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I think you really just have to make a commitment to praying and reading the Bible everyday. This is hypocritical on my part because I don't do this. I know what I have to do in order to grow, but I don't do it. It's almost like exercise.

As far as churches go, a lot of people tend to shop for churches along denominational lines. For example, someone might have had a bad experience at a methodist church. Therefore, they don't like methodist churches so they never try other methodist churches. Churches differ on an individual basis just like people. So if you haven't been trying a certain denomination or a certain type of church and you haven't found one you like maybe you should start trying the ones you didn't think you would like with an open mind. That may or may not be the problem you are experiencing with finding a church you are comfortable with.

I'm very picky about churches which isn't a good thing. I've probably missed out on some really great churches. If somebody didn't shake my hand or smile at me or some other insanely dumb thing I wouldn't go back. Sometimes you just have to get over yourself and realize that a church you are too comfortable in may not be a suitable place to grow.

Of course those are from my experience and may not be applicable to you.
 
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lostinthought said:
I have been a Christian for almost 2 years, I haven't made many Christian friends, I haven't gotten comfortable with a church, I rarely pray and don't know what to say or feel like I am communicating well with God, What Do I Do?! :scratch:

I struggle off and on with prayer as well. What I have found though is it's a lot easier when I just talk to God as if He was a physical person standing right in front of me.

Share with Him how you feel during the day, include Him in your thought process. It doesn't matter that He already knows, He wants us to come to Him openly and honestly.

Talk to God about your desire for Christian friends. Let Him know what you want. Ask Him to guide you to the church He wants you to be nutured in, He will show you.

Don't beat yourself up, don't give up and know that it's an on going daily process.

God Bless!!!
 
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Hey:) It is a good thing that you have committed ur life to the Lord but now u must do what it takes to make ur relationship flourish with the Lord and to strengthen ur faith... in His word God says, that faith comes by hearing the word of God. so wat does that mean? God is telling us to read His word the bible to get His word sowen in our hearts....and by doing this we can know the promises that God has for us .....how he feels for us.....what he has done and is continusoully doing for us .....and this we way we can hold on to the promises of God and walk with Him knowing what we have in Christ Jesus. Still continue to go to church on sundays and do they have a wednesday bible study at ur church? check that out....and sometimes many churches have a fellowship for college youth ur age...where u can meet others who know what ure going through and what its like to get on ur feet after leaving ur parents house etc...ur church should have a bulliten they hand out describing such activities if and when they are available....also for other spiritual food there are many church services aired on tv that u can watch through the week....and most of all pray.....pray , pray..many struggles and trials will come ur way throughout ur walk but if u stay in prayer and in His word , you will be able to stand aganist the strongholds of the enemy . Pray for His guidance that His holyspirit might lead u....and that he will give u the desire to worship, follow, and obey Him. Godbless gurl and if u have anymore questions i would be glad to help . O-;-)
 
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lostinthought said:
I have been a Christian for almost 2 years, I haven't made many Christian friends, I haven't gotten comfortable with a church, I rarely pray and don't know what to say or feel like I am communicating well with God, What Do I Do?! :scratch:

The following link may be of help to you: http://www.bible-truth.org/NewConvertpage.html

God bless!
 
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Great advice Reyna . . . if only I could find a good church! We started going to one (my boyfriend and I) that had a good college group, etc. but we were unable to make good connections. We were sometimes very moved, but it was such a large fellowship that it was easy for us to slip in and out unnoticed - everyone already had close groups of friends.
 
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:wave: yea i also struggled with the same issue for a bit also cuz my church is also very large in number, i think numbering 2,000 plus in the congregation ...so my pastor has started "home groups"....idk if they have that at your church, but that is where they have small group leaders who will have bible and christian fellowship @ at their home usually containing 5 - 10 people which will provide oppurtunites for u to develop friendship swith other believers in a small homely setting....and also look at the buildup ur seating in ur congreation , obvisouly there is no seating arrangement in a church lol but in the sanctuary of my church there are three sections and 1 section the youth teens and the college youth have claimed as their own lol....so all their friends and the young people sit there.....and then ure always interacting wit the people that are in your youth group....but u may also have to check out a smaller church also but i will tell u the church congregations are starting to grow for various reasons .....but many pastors are starting programs to make the whole congreation feel comfortable and apart of the body.:thumbsup:
 
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The church we tried had 3 services - 2 regular services, and 1 directed towards younger generations. There were still some older people but there was a very large congregation of youth - which appealed to me. They also started a small group program but for the jr. high, high school, and college groups - their small group was just their usual age group. This still didn't work for me because the college group has 20-50 people in it and most of them already know eachother and when they do talk to me I am afraid to tell them the truth about my doubts and my sins . . .
 
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yea thats alil bit hmmmmm....i mean i would say for now...just to make sure that you are getting spiritually fed and ask God for the fellowship of other believers to come....but just keep on seeking God...about the whole doubt thing....remember that doubt is the enemy of faith....and that faith can not grow with doubt in your heart.....just step out in faith believing what God has for you and what he has said in His word....salvation is the certanity of your eternity of your salvation in Christ.:holy:
 
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