- Aug 8, 2006
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Well, I am a member here at CF and am so beside myself with this situation I don't even know where to start. I have searched all over the internet for help and haven't really found anything that seems like really substantial help in this crisis. I am so over whelmed that I almost can't focus to read the information I need to start to get the help that I need.
So- this is my desperate attempt to start getting help for this problem that my husband has- I guess.
So- I met my husband thru a mutual acquaintance. Did not know him very long before we got sexually active, got pregnant 3 months into the relationship, got married 6 months in. I say all of this because it explains that I didn't know my husband well at all before we were in a married with child relationship.
Well, it turns out he was addicted to marijauna for 10 years... was drug tested postive and threatened he would loose his job so he quit. That was before we met. Turns out he would occassionally still smoke after that event.
The next addiction is computer gaming. A huge problem that absorbed most of our life for the first 2 years of our marriage. The problem is not quite as bad as it used to be but still not resolved.
NOW- I make a unannounced visit to our house (because his cell phone was off and I needed to tell him something) and I open the door to him sitting at the computer with the ULTRA hard core inappropriate content (that I already know he "used" to look at- but apparently not) and our 2 1/2 yo son in the same room with him.
I am livid. My mind is blown. I am beside myself. I am overwhelmed. I do not know that I can do this any more.
I don't know where to go. Who to talk to. We can't seem to find good counceling help or pastoral help. I believe God can help. I just don't know if I have the the strength to continue, to hang in there, to overcome this.
My husband said he felt terrible and embarassed. But has since gotten an attitude and isn't taking what I consider the necessary steps to remedy his ways.
And ultimately, I think all of this is just the tip of the ice berg. I think there is SO much more festering in my husbands "secret life" that I have not discovered yet.
I don't think I have the energy to go through this and also, I am so do NOT want to subject my son to this.
Any advice or help would be appreciated.
** To clarify, I have made similar posts regarding similar situations and have been criticised by other posters for various reasons.
Just to let you know, I WILL NOT TOLERATE THAT this time. I am here for help not insults.
God bless you and thank you for any loving input.
So- this is my desperate attempt to start getting help for this problem that my husband has- I guess.
So- I met my husband thru a mutual acquaintance. Did not know him very long before we got sexually active, got pregnant 3 months into the relationship, got married 6 months in. I say all of this because it explains that I didn't know my husband well at all before we were in a married with child relationship.
Well, it turns out he was addicted to marijauna for 10 years... was drug tested postive and threatened he would loose his job so he quit. That was before we met. Turns out he would occassionally still smoke after that event.
The next addiction is computer gaming. A huge problem that absorbed most of our life for the first 2 years of our marriage. The problem is not quite as bad as it used to be but still not resolved.
NOW- I make a unannounced visit to our house (because his cell phone was off and I needed to tell him something) and I open the door to him sitting at the computer with the ULTRA hard core inappropriate content (that I already know he "used" to look at- but apparently not) and our 2 1/2 yo son in the same room with him.
I am livid. My mind is blown. I am beside myself. I am overwhelmed. I do not know that I can do this any more.
I don't know where to go. Who to talk to. We can't seem to find good counceling help or pastoral help. I believe God can help. I just don't know if I have the the strength to continue, to hang in there, to overcome this.
My husband said he felt terrible and embarassed. But has since gotten an attitude and isn't taking what I consider the necessary steps to remedy his ways.
And ultimately, I think all of this is just the tip of the ice berg. I think there is SO much more festering in my husbands "secret life" that I have not discovered yet.
I don't think I have the energy to go through this and also, I am so do NOT want to subject my son to this.
Any advice or help would be appreciated.
** To clarify, I have made similar posts regarding similar situations and have been criticised by other posters for various reasons.
Just to let you know, I WILL NOT TOLERATE THAT this time. I am here for help not insults.
God bless you and thank you for any loving input.