OCD in dating: confessing

[EtainSkirata]

Hey all,
What are some guidelines for dealing with obsessive thoughts and how they impact dating? Specifically I'm thinking about sins: I did something wrong today (not sexual, not drug related, and nothing to do with my boyfriend, to be clear), and I asked God for forgiveness, but do I need to confess things to my boyfriend? Because on the one hand, if I broke up with him and I started dating someone new, I would consider it a past sin and not tell him. But at the same time, I keep thinking, "this could be a dealbreaker for my boyfriend if he knew." I've repented and asked for forgiveness from God, but I have this almost obsessive need to make sure my boyfriend knows just how awful of a person I am, so he can make an informed decision as to whether or not he wants to be with me.

 

[Allen of the Cross]

Hello. We don't have to share everything about ourselves with those around it. If you are forgiven by the Lord Jesus Christ, then there is no need to confess your past sins to others. God does not require us to 'put our worst foot forward,' so to speak, in our relationships with other humans.

OCD is a terrible disease. When it 'flares up' in me, it tends to make me 'forget' just how much Jesus Christ loves me. He is a very loving Lord, not exactly a harsh or mean person. He is very forgiving and gracious. God has rich, infinite grace which he pours out on His church. When Jesus Christ died on the cross, He secured for us the richest love, kindness, and forgiveness imaginable. We humans cannot conceive the victory that Christ won for us on the cross at Calvary.

So don't worry, everything's fine. You're not required by God to share your past sins with anyone.