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Online dating: Horror stories and lessons learned?

dayhiker

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Looking for perfect ... I can relate to that ... if I wanted to get married again, I'd be looking for perfection but also would be painfully aware that I'm not perfect.
I completely understand why people want perfection in a spouse, as I would also. That's why I have GFs, I don't expect me to be perfect as a BF or them to be perfect as a GF. So that works a whole lot better, at least for me. Seems to be working for my GFs as well.
 
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I could write a book. It has been years since I have gone to any dating site. The thing that really made me laugh was seeing profiles of older balding, very overweight men demanding someone between the ages of 18-30, petite.o_O

I remember one fellow that would not send a photo but assured me I would like him and gave his age etc. I agreed to meet for dinner but he was probably 20 years older than he said and had some physical problems.
Another guy I became friends with in a chat room and we just talked politics and general things and became good friends. He had sent me around 30 photos.. cute guy! Summary.. long story.. found out the pics were not of him. I suggest making the person do a video cam with you before meeting with them.
 
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Oh my, I've had plenty of adventures online!

I made the mistake on the three occasions of talking to the guys for far too long on the phone before meeting, so months later when we did meet, I'd built up this image of them in my head (that wasn't true). The first guy showed up and spent the entire 'date' talking about his ex girlfriend, even saying things like, 'my ex would have really liked this place' followed by 'that girl over there really looks like my ex'. I said to him I was pretty sure he wasn't over her and he said no, I was wrong, he just liked to talk about her a lot. He then tried to kiss me, but I ducked. :)

On another occasion, I was speaking at a church and asked the guy to meet me there. He snuck in late and sat at the end of a pew, and kept giving me these little waves during the talk. Talk about distracting! At the end, he waltzes up and says 'Well, well, you're much prettier than I thought you'd be' (gee, thanks!) and when the pastor came over to thank me for speaking, he (the guy, not the pastor) grabbed my hand and said 'yes, we are so proud of her'...like he was my boyfriend or something.

Oddly, I decided to see it through and have lunch with him. We sat outside in the sunshine and he pulled out an estate agents brochure of the house he had just bought, with the price (quite a high one) highlighted at the top in yellow. He said 'ever since we have been talking, I have been thinking about buying a house and filling it with babies' (I'm not sure where he was going to get the babies from!!). He then grabbed my hand and said 'I really am not the marrying kind at all, but I think we have something special, I think God could really make me love you'. (Again, gee, thanks!).

We ended the date after lunch where he went for a hug but tried to sneak in a kiss, but I saw that one coming and moved just in time. I got home and over the next few weeks, started sending me these increasingly desperate texts. I told him that I was pretty sure there was no chemistry and I didn't think it would be wise to meet up again, so (and I joke not!) he threatened to commit suicide. I SINCERELY hope he wasn't serious, so I told him he needed to get professional help and after a while, the texts stopped. I did check some time later and his dating profile seemed to be alive and well, so I assume he moved on to someone else.

Perhaps not surprisingly, I was put off online dating. :)
 
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