Not really too confident anymore...

[King Serperior]

Eh, I used to be confident in the dating game, and I did have one girlfriend in the past (though that relationship went horribly wrong). Seeing as how I did succeed at least once, I thought I would get lucky again, but every girl I was interested in after that either already had a boyfriend, rejected me, or had no interest in dating after all.

That, and when the women rejected me, they were very nasty about it and said horrible things to me that I won't repeat.

Therefore, due to my terrible luck with romance, I was beginning to think that God had plans for me that could only be fulfilled if I was single. What I do want to ask is what might those plans be?

Don't get me wrong, I would like to meet the woman of my dreams one day and have a romantic relationship with her, but...what happened to me and the fact that no woman would ever want me are clear signs that it wasn't meant to be.

Anyways, as I was asking, what do you think God has in store for me seeing as how I'm a forever single guy?

 

[Jupiter Drops]

The fact that you did have a girlfriend in the past proves that there are women who do want to be with you, and perhaps those are the types of women you would want to be around with rather than those who act evil around you.

God doesn't ask much from us, other than harvesting his crops. Try using your time wisely by mediating and talking your frustrations out to God in a quiet room on your own. If you're already doing that, great.

There are women who think they're all that because a guy shows interest, but don't bother letting that get to you. It's not your fault, it's theirs.


Also remember to back off when a woman says "No." Don't bother asking the why's and the how's. Just walk away and carry on with your mission in life, which is to follow Jesus.

 

[King Serperior]

God doesn't ask much from us, other than harvesting his crops. Try using your time wisely by mediating and talking your frustrations out to God in a quiet room on your own. If you're already doing that, great.

I wasn't necessarily frustrated, I just wanted to know the reason behind this fate.

Also remember to back off when a woman says "No." Don't bother asking the why's and the how's.

I didn't, to be honest; I already knew why.

Just walk away and carry on with your mission in life, which is to follow Jesus.

Always, and speaking of which, it's possible that's why this is the fate that has been chosen for me.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

You know what they say: Love is a battlefield.
Like I said, those women don't sound like the kind of people you want to interact with.
I personally know this guy who is now afraid of approaching women he's interested in because he got burned badly before by this one woman in the past.
Just don't become that guy. You probably will meet someone. It takes time.

 

[King Serperior]

You know what they say: Love is a battlefield.

lol, not a very happy one either.

Like I said, those women don't sound like the kind of people you want to interact with.

I'm a bit surprised that anyone would interact with them.

Just don't become that guy. You probably will meet someone. It takes time.

In my case, I'm not afraid of approaching women, I simply don't bother. Facing so many rejections leads me to believe that this isn't worth my attention or effort, and it also leads me to believe that there's something about me that they don't like which I can't get rid of. Nobody knows what that particular trait is, and I don't either.

Therefore, it's just not worth my time. Obviously, if so many reject me, it's no coincidence at all. God himself must have had some reason for making me so undesirable to the opposite sex, and I want to know that reason.

 

[Hawthourne]

Somewhat similar, except different. I've only been in one relationship, but when that went sour I kinda lost my drive to try again. I am using my singleness to glorify God the best I can and to find contentment in that; having faith that, when His timing is right, God will set the necessary things in motion for me to have a family.

 

[King Serperior]

Somewhat similar, except different. I've only been in one relationship, but when that went sour I kinda lost my drive to try again. I am using my singleness to glorify God the best I can

That is possibly one of the reasons behind the future of a forever single person; to gain more devotion to God.

As I said, indefinite rejection is no coincidence. There is a reason behind this, and I want to see what people think this reason is.

 

[GQ Chris]

Maybe God wants to make you aware of any d-bag tendencies you may have; and part of His mercy is making you aware of that before he brings in the love of your life to you.

 

[Nanopants]

That is possibly one of the reasons behind the future of a forever single person; to gain more devotion to God.

As I said, indefinite rejection is no coincidence. There is a reason behind this, and I want to see what people think this reason is.

We know almost nothing about you (unless you go by another name).

Although, you seem to be very deterministic in your thinking since you're saying that this fate has been chosen for you. I've personally found deterministic thinking to be harmful to me, leading me to become more easily defeated and depressed, as though there's nothing I can do and every struggle I faced was directly from God.

You might want to reconsider, and another alternative is that God ordains choices, such that there is freedom within the bounds of His pre-determined will.

 

[bluegreysky]

Therefore, due to my terrible luck with romance, I was beginning to think that God had plans for me that could only be fulfilled if I was single. What I do want to ask is what might those plans be?

....

Anyways, as I was asking, what do you think God has in store for me seeing as how I'm a forever single guy?

Well how should I know? That's the fun of this whole "God works in mysterious ways" thing...
But I will say there is one book I keep thinking back to and referencing and that's "Kisses from Katie."
I've given a breakdown on a few other threads before but once more I'll summarize it into one sentence:
A girl leaves her comfy TN home, family and boyfriend behind to follow God's call for her to live in Uganda and love on little orphaned African babies
God planted that seed in her heart when she was young, and then gave her the opportunity to visit for a short-term class trip when she was a teen...and then grew in her an explosive love that drove her back to Uganda, at first for a year instead of starting college, but then ultimately He provided for her a home and the adoption of several orphans to come live in her home and he used her as a vessel to start an education program for many more kids and pretty soon, her life there was indefinite.
She had to cancel college and say goodbye to her beloved boyfriend but she was ultimately happier loving on those babies than living out a fairly predictable posh American life and only accomplishing a few worldly relationships and a college degree.

And I think that's the key right there...
You listen to God, tune into those feelings of pure delight in some opportunity you are given that's clearly for someone else and you know it's God working through you.
Then, when something tugs at your heartstrings and getting to do it falls into line, you will feel so very content and whole and happy and close to God, despite any bumps in the road, that you might not miss your ex's and "what could have been's" as much because of this all-consuming "other opportunity to love" that has nothing to do with romance.

 

[redblue22]

God's plan for you is to love and trust and depend on him. We are to love and forgive other people. God loves you.

 

[King Serperior]

As of today, after reading something disturbing, I'm fully thankful that I'm a forever single guy. At first all I had was theories, but as of a few hours ago, I know the exact reason God gave this luxury to me.

Another reason to love and appreciate God.

 

[Hawthourne]

I hope you can give glory to God as for why he has you where you are, just don't commit the sin of pride by assuming you have your whole life figured out yet. Things can change over the years

 

[ane88]

We may not know why right now. Everyday we learn something about being close to God and being far away from Him. It's a process that takes a lot of pieces to put together.