"One Flesh"

[Carri20]

This thought occurred to me a few weeks ago and I haven't been able to put it to rest. What if the "one flesh" the Bible speaks of actually refers to children? What if the act of becoming "one flesh" isn't sex itself but the forming of a new human being who is a combination of the genes of both parents in literally "one flesh"? This idea probably isn't new but I haven't seen it here before so I just thought I'd throw it out there. Also I wasn't sure where to post this, but I chose the couples forum because my own situation is that I had two kids out of wedlock and am now engaged to be married to someone else. So if becoming "one flesh" means having kids together, would that mean I'm forever "married" to my kids' dad?

 

[Johnnz]

Eve was created form Adam. Intercourse and that deep feeling of intimacy and connectedness may well derive from that beginning, of once again in some measure being as one.

John
NZ

 

[Solitaire]

I don't know if it neccessarily refers to kids. God created the wonderful state of marriage and "one flesh" for many different types of couples, and yet he will not bless every married couple with children. For some, it is just not in His plan for them. But I don't think they are any less "one flesh" than any other married couple.

And by the way, I do think that when you have kids with someone, you are in a certain way inextricably bound to them. Sharing responsibility and a parental relationship with a kid creates a bond to be sure, but just a different kind of bond.

 

[Carri20]

Hmm.. That all makes sense. Thank you.

 

[Leanna]

I agree with everyone else...

 

[Maeyken]

This thought occurred to me a few weeks ago and I haven't been able to put it to rest. What if the "one flesh" the Bible speaks of actually refers to children? What if the act of becoming "one flesh" isn't sex itself but the forming of a new human being who is a combination of the genes of both parents in literally "one flesh"? This idea probably isn't new but I haven't seen it here before so I just thought I'd throw it out there. Also I wasn't sure where to post this, but I chose the couples forum because my own situation is that I had two kids out of wedlock and am now engaged to be married to someone else. So if becoming "one flesh" means having kids together, would that mean I'm forever "married" to my kids' dad?

Interesting concept- but after thinking about it I don't agree with it. Some couples do not have children, but they are no less married, or any less "one flesh" just because of that. Also, some couples are definitely married and "one flesh" long before they have children. I guess to me, having children is not a "for sure" part of marriage like "becoming one flesh is". I definitelywant to have children when I'm married, but at the same time I recognize that for some people having kids is not in the plans (theirs or God's).

As for being one flesh with your children's dad, yes- I think you guys have some kind of bond, even if it's just that you're both parents of the same kids. The intimacy may be gone now, but I'm guessing at one point it was there. I think that bond will always be there, even if it's hard to recognize now. In terms of being "married" to him... it depends on what your definition of marriage is (and I'm not gonna get into that right now).

 

[ardeur]

I agree with what everyone said and I would just like to mention that I thought you had a very intelligent and thought-provoking question. I had never thought about it that way before and I'm glad it was brought to my attention.

 

[Maeyken]

I agree with what everyone said and I would just like to mention that I thought you had a very intelligent and thought-provoking question. I had never thought about it that way before and I'm glad it was brought to my attention.

yeah, definitely thanks for the question!!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I think that interpretation would be a slight against people unable to have children, as if their marriage would be forever defective and not complete.