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Forgiveness can be real tough. Beneficial, but tough.
Someone needs to draw a line in the sand though...guess it will be me. There is a difference between forgiving offense and being a doormat. I can forgive someone, but in the same sentence, I then can refuse to take their sh*t anymore. So maybe it just has to be said that forgiveness is not the same as staying in a victim mentality.
I can think of a few things that I am not sure I could forgive but then I decide to leave God the judge of there actions and not me.
If we don't forget how do wwe move on? I don't mean forget in the sense as in never remember but forget in the sense of not invoking negative feelings?
If we don't forget how do wwe move on? I don't mean forget in the sense as in never remember but forget in the sense of not invoking negative feelings?
Does that equate wearing your heart on your sleeve?Both and neither.
Perhaps forgiveness is nothing more than our own awareness of being forgiven for our own atrocities.
Didnt Jeebus talk about those who are loved much, love more, forgiven much, forgive more?
[gratis]Does forgiveness ever happen instantly?
Or is it more often than not a process that along the way brings healing?
You make good points.I think it can be both.
I love the fact that forgiveness is always extended to me when I mess up. God doesn't apply no clauses or procrastinate about my failure or mess, He just forgives (when I confess) my sin.
I like to look at it the way Jesus did when He spoke about children. I have a 10 yr old daughter and whenever I have spoken to her in a harsh way becos she did something wrong, I can immediately tell her I love her and I'm sorry for being upset with her and she will instantly forgive me. She won't dwell on it like us so-called mature adults do or worst still get into a sulk or mood about it. It's such a beautiful personality trait that most children possess.
I know if someone does me wrong I am obliged to forgive them becos God forgives me. How can I therefore refuse to offer forgiveness to someone and then expect to recieve that same level of forgiveness from God
[gratis]You make good points.
It truly is beautiful how children forgive us as parents and also their peers.
What goes wrong with us then as we age? Could it be our hearts harden?
I believe that if I or anyone else is finding it 'hard' to forgive then praying for the situation and also the person we are forgiving helps immensely!
There will always be instances like this, because we can strive all we want to forgive like God does - but we aren't God so it will be a struggle sometimes.
But sometimes even though you feel you have forgiven, the hurt seems to still come and go. Shouldn't the forgiveness cover that?
You are very right. We are all very different, have different ways of dealing with what life throws us. What works for one of us, likely won't work for anyone else...and vice versa. Which of course opens another can of wormsI have only a pithy comment to make here;
We all grieve differently, and sometimes grief is forgving and forgetting.
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