Online Love

[crimsonxbeauty]

I know I am only 16, and the likely hood of me being in "love" is low, and the fact that it is online makes it even lower. But. I really do like this guy in michigan. He's going ot be 18 and the end of the month. We like each other, but we both know that having never met its hard to judge as to weather or not we're meant for each other. He's a super strong christian, and he used to live about 30 miles north of me (we're now 2,200 miles apart) but I didn't know him then. My friend actually met him at a show though. We have tons in common and I really do like him. I'm definitely not going to make anything official with him until we have met (I found out he goes to the college I want to go to after I picked it out) I'm most likely meeting him next summer at a music festival. I know I'm rambling on, but I'm just wondering is it possible to be in love over the internet?

Sincerely,
Chelsea

 

[PurpleBunny]

Well, I did meet my fiance online, so it isn't all bad...

BUT...

is it possible to be in love over the internet?

I also had some really bad experiences. It is possible to fall in love online, but you really do have to be even more careful than if you met through more conventional means because it is easier for a person to hide who they really are in an online forum. For example, I could really be a 50-year-old man and you would have no idea. It's good that your friend has met him, but I still caution you to take things slowly in this kind of situation. If things are still going well next summer, then it might be time to meet and see what this great guy is like in person as well

The most important thing to do is pray about it, of course, because God will lead you in the direction he wants you to take. If this young man truly is the one meant for you, he'll stick around one way or the other until the time is right

I hope I answered your question!

 

[Galadriel]

Hey there!
I agree, get a real good online relationship going, and talk about everything. If he is being shady, you are more likely to see it if you've talked to him for awhile and his information doesn't quite match up or he says one thing then another time hes talking about it he says something else. I agree too to pray pray pray!! I have met in person someone online, and just realise that online is NOT the same as in person. It can be a shock when you meet them in person, because you know so much about him, but he is like a stranger in person. I am currently going through this. Just pray pray pray and be cautious and get to know him good!!

 

[crimsonxbeauty]

I agree with both of you. I'm being super cautious about this. I talk to him on the phone a lot. And I like the fact that he used to live around here, because I can always go back to his old church and ask about him and his family.

 

[crimsonxbeauty]

Wow a lot happened for you guys in a year and a half. Chad really encourages me in my faith, and he doesn't say anything contradicting and he's really good at making me feel special. I know I can't be 100% sure that he's for real until I meet him, but from what I can tell he's pretty darn for real. Its really comforting that he loves God and he's not perfect either. Which is awesome. He doesn't try to hide stuff from me (from what I can tell) We've only known each other a couple months though... and we're both really excited to see where God takes us.

 

[IDOXLR8]

I know I am only 16, and the likely hood of me being in "love" is low, and the fact that it is online makes it even lower. But. I really do like this guy in michigan. He's going ot be 18 and the end of the month. We like each other, but we both know that having never met its hard to judge as to weather or not we're meant for each other. He's a super strong christian, and he used to live about 30 miles north of me (we're now 2,200 miles apart) but I didn't know him then. My friend actually met him at a show though. We have tons in common and I really do like him. I'm definitely not going to make anything official with him until we have met (I found out he goes to the college I want to go to after I picked it out) I'm most likely meeting him next summer at a music festival. I know I'm rambling on, but I'm just wondering is it possible to be in love over the internet?

Sincerely,
Chelsea

What is your definition of Love? Work on a friendship and allow God to the rest.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I met my ex-fiancé online, originally. I will caution you that it is MUCH easier to rush things emotionally via the Internet, and it is MUCH easier to make serious commitments far too early. Also, make sure he's mature enough to make decisions independently from his family.

At 16, it is not too young to be in love.... I was there at thirteen and several more times after. I don't believe that love knows an age. However, it is wise to curb those feelings and not allow them to control your life (speaking from experience here).

 

[BahBahBritty86]

It can definitely work out if you are careful and up-front with each other! I've been with my boyfriend now for three months and we started out online! But, as always, you do need to be careful. But I find that you get a certain "gut feeling" when the person is being up-front and honest about everything! You just gotta pray about it!!!

 

[naturalbeauty]

I love the net, and used to chat like 24/7......well ok not that much but you get the point. My last 2 ex's I met on the net. I was with Josh for 14 months and we did meet after about 6 months and he was totally cool, we had a blast but then I just kind of started doing my own thing and we grew appart. You can definetly fall in love online.

 

[plum]

I fell in love "online" (which to me means over the phone too) once. A long distance relationship from Georgia(him) to me (Michigan). We dated for 2 years... But we were a bit too young and we didn't focus on the Lord (even though we thought we did). so God, in his all-knowing goodness and mystery had us break up... But yes I was in love. and I was 15-17.
I was single for three years... now I am dating an amazing man from California (yep, still in MI). We've only spent a week together (which in fractions means we've spent 1/15 of our time together; I did the math). Yep I met him online... 6 years ago. Its a shock to fall in love with someone so far away.
am I in love with him? Oh heavens yes. Is it the same love as when I was 15-17? Heavens no. But it's still love- just a different stage of it. It's not as fireworks and quickened heartbeats. It's peace, faith, trusting him with my darkness and him trusting me with his. This is love.
So I think you can be in love. I also think that as you go, it will change and develop which is a glorious thing.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

See, the title of the post is very vague. The word 'love' means different things to different people. I, for example, put love equal to being ready to marry. Is it possible to find a true, Godly love over the internet? Yes, anything is possible with God (also, I read an earlier post where someone met her fiance online, so I don't mean it as a one-in-a-billion type odds thing ). Is it possible to meet the one person you'll spend the rest of your life with online at a young age and recognize the feelings as a true love? Yes, but I see it as highly unlikely.

Then again, if you use 'love' to describe any close relationship, then it's much more possible to find love online

 

[97trsgl]

I met my fiancee online too

 

[Mustaphile]

I know I'm rambling on, but I'm just wondering is it possible to be in love over the internet?

The simple answer is yes. I can see that you are well aware of the pitfalls, so I don't really need to go into detail on that. You know the importance of meeting face to face, before you really know if its going to work out. It does happen and it can be successful. Best wishes for you.