now what?

[Moonshade]

Well after sticking with my husband for 6 years (together for 9) and through his bouts of cheating he finally left me for one of my best friends. He walked out yesterday. I feell torn. Do I look forward to the time when he comes crawling back to me wether it is months or years or do I move on? I thrive too do what is right in God's eyes. I just do not know what to do right now.

 

[Chrystal-J]

I'm so sorry to hear that your husband hurt you so badly!
I was mistreated by my husband and I found that time and prayer were the only things to help. If you react too quickly, you may do something you regret later. After having some time to think things through--I was able to make a clear decision as to what I really wanted to do. Have you tried counseling?
I hope things work out for you soon!

 

[madison1101]

I think you need someone to talk to with whom you can sort out your feelings and thoughts about this. If you have insurance, I recommend seeing a therapist. If not, you may want to speak with your pastor, or ask your pastor for the name of a counselor that you can meet with.

It's okay to feel betrayed, hurt, angry, and cry. You would not be human if you did not experience a myriad of emotions over your husband's behavior.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[Moonshade]

We tried councling 2 weeks ago. My husband will not go again.

 

[car501]

Moonshade,I would say at this point,don't do anything. What I mean by that is don't make any big desicions right now. What your going through is a tough issue to have to deal with and it's hard to think straight when there's a lot of anger & hurt. Take care of yourself for now. Your husabnd walked out, so he's pretty much on his own. If you have counselors at your church, talk with them, even if your husband won't go, you go. If you don't have a church, find one. Pray, pray and pray again. God will open your eye's to what the right road for you to take is. It doesn't happen overnight,but surely as a lighthouse guides a ship to safety, God will show you what path to take.

 

[Svt4Him]

I am sorry. It may not feel great now, but I promise the hurt dies down after a while.

 

[madison1101]

We tried councling 2 weeks ago. My husband will not go again.

I meant for you to go to therapy or counseling alone, without him. YOU need help sorting this out. He obviously is not interested in the marriage, or working through things with you. You need help and support figuring out which end is up in your life.

Hugs,
Trish