Tuffguy said:
I love working out and taking care of myself. Naturally, this does not allow me to be attracted to people that live very different lifestyles. For me it would feel like punishment if i had to daily watch someone eat the wrong things over and over and over. I would rather enjoy someone that lives the same as i do.
On the moral side of the issue,,,
If your are obese cause you're a glutton then you are sinning. The Bible doesn't make exception for eating disorders.
I...I don't know how to respond to this. I just don't. With a quote on vanity? Pride? Loving those who need love despite their situation? So instead, I'll just write what I was going to say anyways, and hope.
First off, wieght is really not the issue...really. I know women whowas a size 12, 5'5, and 190 lbs...and then someone who is a size 22, 5'2, and 210. It's different body make-ups, bone structures, muscle masses, etc, that make up the difference, it seems. And size can be a different issue too...some people are thin at size 9, others at size 1, depending on, again, muscle, bone structure, hieght, width of shoulders, etc, etc.
But if healthy or unhealthy habits are the issue...well, then, take a look at how a person eats, how they act, how they treat food, how they treat others with weight and eating issues, etc. For example: Someone who actually takes seriously judgements based on appearance. Or someone who assumes everyone woman who is over a size 13 is lazy and eats badly. Or who assumes any girl who is thin has healthy eating habits: These are all habits that are intertwined with wieght and eating, and suitability for a mate.
It's not as easy, in the real world, as "food in must equal food out".
Many women are eating like this...and yet not thin. They are active, they are healthy, but they are stocky or curvy. So what? Their eating habits are good, they are active, they are not caught up on their looks, they probably are pretty, and they don't judge so much.
These women were often taller and/or broader as children, but also active for a girl (since, hey, they had the stanima and strength
) and healthy eaters. They grow up into...you guessed it...curvy, active, healthy women. The active size 13-18's unite!
(the same goes for men, although I guess the size would be 34 waist to 40 waist instead
, and without the curvy part)
However, there is a problem with overeating in the Western world...and just as bad, eating just enough to not gain wieght, but eating foods that are primarly low in the area of nutrition. But men and women seem to be equally falling to the disaster of having diets composed mainly of junk food. And on both sides, there is more at work than just the individual...there are so many sociological and psychological issues that go into the love of the bad and the hatred of the natural and good foods. A lifestyle change to eating more plant-based and less-over-processed foods may not bring drastic or quick wieght changes, but it will bring a healthier life overall.
And of course, there are the other issues of weight that factor in-for instance, does a person an illness that prevents them from being active, or that slows down their ability to burn fat? They still need to eat...and to get enough nutrients, they may need to eat more than they can burn easily. Does a person have a very bad emotional state that needs loving attention and care, not rudeness and judgement?
I would say that better indicators of a good parenting skills are:
-Does the person eat primarly a good variety of healthy foods, with indulegnces that are not full of guilt for "being bad", and stay active, regardless of being skinny, thin, curvy, stocky, or larger?
-Does the person refrain from making sweeping judgements?
-Does the person realize that healthy bodies can come in a variety of sizes?
-Does the person believe in loving and not judging?
-Is activity fun to them?
-Are activities of the mind fun to them?
-Do they refrain from worrying about food, and instead just eat well most of the time?
-Would they first rather love than judge?
