Not new but discouraged

[shamsweedo]

I have been part of this site since November, and though I am not able to login everyday, I do check-in as much as possible.
I love it here, if I ever have a prayer request this is one of the first places that I come, I love the openness and sense of community here, but I am having some issues.
When I try to "join in" on a thread, I feel like I am ignored. My post is simply passed over as if it is not even there. I have created a thread in the face the board(women) section twice and contribute to other's threads but can never seem to get a response. I am very careful to be considerate of other's feelings when I respond, so I am not sure why this is the case.
This may only be whining and my being overly sensitive, but I would really appreciate it if anyone has some insight on how I can be noticed??

 

[kahtar]

Well, I noticed you.
Actually, I have encountered the same thing. But I am new, so I thought perhaps that was the reason.
I know sometimes a person will go directly to the end of a thread and read the latest post, thereby missing a lot of stuff, so maybe that's what's going on.
Truthfully, tho, your guess is as good as mine. But hang in there. There are always people browsing the threads that never post, and receiving from you even though they don't say anything.

 

[Shubunkin]

I get ignored a lot. On the rare occasion I do get noticed, it feels really wonderful! Comments that are obvious to the others already will not be noticed as much as something that is fresh and different. I don't know how else to help you with this, but have patience! Sometimes people only respond to those who they are familiar with.

Welcome to CF!

 

[Shubunkin]

On a side note, I see you got a lot of reputation points already! Looks as though some people have noticed you. Have you seen their comments on the reps in your control panel?

Also, it helps to use a larger font... then you cannot be missed!! I tend to pass over the small fonts because they are so hard to read.

 

[shamsweedo]

very interesting

 

[Citizen of the Kingdom]

I think perhaps when you don't get a response it may be because you have said something that most would agree with. Maybe you could try stating your point and then asking for a response.

 

[Rut]

 

[hopperace]

I have been part of this site since November, and though I am not able to login everyday, I do check-in as much as possible.
I love it here, if I ever have a prayer request this is one of the first places that I come, I love the openness and sense of community here, but I am having some issues.
When I try to "join in" on a thread, I feel like I am ignored. My post is simply passed over as if it is not even there. I have created a thread in the face the board(women) section twice and contribute to other's threads but can never seem to get a response. I am very careful to be considerate of other's feelings when I respond, so I am not sure why this is the case.
This may only be whining and my being overly sensitive, but I would really appreciate it if anyone has some insight on how I can be noticed??

It does happen regularly as an aspect of the differences between 'in person' dialog and a 'community' discussion board. People don't mean any ill will by it.

It's like someone giving you eye contact or even a head nod, but your not being able to see it unless they direct a post to you. Someimes even when a lot of time and effort has been put into a post, and it's one which is very interesting, it may garner no visible reply for a variety of reasons. It's true that it may have been ignored even by people who should have noticed it, but it's just as likely that plenty of people have seen it (even many lurkers to the site), but for varying reasons may choose not to reply to it.

People don't always post thanks for blessings or reps either. And some post thanks by PM while others do it in public threads that aren't always seen by the person thanked. This doesn't mean the people aren't thankful and grateful, they simply may be doing other things at the same time or run out of time and forget about it later.

And someone may post in a public thread or a PM to a person who isn't able to read it for several days, and may somehow even miss it entirely.

It's all just part of the confusing nature of chat boards, where it can be hard to tell even where people are, even if the "Active Users Viewing This Thread" indicates the person is 'in' the thread.

I know it can seem like being invisible, but really it's just part of how these boards work, and it happens to each of us fairly regularly.

 

[squeak]

If you look at the statistics on the first page you will see currently we have :
Posts: 27,577,945
Members: 162,023
Threads: 3,423,438

and this is growing every day!! It is easy for people to skip over others...often not meaning to. I myself have experienced it. Some forums move so quickly as well that not everyone will get responses. Just keep being active where & when you can & don't worry about it; I'm sure it's nothing against you as a person!!

 

[ambassador4Christ]

I have been part of this site since November, and though I am not able to login everyday, I do check-in as much as possible.
I love it here, if I ever have a prayer request this is one of the first places that I come, I love the openness and sense of community here, but I am having some issues.
When I try to "join in" on a thread, I feel like I am ignored. My post is simply passed over as if it is not even there. I have created a thread in the face the board(women) section twice and contribute to other's threads but can never seem to get a response. I am very careful to be considerate of other's feelings when I respond, so I am not sure why this is the case.
This may only be whining and my being overly sensitive, but I would really appreciate it if anyone has some insight on how I can be noticed??

Hi shamsweedo!

Personally, I believe God will draw people to posts that will specifically speak to their need or situation. You never know who you may have helped even if you do not get a repsonse. Do not give up or lose hope here. Some other reasons given here are also sound as to why this happens.

 

[bfly]

The soul hardly ever realizes it, but whether he is a believer or not, his loneliness is realy a homesickness for God. -Hubert van Zeller

Hello and Welcome

We are proud you joined our family.
May your time here be spent well.

May all your questions be answered.
May support be found in abundance.

Please visit often and bring all your friends.

You will find the most wonderful refreshments provided free.

I pray your cup will be full and running over with:

Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness and faithfulness.

May the Grace and Mercy of our,
Lord, Jesus Christ
be with your spirit.
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[ArielHosanna]

I have been part of this site since November, and though I am not able to login everyday, I do check-in as much as possible.
I love it here, if I ever have a prayer request this is one of the first places that I come, I love the openness and sense of community here, but I am having some issues.
When I try to "join in" on a thread, I feel like I am ignored. My post is simply passed over as if it is not even there. I have created a thread in the face the board(women) section twice and contribute to other's threads but can never seem to get a response. I am very careful to be considerate of other's feelings when I respond, so I am not sure why this is the case.
This may only be whining and my being overly sensitive, but I would really appreciate it if anyone has some insight on how I can be noticed??

 

[worldwidewordfamine]

Hi!
I just joined today and I noticed your post and it looks like others did too .
Don't be so easily discouraged, just remember God Loves you!
God always notices you, and if you have asked for the Holy Spirit then He will teach all thing you need to know.
You don't need Man's Wisdom to answer your Questions.
Read Matthew 7:7 -

Ask , and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

The Bible doesn't say maybe it says IT SHALL!
Just don't GIVE UP!
Don't become weary and faint, trust in God, and Remember you can do all things through Christ!
(Assuming you are a TRue Believer)

I hope this helps you feel better, or helps someone, at least.

 

[DarkLegend28]

Oh I know what you mean. I, infact am never noticed, unless I offend someone... which happens a bit often, but oh well.

 

[shamsweedo]

Oh I know what you mean. I, infact am never noticed, unless I offend someone... which happens a bit often, but oh well.

haha
well, you've not offended me, yet. And you have been noticed. Mark that one down in the books. lol

 

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[pastel]

 

[mommavelvet]

Welcome!

 

[psalms 91]

welcome to cf

 

[Bro_Sam]

Welcome to CF. I look forward to seeing you around.