Hi all. I'm obviously having a little bit of a breakdown these last few days. I really appreciate everyone's help.
Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about something sort of serious (theological conversation) and he said it was hard for him to answer what I thought was a simple question because he had to analyze every possible situation I was asking about. He goes "Do you know how hard it is not to lie to you?" He was trying to think of a way to honestly answer my question without it taking an hour.
This sent me into some heavy guilt. I know I have not been totally honest with him in conversations. Last night I tried to mentally review old conversations to think of times where I've flat out lied, and i couldn't come up with much of anything.
But I do have one instance I'm currently concerned about: a month or so ago we were listening to a podcast talking about what a wife does in the home, but I wasn't listening really, I was obsessing over something I didn't want to share with him but the thing was giving me HORRIBLE anxiety. So I said, in relation to thr podcast about being a good housewife, "I don't think I can do that." And we got to talking and I told him I tend to get stuck in anxiety (true). But basically he thinks that I think I can't be a good mom because I get stuck in anxiety, when the reality of why said I can't do it is more specific to the thing i was worried about, but didnt want to share. I basically didn't give him an accurate picture as to WHY I didn't think I could do it.
I don't know. I feel as though I might have convinced myself I'm a pathological liar. I don't know how or what to confess to him about thar conversation, or about how in general I feel like I'm a liar, especially when I can't give him concrete examples (aside from the one above, or a time when I said I knew of couples (plural) who dealt with a type of relationship problem when in reality I could only think of one couple I knew about).
I prayed this morning for forgiveness and for God to help me be honest, because I feel like I live my life in half truths or almost truths. I know we're not perfectly honest 100% of the time. But in regards to that serious conversation we had about me being a mom, I don't know what, if anything, to confess to him. And I'd already analyzed that conversation almost right after it happened, but I'm thinking about it again.
Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about something sort of serious (theological conversation) and he said it was hard for him to answer what I thought was a simple question because he had to analyze every possible situation I was asking about. He goes "Do you know how hard it is not to lie to you?" He was trying to think of a way to honestly answer my question without it taking an hour.
This sent me into some heavy guilt. I know I have not been totally honest with him in conversations. Last night I tried to mentally review old conversations to think of times where I've flat out lied, and i couldn't come up with much of anything.
But I do have one instance I'm currently concerned about: a month or so ago we were listening to a podcast talking about what a wife does in the home, but I wasn't listening really, I was obsessing over something I didn't want to share with him but the thing was giving me HORRIBLE anxiety. So I said, in relation to thr podcast about being a good housewife, "I don't think I can do that." And we got to talking and I told him I tend to get stuck in anxiety (true). But basically he thinks that I think I can't be a good mom because I get stuck in anxiety, when the reality of why said I can't do it is more specific to the thing i was worried about, but didnt want to share. I basically didn't give him an accurate picture as to WHY I didn't think I could do it.
I don't know. I feel as though I might have convinced myself I'm a pathological liar. I don't know how or what to confess to him about thar conversation, or about how in general I feel like I'm a liar, especially when I can't give him concrete examples (aside from the one above, or a time when I said I knew of couples (plural) who dealt with a type of relationship problem when in reality I could only think of one couple I knew about).
I prayed this morning for forgiveness and for God to help me be honest, because I feel like I live my life in half truths or almost truths. I know we're not perfectly honest 100% of the time. But in regards to that serious conversation we had about me being a mom, I don't know what, if anything, to confess to him. And I'd already analyzed that conversation almost right after it happened, but I'm thinking about it again.