Okeay, I was wondering if any one could give me adivice on this problem I am having. I rectly joined Eharromy and so far I got to talk to one of my Matchs. She seemed intersting at frist, she said she loves to help and like animals. The photo of her self showed she was vary beatifull but I begning to expect she not being turthfull with me (or am I being to judge mental, I am little new to dating, pluse I have Asperger Syndrome witch makes things like this a little harder for me). She is not from this countery, acroding to her she from Ghana, I have ask here twice about what it like over there and both times she avoided the qustion. I have ask her if she had any Brother and sisters, and she avoided the qustion. She is pushing to speack out side the web site before we really know anything about each other and today I got a new match from the same place she is from but this time I could tell the photo was a fake, she used Cleberty. Am I being to parinoed and this girl just really likes me or are any of things warning sings?
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It's always good to be cautious in online settings. If anything about these interactions is making you uncomfortable, just end them now, before you invest any more in them. There will be other matches. That probably sounds hard and cold, but it's true.
Having said that - sometimes people skip answering particular questions, especially if there were a bunch of questions in a row and they're not very detail oriented. It may have been an oversight - I don't know why she'd try to hide how many siblings she has! And there are people who want to get the interaction into the real world as soon as they can, because online communication is time-consuming and ambiguous.
As for the "clebrity" photo - I'm not familiar with this. Do you mean she went to a photographer and had some really glamorous shots taken of herself? Or is she using photos of celebrities instead of posting her own?
Anyway, do what you're comfortable with here ... you have no obligation to either of these women, except to be courteous and respectful.
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joyouspirit
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Okay, this happened to me.
I joined a christian dating site which I got here ar CF. Someone contacted me and he gave his email address right away so we chatted outside the site.
But before I sent my first email, I really prayed hard, coming from a broken relationship, I am so afraid to venture into another one at that time.
We chatted and emailed ranging from 2-3 emails and 2-3 chats a week.
Then the pictures came, he looked like a celebrity, too. Then after a week or so, this is funny as I remember it now. He was borrowing money, uh-oh, I said. But I got hurt because we were starting to get to know each other, had a few short talks over the phone.
But what I'm saying, the Lord led me to cut off talking with the guy. There was too much distrust on my part and there was no peace in me. The third time he tried to borrow money again, I said, this is it, I just thanked the Lord for watcing over me and guiding me.
I suggest you pray on anything, just anything, God is just there waiting for us to drop a line on the smallest to the biggest thing we could ask for.
Stay hopeful. God bless!!!
I joined a christian dating site which I got here ar CF. Someone contacted me and he gave his email address right away so we chatted outside the site.
But before I sent my first email, I really prayed hard, coming from a broken relationship, I am so afraid to venture into another one at that time.
We chatted and emailed ranging from 2-3 emails and 2-3 chats a week.
Then the pictures came, he looked like a celebrity, too. Then after a week or so, this is funny as I remember it now. He was borrowing money, uh-oh, I said. But I got hurt because we were starting to get to know each other, had a few short talks over the phone.
But what I'm saying, the Lord led me to cut off talking with the guy. There was too much distrust on my part and there was no peace in me. The third time he tried to borrow money again, I said, this is it, I just thanked the Lord for watcing over me and guiding me.
I suggest you pray on anything, just anything, God is just there waiting for us to drop a line on the smallest to the biggest thing we could ask for.
Stay hopeful. God bless!!!
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PassionateOne
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I ALWAYS go with my 'gut' instinct. I don't think you're being too paranoid.
As Dr. Phil said, "people with nothing to hide, hide nothing."
I met my bf online and we've been, both, very upfront with each other about everything, from the day we met. So, I felt confortable in pursuing things further.
It's up to you what you want to do, but 'red flags' are there for a reason.
Oh yeah, and anyone who uses a 'celebrity photo' for a picture is being dishonest from the start and I would stay away from those people.
Just my 2 cents.
As Dr. Phil said, "people with nothing to hide, hide nothing."
I met my bf online and we've been, both, very upfront with each other about everything, from the day we met. So, I felt confortable in pursuing things further.
It's up to you what you want to do, but 'red flags' are there for a reason.
Oh yeah, and anyone who uses a 'celebrity photo' for a picture is being dishonest from the start and I would stay away from those people.
Just my 2 cents.
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i can't say definitely one way or the other if she is hiding something because i don't know all the details and i wasn't there when you asked those questions; for all i know it could have been an oversight on her part. but if someone i met online couldn't tell me about the place they live in or about their family i'd be getting pretty suspicious about them as well.
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I would send her one more email to her and ask one specific question that she can't avoid. And like others said, trust your instinct.
This used to be a problem for me only on other Christian sites, but starting a few months ago I started noticing a few strange things. You need to contact customer support because after I alerted them to a few suspicious matches they did tell me that there was something suspicious, but that's all they could tell me. I have to tell you I was especially disappointed with one. I was about to give out my phone number per his request when he told me that he was going out of the country on business and something just rang a bell.
This used to be a problem for me only on other Christian sites, but starting a few months ago I started noticing a few strange things. You need to contact customer support because after I alerted them to a few suspicious matches they did tell me that there was something suspicious, but that's all they could tell me. I have to tell you I was especially disappointed with one. I was about to give out my phone number per his request when he told me that he was going out of the country on business and something just rang a bell.
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i used to be a member of loveandseek.com and everytime i quit i would get messages. one supposed girl from russia contacted me on there before that and we e-mailed, but she suddenly starts talking about feeling supposed to marry me after only a couple of chats. i investigated the given address and saw it as question on flower shop site from russia. address was fake. suddenly i was getting many junk e-mails from russia. then i quit that site. lo and behold i got somebody message me, i joined and it was a girl from russia. this pattern from supposed russian girls that i only could read by rejoining. i would rejoin, and soon their profile was deleted. Do not trust Loveandseek.com. Do not trust any site controlled by Zencon.
But these scams happen other sites, it just seems rampant on Zencon like they do it themselves. I told Zencon if they didn't refund i would have somebody investigate. they refunded. If really they are not faking, then why be scared of investigation?
But these scams happen other sites, it just seems rampant on Zencon like they do it themselves. I told Zencon if they didn't refund i would have somebody investigate. they refunded. If really they are not faking, then why be scared of investigation?
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I'd say if you're uncomfortable get out of it now. There are other people out there and it very well could be a warning sign that something is up.
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Oh, it is very likely that "she" is a scammer. It may not even be a "she". I advise against going outside the site to chat. I have read somewhere that in Yahoo, they can steal personal information.
Also, it seems to me that she posted not her real photo. They are most likely photos of models.
Be very careful and observe where your conversations are heading. Don't be sweet-talked to giving her money no matter what.
Also, it seems to me that she posted not her real photo. They are most likely photos of models.
Be very careful and observe where your conversations are heading. Don't be sweet-talked to giving her money no matter what.
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She is most likely a scammer. It may not even be a "she". Don't go outside the site until you are sure about her. I have read somewhere that personal information can be traced in Yahoo.
Also, her photos must not be really her. They could just be photos of models or taken online.
Be careful and see where your conversations are going. In any case, don't allow her to sweet-talk you into giving money.
Also, her photos must not be really her. They could just be photos of models or taken online.
Be careful and see where your conversations are going. In any case, don't allow her to sweet-talk you into giving money.
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id be very very careul.
the whole online dating thing is scary. but im all for it (been there and it worked for me)
if you are not sure just dont bother. trust you self.
if you thisk she is strange and not right sh probably is.
the whole online dating thing is scary. but im all for it (been there and it worked for me)
if you are not sure just dont bother. trust you self.
if you thisk she is strange and not right sh probably is.
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