done this without her.

 

[sadheart]

God has truly blessed you. You are a very good example to all the widows on this site.