My girlfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now. Recently (a little over 2 weeks ago) she broke up with me. She is going through a lot of stuff right now with her mom passing away at the beginning of the year, 2 miscarriages with in 4 or 5 months from one another, general other stuff. I have tried to be there for her as much as I possible can, even still. I am still very much in love with her, but I am not understanding what I can do for her. Her father and brother live near her but they two are going through some hard things right now. She also has a small cist on one of her ovaries, and a possibility of an anuerism (I know that isnt spelled right). The doctors arent for sure. They wanted to do a spinal tap on her to find out 100% but that scares her to death. Like we talked. If they mess up then she could become permanently paralized. Not only does she have all this on her plate, but she also has 2 small little boys. 4 and almost 2. Please pray for us and if anyone has any advice, I would greatly appreciate it.
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Not to sure of what to do.
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I don't mean to pry, but were her miscarriages due to relations with you? If so, this could me complicating your relationship with sin. I hope I am wrong, but it is something to think about.
It sounds like she has a lot of life issues to deal with. My suggestion is to not pressure her to work on your relationship with you right now, but help her focus on her relationship with the Lord. Point her toward Christ first and foremost.
It sounds like she has a lot of life issues to deal with. My suggestion is to not pressure her to work on your relationship with you right now, but help her focus on her relationship with the Lord. Point her toward Christ first and foremost.
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Yes the miscarriages happened while we were together. That is what I am doing right now. Just being there for her in any possible way that I can. She has already come back to the Lord since her mom passed away. There is just a lot of issues with her personally she needs to resolve. She admits to some of them but wont yet talk about them.
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First-I want to tell you that the death of a loved one, is extreemly hard on people, specially when it's a girls mom. She's going through all these medical issues and probably wishes her mom was there to help her through it! I'm sure she loves her dad & brother but they are not mom!
The medical issues she has though traumatic, I think are pretty common it women, a spinal tap is not that dangerous, I had one at 16 months old!
Be there for her! I know the break up is not what you want but be her friend let her know that you respect her wishes to break up but your still there for her & for her boy's!
I hope this helps some, and I'll be praying for you!
The medical issues she has though traumatic, I think are pretty common it women, a spinal tap is not that dangerous, I had one at 16 months old!
Be there for her! I know the break up is not what you want but be her friend let her know that you respect her wishes to break up but your still there for her & for her boy's!
I hope this helps some, and I'll be praying for you!
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I definiately agree and that is exactly what I am doing right now. Just being there for her as much as I possibly can. I know deep down she doesnt want this. I just know she wants to deal with this stuff before we carry on. She knows I will always be here for her no matter what.
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Did you know that God wants to make a trade with you? He has a standing offer every minute of every day and it's amazing how few of us actually take Him up on His offer. He wants you to give Him all your cares, your problems, and your failures. In return He will give you His peace and joy. On top of that, He promises to protect and take care of you.
God really does want to take care of us, but in order to let Him, we've got to stop trying to take care of ourselves and worrying about every little thing we can't control. Many people would like for God to take care of them, but they insist on worrying or trying to figure out an answer on their own, instead of waiting for God's direction. They wallow around in puddles of their own worry, wondering why God doesn't give them peace. God will give us peace, but we must first give Him our worries.
We give God our worries by trusting that He can and will take care of us. By trusting God, we are able to rest in Him, knowing that He has the situation well under control. Worry, on the other hand, is the opposite of trust. Worry steals our peace, wears us out physically and can even make us sick. If we are worrying, we are not fully trusting God, and we'll never be able to experience His peace.
What a great trade! We give God our worryHe gives us His peace. We give Him all our cares and concerns, and He gives us His protection, stability, and joy. That is the privilege of being cared for by Him.
Because He cares for us, He wants us to live in peace and not all tied up in knots of worry. He has ways of guiding us toward peace, if we are alert enough to sense His direction.
Imagine that you are driving down a road. Along the way, there are roadside signs that provide direction or give warning. If you pay attention to the signs and follow the words, you will be able to drive on that road and safely reach your destination.
In the same way, on the road of life there are spiritual signs along the way. In order to stay under God's protection, you must obey these signs that tell you to trust Him and not to worry. Don't be afraid, have courage. If you'll pay attention to these signs, you'll find that it's easy to stay on course. You will experience the protection, peace and joy that only God can provide.
However, if you fail to heed the signs, you may notice that the road seems a little bumpier than usual and you're not as confident in your ability as you once were. You may become anxious about the unknown things waiting around the corner, and you may even veer off the road.
Anxiety affects us like a double portion of worry. It's an uneasy feeling that lingers like a haze, even after we think we have dealt with it. Once we disregard the signs and go our own way, we are moving in the direction of fear--especially fear of tomorrow and fear of the unknown. The result is anxiety.
Anxiety is like putting on a heavy coat on a hot summer day. It weighs you down. It's difficult to move, and it's stifling to wear. According to Webster's Dictionary, anxiety is "a state of being uneasy, apprehensive, or worried...." Sometimes this uneasiness is really vaguesomething we just can't put our finger on. All we know is that we are uneasy.
You and I don't need to be anxious about tomorrow when we have all we can handle today. Even if we manage to solve all our problems today, we will just have more to deal with tomorrow...and even more the next day.
Why waste time worrying when it is not going to solve anything? Why be anxious about yesterday, which is gone, or tomorrow, which hasn't arrived yet? Trade your worries in today for God's peace. Remember, everything's going to be all right!
God really does want to take care of us, but in order to let Him, we've got to stop trying to take care of ourselves and worrying about every little thing we can't control. Many people would like for God to take care of them, but they insist on worrying or trying to figure out an answer on their own, instead of waiting for God's direction. They wallow around in puddles of their own worry, wondering why God doesn't give them peace. God will give us peace, but we must first give Him our worries.
We give God our worries by trusting that He can and will take care of us. By trusting God, we are able to rest in Him, knowing that He has the situation well under control. Worry, on the other hand, is the opposite of trust. Worry steals our peace, wears us out physically and can even make us sick. If we are worrying, we are not fully trusting God, and we'll never be able to experience His peace.
What a great trade! We give God our worryHe gives us His peace. We give Him all our cares and concerns, and He gives us His protection, stability, and joy. That is the privilege of being cared for by Him.
Because He cares for us, He wants us to live in peace and not all tied up in knots of worry. He has ways of guiding us toward peace, if we are alert enough to sense His direction.
Imagine that you are driving down a road. Along the way, there are roadside signs that provide direction or give warning. If you pay attention to the signs and follow the words, you will be able to drive on that road and safely reach your destination.
In the same way, on the road of life there are spiritual signs along the way. In order to stay under God's protection, you must obey these signs that tell you to trust Him and not to worry. Don't be afraid, have courage. If you'll pay attention to these signs, you'll find that it's easy to stay on course. You will experience the protection, peace and joy that only God can provide.
However, if you fail to heed the signs, you may notice that the road seems a little bumpier than usual and you're not as confident in your ability as you once were. You may become anxious about the unknown things waiting around the corner, and you may even veer off the road.
Anxiety affects us like a double portion of worry. It's an uneasy feeling that lingers like a haze, even after we think we have dealt with it. Once we disregard the signs and go our own way, we are moving in the direction of fear--especially fear of tomorrow and fear of the unknown. The result is anxiety.
Anxiety is like putting on a heavy coat on a hot summer day. It weighs you down. It's difficult to move, and it's stifling to wear. According to Webster's Dictionary, anxiety is "a state of being uneasy, apprehensive, or worried...." Sometimes this uneasiness is really vaguesomething we just can't put our finger on. All we know is that we are uneasy.
You and I don't need to be anxious about tomorrow when we have all we can handle today. Even if we manage to solve all our problems today, we will just have more to deal with tomorrow...and even more the next day.
Why waste time worrying when it is not going to solve anything? Why be anxious about yesterday, which is gone, or tomorrow, which hasn't arrived yet? Trade your worries in today for God's peace. Remember, everything's going to be all right!
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