Let me start by saying some of the things I write might sound a bit on the mean side of things, but its not intended to be mean.
I met a girl on the internet on the personals, and at first we hit off well, well enough to where we decided to go on a date. When we talked on line she described herself as having a few extra pounds, I kept an open mind and told myself its not the weight that matters, she can probably even lose that weight.
Now when I picked her up, as cruel as it sounds, that was not a few extra pounds she was carrying. Again I told myself not to judge this girl because of weight, she probably describes herself as having a few extra pounds to make her feel better about herself, who am I to say anything, I am hardly Tom Cruise or anyother stud. But the two things that got me was the fact she had a little fine but visible mustache, and she looks alot like a distant relative who the family at best tolerates. In fact she looks so much like this distant relative, that I could swear they would pass as twins if they were the same age. That began to give me the creeps if you know what I mean.
Now I was the gentleman and went through the night with her. I almost wept for my car when she sat in the passenger seat, Im not lying when I say I felt the left side of the car lift when she sat down. Still I tried to keep an open mind.
As we talked that night I began to be confused by the stories she told. They didnt add up, and often contradicted one another. I began to raise my fibber alarm on her, its almost as if she was trying to impress me with some stories and make me feel sorry for her with others.
Then she told me about her family, they are quiet messed up. I began questioning myself, is this something I want to get myself into? There are drugs involved, alcohol, and her father has alzheimers and goes into violent tantrums.
For the most part we got along, and went to see the Passion of Christ. On the way home she kept accusing me of covering my eyes, and talked to me like a child. Ill admit I cried a couple times in the movie, when she saw my hands around my eyes its because I was wiping tears. After spending a term in the Air Force and being treated like a child for that time, I developed sort of a angry defense about being treated like a child. Only my ex-gf has ever been able to talk to me like that, and usually she was right and we had been dating for a couple months when she did it. So I found myself taking her home, biting my tongue and holding my temper.
Now it might sound awful but I was getting upset at the fact she couldnt walk far without losing her breath. I like to go for long walks in the country and have found several special places, when I date someone I want to be able to show them those places. But this girl will never make it.
OK after this I can say I dont feel as anything is clicking in the right direction, even though she has a wonderful personality, aside from the fibbing. But she felt the complete opposite, she feels as everything fell in place, the most I wanna be is friends.
Whats a guy to do? I've tried dropping hints at not wanting to get involved, they blew right past her. I also know if I tell her point blank the only thing shes going to think of is her weight, because all she saw was the common ground, which is there, but its not enough, I think, to build a relationship on.
Any help and advice will be appreciated. I just hope if I have to hurt her, it doesnt make me a bad person or anything.
I met a girl on the internet on the personals, and at first we hit off well, well enough to where we decided to go on a date. When we talked on line she described herself as having a few extra pounds, I kept an open mind and told myself its not the weight that matters, she can probably even lose that weight.
Now when I picked her up, as cruel as it sounds, that was not a few extra pounds she was carrying. Again I told myself not to judge this girl because of weight, she probably describes herself as having a few extra pounds to make her feel better about herself, who am I to say anything, I am hardly Tom Cruise or anyother stud. But the two things that got me was the fact she had a little fine but visible mustache, and she looks alot like a distant relative who the family at best tolerates. In fact she looks so much like this distant relative, that I could swear they would pass as twins if they were the same age. That began to give me the creeps if you know what I mean.
Now I was the gentleman and went through the night with her. I almost wept for my car when she sat in the passenger seat, Im not lying when I say I felt the left side of the car lift when she sat down. Still I tried to keep an open mind.
As we talked that night I began to be confused by the stories she told. They didnt add up, and often contradicted one another. I began to raise my fibber alarm on her, its almost as if she was trying to impress me with some stories and make me feel sorry for her with others.
Then she told me about her family, they are quiet messed up. I began questioning myself, is this something I want to get myself into? There are drugs involved, alcohol, and her father has alzheimers and goes into violent tantrums.
For the most part we got along, and went to see the Passion of Christ. On the way home she kept accusing me of covering my eyes, and talked to me like a child. Ill admit I cried a couple times in the movie, when she saw my hands around my eyes its because I was wiping tears. After spending a term in the Air Force and being treated like a child for that time, I developed sort of a angry defense about being treated like a child. Only my ex-gf has ever been able to talk to me like that, and usually she was right and we had been dating for a couple months when she did it. So I found myself taking her home, biting my tongue and holding my temper.
Now it might sound awful but I was getting upset at the fact she couldnt walk far without losing her breath. I like to go for long walks in the country and have found several special places, when I date someone I want to be able to show them those places. But this girl will never make it.
OK after this I can say I dont feel as anything is clicking in the right direction, even though she has a wonderful personality, aside from the fibbing. But she felt the complete opposite, she feels as everything fell in place, the most I wanna be is friends.
Whats a guy to do? I've tried dropping hints at not wanting to get involved, they blew right past her. I also know if I tell her point blank the only thing shes going to think of is her weight, because all she saw was the common ground, which is there, but its not enough, I think, to build a relationship on.
Any help and advice will be appreciated. I just hope if I have to hurt her, it doesnt make me a bad person or anything.
I don't think it's wrong to tell her the truth and to expect HER, or any woman you date, to tell you the truth. God bless.
