I have had battles with OCD and scruples and have made great strides to overcome it but recently the religious part of OCD has caught up with me. It deals with a relationship I am in. Part of my OCD side deals with morality and perfection. I know that in order to pursue a relationship, at worst, it should have a neutral affect on your relationship with Jesus . Neither help nor hurt it. I keep quesitoning over and over whether i can be in this relationship. I know that since getting in this relationship, it has not hurt my relationship with Jesus and actually I have started going to church more since being in it but I am human and sin in this relationship. I obsess over this pretty much all day. Is the sins in this relationship hurting my intimacy with Jesus? Like I said, I know that since getting in it, my relationship with Jesus isnt worse but since I sin in it I question and obsess all the time over whether it is hurting my intimacy with him or are these are the sins more because of me not growing rather than the other person (which I believe mostly they are). Can someone provide me some leadership.
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OCD - Please Help
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Hi Freedom,
Well perfection is certainly unattainable at least in this life. As far as morality and whether or not you are sinning in this relationship it's hard for me to make that call as I don't really know whether you are referring to unwanted/intrusive thoughts or actual sins which go against God's commands. With OCD we can have lots and lots of thoughts pop into our head most of which are unwanted and intrusive but seem very valid because they make us feel so afraid. Also, when we're in a relationship with someone and we are in love we feel incredible attraction to that person. If we didn't then none of us would ever get married. This is normal. The key is that although we have those feelings we should be doing our best to not let our feelings dictate our actions in such a way that we violate God's commands. It is important to love the other person within the guidelines which God has set forth in scriptures, but God knows that we all struggle with the pull of our fleshly nature. "If we fall, we are not utterly cast down for the Lord holds us with His hand." I think your OCD is likely doing it's best to make you feel that the relationship will fail which is obviously because this person is very dear to you. OCD attacks that which is dear to us. This person is also very dear to God - remember that. If you've actually sinned in deed in the relationship then confess it, but then move on. I think the root fear of this obsession is really about whether or not you are doing something against God which will wreck the rest of your life. God is in the business of restoration so there's no "wreck" that he cannot heal and restore. I would try to learn about two kinds of OCD called "relationship OCD and religious OCD. It seems that both may be involved here. A. The dread fear of losing a human relationship and B. The dread fear of losing your relationship with God. That might help you to understand your OCD a bit better.
God Bless,
Mitzi
Well perfection is certainly unattainable at least in this life. As far as morality and whether or not you are sinning in this relationship it's hard for me to make that call as I don't really know whether you are referring to unwanted/intrusive thoughts or actual sins which go against God's commands. With OCD we can have lots and lots of thoughts pop into our head most of which are unwanted and intrusive but seem very valid because they make us feel so afraid. Also, when we're in a relationship with someone and we are in love we feel incredible attraction to that person. If we didn't then none of us would ever get married. This is normal. The key is that although we have those feelings we should be doing our best to not let our feelings dictate our actions in such a way that we violate God's commands. It is important to love the other person within the guidelines which God has set forth in scriptures, but God knows that we all struggle with the pull of our fleshly nature. "If we fall, we are not utterly cast down for the Lord holds us with His hand." I think your OCD is likely doing it's best to make you feel that the relationship will fail which is obviously because this person is very dear to you. OCD attacks that which is dear to us. This person is also very dear to God - remember that. If you've actually sinned in deed in the relationship then confess it, but then move on. I think the root fear of this obsession is really about whether or not you are doing something against God which will wreck the rest of your life. God is in the business of restoration so there's no "wreck" that he cannot heal and restore. I would try to learn about two kinds of OCD called "relationship OCD and religious OCD. It seems that both may be involved here. A. The dread fear of losing a human relationship and B. The dread fear of losing your relationship with God. That might help you to understand your OCD a bit better.
God Bless,
Mitzi
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