Off the Market...

[catch22]

I've already met the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I'm almost certain she feels the same way too, but in all likelyhood and for reasons I'd rather not go into here, I won't be able to talk to her for a year and a half. The thing is, I've been working out more and becoming a better all around person for her, but other girls are noticing it too and are starting to try to flirt with me. It's totally unappreciated. I tell them I have a girlfriend whom I adore, but that doesn't stop em from trying. How can I send these other girls packing and officially take myself off the market? This might not be the right forum for this, but it's kind of a strange issue so I thought I'd put it here.

 

[rwl]

Wear a shirt that says "I have herpies" j/k

Hoestly, just continue to be polite and tell the girls that come on to you that you're taken. If they start getting obnoxious then let them know that. Be honest.

 

[catch22]

honesty is my specialty....sometimes it gets me in trouble ala my present situation.....or at least thats what I think. I have to wait one and a half years because I was honest. Well, I'm too stubborn to change that. I like being honest. But anyway, maybe that is all I can do. All of the other girls will just have to find another Catch like me (pun intended), because my heart is spoken for.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Definitely honesty and truth. And if it drives you crazy, keep pumping, and get the mileage for the future. Do enough 21s and drop sets and in two days the DOMS will make you forget everything!

Honestly, though - sincere truth and faithfulness is rare enough in this world that telling them what's up may be a great witnessing opportunity.

-kc

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"If I keep working out like this, I'm going to be so healthy I won't be able to move!"

 

[rwl]

Keep in mind that you're more attractive to the girls -because- you have 'taken youreself off the market'. Being not avaiable is much more attractive to people then being available.

Thats just life.

 

[catch22]

Unfortunatley, it makes sense. People want what they can't have. I already have enough people around me who think I'm crazy for wanting to be totally faithful to a girl I'm not going to see for a (potentially) long while. What kind of a society is it when being true is looked down upon?

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

Just tell em your married and that your a mechanic (the mechanic part means you cant wear a ring due to hazzardous conditions)

 

[mamaneenie]

I know this sounds horrible but to some people the fact that you say you're taken means you're more interesting (after all there must be something special if you've got someone is what they may think) and some people like the challenge of trying to have you. It's awful isn't it, but the same thing happened to me, as soon as I announced I was engaged, I had guys coming from everywhere!

 

[catch22]

And what makes it worse is that in a week I'm going to be starting my next semester of college. Maybe I should go hide in the woods and become a mountain man for a year.

 

[wvmtnkid]

I would also venture to say that finding someone has probably given you more confidence in yourself then what you might have had in the past. That confidence is also becoming more apparent to others. Being in love with someone also does something to you that, well, probably makes you attractive to others as well. It's hard to put into words, but that warm, fuzzy feeling you have inside you just has a way of spilling out. People see this and it makes you an attractive person.

I would just continue to be honest with these girls and tell them that you are already taken, your heart belongs to someone else. This may very well be a test for you too. To test your loyality and faithfulness.

 

[catch22]

Gosh, these tests just keep rolling in on all fronts. To be quite honest though, those warm fuzzy feelings have already started to fade. I haven't talked to her for over a month already, but when I hear from her again....whenever that is....they'll come rushing back. This is without a doubt the single biggest test I've ever faced. I'm only a month and a half in...I wonder where I'll be in a year. I can do this though. I have to.

 

[Stanfi]

Hey Catch 22,

As already been said. Be honest!! Tell the truth, that's all you can do. Don't condemn these girls for their interest in you, but be honest with them.

 

[msjones21]

Gosh, these tests just keep rolling in on all fronts. To be quite honest though, those warm fuzzy feelings have already started to fade. I haven't talked to her for over a month already, but when I hear from her again....whenever that is....they'll come rushing back.

Please, please, please tell me you haven't based the notion that the two of you are destined to spend eternity together on the "warm fuzzies" you had in the beginning... This situation concerns me. I will respect your privacy on the issue of not being able to talk for a year but my questions are how did you two meet and how long have you known each other? Has it always been a long distance thing or did you two meet in person? The whole situation just sounds shifty to me. As far as answering your question I can't because I don't know your situation. Not talking to someone for an entire year seems quite unstable and it certainly won't solidify the relationship if two people can't even communicate with one another; however, if you honestly feel committed to this girl then just be up front with these girls. Be forewarned that with many, how should I put it?...forward girls, they won't stop pursuing you because you are taken. Just a word of caution.

 

[Stanfi]

Please, please, please tell me you haven't based the notion that the two of you are destined to spend eternity together on the "warm fuzzies" you had in the beginning... This situation concerns me. I will respect your privacy on the issue of not being able to talk for a year but my questions are how did you two meet and how long have you known each other? Has it always been a long distance thing or did you two meet in person? The whole situation just sounds shifty to me. As far as answering your question I can't because I don't know your situation. Not talking to someone for an entire year seems quite unstable and it certainly won't solidify the relationship if two people can't even communicate with one another; however, if you honestly feel committed to this girl then just be up front with these girls. Be forewarned that with many, how should I put it?...forward girls, they won't stop pursuing you because you are taken. Just a word of caution.

msjones rocks!! She is a genius!

 

[msjones21]

msjones rocks!! She is a genius!

Oh, mrstace. Really. You are way too kind. Thank you and God bless. You rock too! As well? Too? Heh...grammar queen I am not. See, I'm not really a genius.

 

[catch22]

I'm trying to send you a PM Ms. Jones, but it says your box is full. Send me one when when there's space and I'll send it to you.

 

[MSLeader]

i've had similar problems with guy friends of mine... at times i've found that i have to be blunt, but yet try not to come across too harsh. but it's definitely worse turning down friends than others.. harder to not hurt feelings to the point of harming the friendship.