Older and Single (again) ....

[standingby]

Hi everyone...

I was just wondering whether there were others here who have found themselves single (again) due to divorce or the loss of a spouse?

I was married for 27 years before my divorce.  I find that I am having a hard time adjusting to the loneliness of a single life after having someone to share life with for so long.  I just thought that if there are others here they might want to share their thoughts about how they survive without getting caught up in the 'worldly' ways to handle this issue of loneliness.  Although I am 'lonely' I am not actively seeking to date right now...I just want to 'fellowship' with and get to know God.

But....

What do you do when you find yourself longing for someone to just hold you in their arms?  To tell you that they love you?  To tell you that everything will be all right because they are here with you?  To tell you that they will take care of you?

I trust in and love the Lord with all of my heart, soul and mind...and I know that He is with me...but I do miss having someone to share 'life' with...

So does anyone have any wise thoughts or sound advice?

 

 

 

[jesusis4me]

Hi Standingby,

I don't know if I can truly help, but I have been divorced for 1-1/2 years, after 10 years of marriage. My ex is not a christian and he lives in California, so I don't have to worry about running into him, but I joined a local single christian group. It is for single people, who want fellowship, not a serious relationship, and though I don't get hugged or held by a member of the opposite sex, I do feel better, and liked by others, after going to thier worship service. Usually, If I start to feel desperate, for a hug, I pray, and Imagine being hugged by Jesus, because he will always love me no matter what. Any way, I hope this is some help. God Bless YOu

 

[jesusis4me]

Standingby, I almost forgot, I also took a Divorce Care program thru my church, and it helped a lot. I highly suggest it to anyone, recently, or not recently divorced

 

[ukok]

Standingby,

I'm afraid I can't offer much advice all I can do is share my story ...

I understand what you are saying about finding yourself without a companion, later on in life.  For the majority who marry, they expect to remain so.  I have found myself in this predicament twice now and I resolutely aim to remain single for the rest of the forseeable future.  When I was a lot younger than I am now, I became pregnant and prepared to marry my one true love, my soul mate.  Soon after our child was born, and before we could marry, the love of my life died.

I remained completely single for almost three years.  I didn't date at all.  Then I met someone a few years older than me, it wasn't love at first sight, but we were both looking for someone to share our lives with and we married and had a child. I suppose I hadn't allowed myself the time to get to know him properly though because I had to leave after 6 years of the most incredible abuse you could imagine.  I took my vows seriously and did all that I could to make the relationship work, but to no avail. 

At times I wonder, "Is that it- is that all the romance I get to have in my life ?", but then I look at the peace and serenity on the faces of my children.  I know that I could not put them through another failed relationship.  I know that I don't have the inclination to endure another failed relationship.  So I resign myself to being single and enjoy the benefits of a life free from fear.

There must be a purpose to God's plan.  If I try to fathom it, I know that I shall fail and so I must trust in the Lord my God and believe.  I know for sure that I am drawing  closer to the Lord as each day passes, perhaps this is His will.

At least we have a place for fellowshipping with our online friends.

Hallelujah !

ukok

 

[Goodbook]

No, but there is a forum for divorced members where you can get support.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

@Goodbook was this the oldest thread you could find?

 

[JaapAap]

No, but there is a forum for divorced members where you can get support.

That's sweet, I think she hangs around here for 12 years to finally get her answer.

 

[quietpraiyze]

Really?!! This is a 2003 thread!

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

@Goodbook was this the oldest thread you could find?

Surely there is older ones.

 

[Goodbook]

Is there?
You go find one....i was just playing the necromancy thread game.

 

[Hawthorne]

Is there?
You go find one....i was just playing the necromancy thread game.

That's not how it is played; you're supposed to bump the thread entitled The Thread Necromancy Game. This thread.

Looks like your score in that thread is around three hours.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

That's not how it is played; you're supposed to bump the thread entitled The Thread Necromancy Game. This thread.

Looks like your score in that thread is around three hours.

But you have to admit how Goodbook plays it is funny.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

Surely there is older ones.

You'd think so, wouldn't you?

 

[Goodbook]

d'oh!

 

[Citanul]

Surely there is older ones.

The oldest thread in terms of start date in the Singles forum is http://www.christianforums.com/threads/singles-fellowship-thread.23269/, which was started on the 24th of September 2002.

However, that looks like it may have been moved from another forum, and the first thread to be specifically started in this forum is http://www.christianforums.com/threads/here-i-go.33014/, on the 20th January 2003.

If you go by last post, then the oldest is http://www.christianforums.com/threads/just-friends-a-must-read-especially-for-guys.37231/, which was last posted in on the 26th of March 2003.

 

[Trogdor the Burninator]

Zombie thread, ARISE!

 

[Travelers.Soul]