So i have been married for a few years, he has cheated(doesn't know i know) i have cheated (he doesn't know) and i have gotten an abortion (he doesn't know) now going to church i wonder does my confession and begging for forgivness to God mean i have to tell my husband? will not confessing to him prevent me from going to heaven?
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Zaac
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Sweet mercy. Who told you that? The only thing that can keep you from not going to heaven is NOT accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
Jesus Christ was crucifed and resurrected on the third day so that all your sins could be forgiven and so you could then spend eternity in His presence.
Forgiveness is FIRST sought from God. And then you are to seek it from the one whom you have wronged.
Are you and your husband Christians?
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Don't be lurking waiting for me to post.
Hey, I meant it in a good way. It's a Christian asking for advice, I doubt my perspective is required here.
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Seriously though, it seems like you are really hurting over this. You mentioned you are attending a church, you could talk to your pastor about this.
There seems to be a deep betrayal of trust in your marriage and that will need to be repaired somehow for the marriage to last. I really hope you can mend that broken bond.
There seems to be a deep betrayal of trust in your marriage and that will need to be repaired somehow for the marriage to last. I really hope you can mend that broken bond.
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I understand that, I just wanted to know if i should tell him. He would never understand(not that he should) or forgive(not that he should) and has been violent in the past making me afraid to confess to him. I have prayed about it since, well not since it has all happened, but a really long time. I knew it was wrong, I knew it was horrible. I just don't know what to do now. I go to church, yes I try to live a healthy christian life, raise my child that way, we don't just go through the motions. But i am afraid that because of what i have done and not done on earth will affect my salvation. And i am not feeling the five year old thing where they are sorry cause they are in trouble thing, i mean i really feel awful about it.
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gwenmead
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Well... in similar circumstances, my first priority would be the safety of myself and any children. If I felt that telling my spouse of any infidelity on my part would bring violence upon me or my offspring, I wouldn't tell him, sheerly as a pragmatic thing.
Second priority would be the success of my marriage. It sounds as if there is a deep problem with trust in your relationship: neither one of you trusts the other, and neither is fully trustworthy. This can be repaired, with a great deal of honest hard work on the part of BOTH of you; but only you can judge whether or not your marriage can be saved, or should be.
As an atheist I can offer you no words on your salvation. I am far more concerned with learning how to get along in the here and now, with people that I know exist and with whom I have many different kinds of relationships. But I understand that you have a need for spiritual guidance. I would suggest speaking to a trusted religious counselor on that, if you haven't already.
In any case, good luck, and I hope you are able to find some much-needed relief.
Second priority would be the success of my marriage. It sounds as if there is a deep problem with trust in your relationship: neither one of you trusts the other, and neither is fully trustworthy. This can be repaired, with a great deal of honest hard work on the part of BOTH of you; but only you can judge whether or not your marriage can be saved, or should be.
As an atheist I can offer you no words on your salvation. I am far more concerned with learning how to get along in the here and now, with people that I know exist and with whom I have many different kinds of relationships. But I understand that you have a need for spiritual guidance. I would suggest speaking to a trusted religious counselor on that, if you haven't already.
In any case, good luck, and I hope you are able to find some much-needed relief.
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