As an agnostic who strives to keep an open mind, the aspect of Christian doctrine that disturbs me the most, and seems like it would prevent me from ever accepting Christianity, is the teaching that non-Christians go to hell. It doesn't make sense to me that if you don't happen to pick the right religion, you get tortured forever and ever. Do a billion people in India deserve eternal suffering simply because they were born in a non-Christian society? Am I looking at this the wrong way? How can I reconcile this teaching with the Christian conception of a loving and just God?
You describe yourself as an "agnostic who strives to keep an open mind" but have closed your mind to a biblical doctrine you don't like. That doesn't seem very open-minded to me...
Understand that God doesn't
need you to accept Christianity. He isn't in heaven biting his nails in fear you won't accept the faith. You need Him; He doesn't need you. And so, He doesn't skew the truth to make you feel more comfortable about it, or work to satisfy your sense of fair play, or order His doings so that they always "makes sense" to you. No, God comes to us as
God and says, "This is the way it is. You can choose to believe me or not, but your belief or disbelief doesn't change what I have determined shall be."
Hell isn't merely the consequence of failing to "pick the right religion." Hell is the just punishment of our
sin. "All have sinned," the Bible says, and so all are deserving of God's divine punishment. People go to Hell because
they are sinners, not simply because they have not heard the Gospel or adhere to the Christian faith. We all have a conscience, the "law of God written in our hearts," (
Ro. 2:14, 15) as the apostle Paul describes it, and we all at certain points act contrary to it. We do wrong and we
know we have done so. It is this willful contravention of our innate knowledge of God's Moral Law that brings us under divine condemnation.
Paul writes in his letter to the Roman church that people "suppress the truth in unrighteousness." (
Ro. 1:18). Like the innate moral sense all of us possess, we all also possess an innate awareness of our Creator that is witnessed to by the wonder, and complexity, and balance of Creation. But most of us don't want His rule, His control of us. We want to do what we want to do and so we suppress the truth of Him that we might feel more comfortable in our self-serving rebellion toward Him. If Paul is right (and I believe he is), there is in every person a part - often deeply suppressed - that knows God is and that one day He must be faced. And so it is that when an unrepentant, self-willed person finally stands before God it will be "without excuse" (
Ro. 1:20). They will not be able to say, "I had no idea you existed!" And God will say to them, "Depart from me."
How is Hell reconciled to a just and loving God? Well, it begins by understanding that God is not an all-loving God. There is one thing He
absolutely hates: Sin. God is perfectly holy, you see, and cannot abide what is evil, what is contrary to His perfect law and utterly pure nature. "
God is light and in Him is no darkness at all," the apostle John wrote (
1Jn. 1:5). When we forget this, we soon develop a warped picture of God that appeals to our sinful nature. God must be easy with our sin as we are; He must compromise with sin as we do; He must love and accept us even when we do what is evil. But such a God is impossible to reconcile to the holy, just and wrathful God revealed in the Bible. We cannot understand the incredible holiness of God by working from ourselves to God. As sin-prone creatures, we have nothing in our frame of reference by which to properly comprehend just how stunningly pure and righteous God is. But this is what many people try to do. They attempt to understand God by way of themselves and when they do, they just can't understand why God reacts so strongly and severely to the sin with which they are so easy. God, though, is not over-reacting when He punishes our sin with eternal Hell; He is responding in perfect holiness and justice to our sin.
When we fail to see God holiness properly, we cannot then understand His justice. The two things, God's holiness and justice, are inextricably intertwined. God's judgment upon our sin is so severe because His holiness is so great. When we fume over God's harsh punishment of our sin it simply reveals how poorly we understand His holiness - and our own wickedness.
Selah.