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PjC23565

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wow i know that i have OCD and i cant control my obsessive thoughts, but God is really punishing me!!!!!!!!!

the guy that i love...has left me! the one thing i was scared God was gonna punish me about is coming true!!

i have obsessive thoughts from my OCD and there are really bad, they are about people and the way they look etc...and i was scared since i was having these thoughtts God is going to punish me and take him away...and HE DID!!

now im freaking out that God is gonna make me be alone for the rest of my life for all the horrible thoughts in my head!!!
 
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I suggest reading John 4 about Jesus and the Samaritan woman. I do not believe God is punishing you, just as Jesus did not punish the Samaritan woman. I'm not saying that sinning is ok, and of course God never said that either. But God loves you! He loves you so much, and He wants the best for you. He willl only give you what you can handle. You are priceless.
 
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I'm going to repeat something someone said to me that made a huge difference as to how I look at mental issues.

You don't have obsessive thoughts because of your OCD, you have OCD because of your obsessive thoughts.

It's a slight shift from the angle you're coming at, but it's a big deal. Let yourself be in charge again.
 
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I don't know much about OCD, but from my personal experience, I suggest renewing your mind with Scriptures, listening to Bible on walkmen tapes has really been a blessing for me to renew my thoughts.

There is a bible verse that says we should delight ourselves in the Lord, and then He will give us the desires of our heart. Is He your first and biggest priority (just for you to reflect on, you don't need to answer publicly).

I'm sorry you guys broke up, relationships are hard, and we can't control other people, just ourselves. I get my encouragements from the Bible, I encourage you to read and study it daily.
 
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I really don't know much about OCD, but I have delt with anxiety. I have had to deal with anxiety for as long as I can remember and at one point it started getting worse and I was having anxiety attacks every day and I couldn't deal with it. That's when I dropped to my knees and gave it all to God. I started praying, surrendering all to the Lord. After I did that I started having less and less problems with it. I believe God delivered me from that. There are still times it comes up, but nothing like it was and when it does I start to pray, asking God to remove it and within time it just goes away.
So, I'd say that you should just find a quiet place to yourself and start praying...surrender it all to the Lord and ask Him to deliver you from it. Really leave it in His hands and He will help you. Keep your faith and trust in Him. It may take some time...it's God's timing not ours, but if you keep your faith then He will help you. Every time you start to get those thoughts, just start praying asking God to help you to not have them and to heal you from that. Something else I've found that works is just deciding to take control...stand firm with God and rebuke and bind it in Jesus name and command it to be gone in Jesus name. Decide that you're not going to let this control you...you are going to control it...easier said then done I know, but it's really what I've found you have to force yourself to do. Also, believe that you will be healed and speak it..stand firm on that by His stripes you are healed.
As for what you said about God punishing you. I don't believe God is punishing you. I suggest you read John 4, about the Samaritan woman as someone else mentioned.
 
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Don't take this the wrong way, but a lot of relationships at your age fail. Your OCD may be telling you a lot of things, but I do not believe God is punishing you. Have you had any counseling for the OCD? Now might be a good time since it really seems to be impacting your life negatively. Just remember that the OCD isn't you, and all the power it really has is that which you give it. Of course, it's not as simple as that, but you aren't powerless against it.
 
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God isn't punishing you. Maybe your fear of losing this guy made it a self-fulfilling prophecy? In your desperation to keep him, maybe he felt overwhelmed?
no he doesnt know anything! ive never talked to him about my ocd or anything. i just really let him be. im deffinetly not a chaser!
 
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no he doesnt know anything! ive never talked to him about my ocd or anything. i just really let him be. im deffinetly not a chaser!
So if you were never together he can't have 'left you' as you said in your first post ...
Maybe you need to take the first step and ask him to go out for coffee or something before he gets any further away. But God hasn't taken him away and isn't punishing you - since this man was never yours in the first place.
 
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God isn't punishing you, He loves you very much. You have a disorder of the mind, God is kind and merciful and knows this about you.

I empathise with you, OCD cannot be easy, though the symptoms of this condition maybe difficult to control, You can still acknowledge to God that you know that your thoughts about people are sometimes wrong and ask God to help and heal you in the name of Jesus. I think this may help and bring you some peace.

We can be transformed by the renewing of our mind. Rocklife is right, reading scripture will help you.

As for this person that you love, did he actually know how you felt about him? If this guy is no longer around for you to see or talk to, just trust and believe that God knows what He is doing and may have someone way better in store for you.

I will pray for you.

:) 1newcreation
 
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To your OCD I say "Your weapons of this warfare against OCD are not carnal, but mighty to the pulling down of this stronghold, able to cast down imaginations, and able to bring into captivity every thought that exalts itself against the knowledge of God." To the interuption of the unity in the relationship that you are so upset about, You seem to be upset because you feel that GOD has taken away the one thing you feared, and that is a relationship with a man. "This admiration sounds like it has gone beyond it's proper context, and into idol worship. It sounds like this gentleman had first place in your life instead of GOD. To your feeling that GOD is somehow "punishing" you. I'm not sure about that accusation, but let me give you a word of encouragement. If GOD is indeed "Punishing" you than you should rejoice, because the Bible says that he chastises the ones he love, as a father chastises his own children in hopes that they will change from doing things that are harmful to themselves, and others, and it sounds like to me the way you have exalted the companionship of this man over God certainly sounds like spiritually harmful behavior. God is not attacking you for your behavior, but he's orchestrating a change in your life to help you, because he loves you.
 
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