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MoodyBlue

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There doesn't seem to be any universal agreement on what constitutes a "sin". Drinking alcohol, even in moderation? Eating to the point of gluttony? Listening to secular music? Wearing mixed threads in your clothing? Women speaking in church?
 
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Godschosengirl said:
2 Timothy 3:16

All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; 17 so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.

That's it, better not sleep with your husband until day 14 of your cycle then
 
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Mary_Magdalene

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my points are in red below:


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12 Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling; 13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.
14 Do all things without complaining and disputing, 15 that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, 16 holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain.

The Bible tells us to "work out our own salvation," meaning, I my opinion, that each person has to be accountable to God for what they are or are not convicted of.

There are a lot of women that will not put on a pair of pants, cut their hair, wear jewelry, or wear make-up. Do I have to live by their convictions? I don't think so. Some people won't eat any meat but fish on Friday, does that mean that I can't eat meat on Friday? Yes, there sins that are stated clearly in the Bible, like do not murder, but some things aren't quite as clear. That where we have to pray and ask God to lead us. WE have to work those things for ourselves.

If everything one person considers a sin, is a sin for everyone, there would be no birth control at all. Let alone bc pills. We would just have as many babies as the Lord decided to bless us with.

Our relationship with God is a very personal one. We can't go to heaven or hell for each other, and we can't decide what is a sin for each other either.

We can debate what is, or is not a sin, til Jesus comes back, but the truth of the matter is, we all are individuals with individual convictions, and God is the ultimate judge and will judge us accordingly.
 
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my points are in red:

 
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Godschosengirl said:
my points are in red:
It seems as though, even with scripture to back up the comments, you have made up your mind. You asked for other's advice and then you slam them as if you are the only one right. Well, all I can say is, your opinion is just that, yours. And you have every right to it, but so does everyone else. Everyone has to answer to God for themselves.
 
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Oops. My bad. I got you mixed up with the OP, but still we do all have opinions. And we have a right to them.
 
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hmmm...i thought this was a discussion board. im not slamming anyone and i didnt ask for any advice.

and no, if someone puts scripture to back up what they are saying-it is not their opinion-it is Gods.
 
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wannaberichr said:
Another thing that puzzles me. Why do you put a dash where the "o" in God belongs in your disclaimer?

The Jews back in the day thought so highly of the name of God that they would not even write it down or speak it so to hold it in a very high place of respect. When they had to, they eliminated the vowels, so as not actually saying the name, but only a word looking similar to it ao as to get the idea across. Some of the messianic jews today practice the same elimination of vowels to respect the name of God.
 
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Godschosengirl said:
my points are in red below:



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I'd be careful about using the word "context" around some areas of CF, when referring to the so-called "sin" of women speaking in church. As for drinking alcohol, I see no prohibitions apart from drunkeness. It is certainly possible to drink alcohol and not get drunk.
 
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absolutely agree.
 
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Mirelys said:
In order for ethics to be discussed, we do need to get into "crazy talk"... Except of course if you consider abortion murder, and then it's not so crazy. Not even so uncommon.

If a husband tells his wife to get an abortion then he tells her to kill someone. I have never heard of a man doing such a thing. I do know a wife who had an abortion without discussing it with her husband and it ended up in divorce because he knew.
 
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Joykins said:
Are we really?

If abortion is murder and hormonal birth control is abortifacient, both commonly held positions by CF members, it crossreferences another thread on this forum.

Why would a woman choose to marry a man who demands she use OC's if she wants to trust God in this area? If you buy an apple it is stupid to complain that it doesn't taste like an orange. If you marry a wicked man a wicked man will run the household.
 
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Ephesians 5:24 (New International Version)
24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

It says to submit... not obey.

Submit - To yield, resign, or surrender to power, will, or authority; 1913 Webster

Obey - To give ear to; to execute the commands of; to yield submission to; to comply with the orders of.

Surrendering power and carrying out commands are two different things.

Besides, who's law is more important? God's? Or your husbands?

*EDIT*

This Naves topical index I think sums things up nicely:

 
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OK, now Autumn Leaf has gotten me interested enough to read thru this whole thread (well, most of it).
My 2 cents is this.
My hubby and I would not use birth control pills because they can cause an abortion.
My hubby and I believe that abortion is a sin, and that is one of my main reasons for voting for ertain candidates when I vote for presidents etc.
If my hubby thought birth control pills were great, and I came to him and said that I am concerned that they are gonna cause an abortion, then he would look into the matteer to see whether I was right. He would do almost exactly what Addicted did when his wife came to him about it.
My hubby utterly detests abortion, so he would decide to quit the pills.


But if I had married some other guy who was not very nice, then he might not care. So, here is the deal, I believe that a bc pill could cause an abortion, however that is not the intent of the pill, and it might not ever do that to me. I would not be taking the pill to try to kill my kid. It is supposed to prevent me from ever even getting pregnant.
So, to make it out like I would be the worst Christian on the planet, if I decided to keep taking the pills to submit to the evil guy seems like personal opinion. It is not like the hubby said to go chop up the kids.
Anyhow, even if the guy was not too caring about the issue, I doubt my hubby would keep making me take the pills even if he was a jerk, because if your wife is very submissive and obedient, and does not question you on every little thing, then if she brings something up humbly and submissively, the guy would be apt to sit up and take notice.
Anyhow, I doubt that the guy in the other thread is some awful guy. He is probably just unfamiliar with the issue, or perhaps has read information from an opposing standpoint.

To get all out of wack about it is to say a woman should not obey her hubby (which God commanded her to do), because a little pill may possibly might cause a misscarriage if it malfunctions in preventing a pregnancy, I mean, hey, some women give birth and they got pregnant while on the pill, so the pill did not kill their babies.

But anyway, I don't like birth control pills, and my hubby and I are opposed to personally using them, because there is the slight chance that they could possibly abort a baby.
 
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