Well, unfortunately the thread about telling your parents seemed like a great place to say, "don't say anything yet" because why stir up the controversy when the real issue at hand is that you need to seriously examine the situation you're in. This all ties into the fact that you are making plans to move far away from everything you know to a strange town to instantly marry a strange man.
You want my opinion on internet relationships? Here it is. They are usually for very lonely people. It's all a fascade. You can edit comments before you send them to make sure they appear just right. You can shape your personality and your remarks to transform yourself into the person you think the other person wants you to be. You can make empty promises. You don't know someone until you spend one on one time together face to face.
Please don't talk about how in the Bible people were put into arranged marriages and it worked out. Don't forget, these people were not only guided by God, Himself, but also wise elders and their families. They wouldn't have put them with some psychotic creep who takes advantage of desperate young women. You are using these examples to try and justify what you're doing. You're clinging to this stranger because he seems like a way out. He will enable you to run away from your problems. The real problem, however, is that you may be running into even more trouble than you have at home and there will be no one there physically to protect you.
How do you know he will be a good husband?
How do you know he will be a good father to your children?
How do you know he isn't a serial killer?
You don't. You've only spoken via internet. And if it were just you and you alone and you wanted to take such an insane risk and compromise your safety then I'd say, "hey, you're an adult. I wouldn't advise it, but no one can stop you." In this case, though, you have children that must come before your own selfish whims. By making such a drastic move you are putting them at risk which, in my opinion, is appalling. If you want to be with this man so badly, if you think this is as good as it gets, then go for it, but leave your kids with your parents because regardless of how you feel about them at least they'll be safe.
You're worth so much more. Face it, he's a guy online who has never met you and he claims he's ready to take in you and your kids and marry you. That should tell you something right there. He has no common sense. That alone sends up a huge red flag.
Be smart. Stop looking for a quick and easy way to bail on your problems.
I don't know what else you could do. Sorry....
