Not my type?

[BrokenDancer]

I have quite good ideas as to what I want in a guy:

1. Christian
2. Short hair (just a personal thing but really annoys me)
3. Someone I couldn't walk over so quite confident and older than me
(as well as all the usual; funny, kind, smart)

However I've been getting a tiny crush on this guy in my cell group. He has long hair, younger than me by a year and he's quite quiet. Should I quash this crush or wait and see?

 

[plum]

you'd avoid a potentially great guy because he's not arrogant or boisterously loud, a year younger than you, and you don't like his haircut?

 

[overit]

Wow, I'm picky in a ton of things, but hair length wouldn't deter me if I liked him

I've dated guys with long, short, buzzed, bald, balding, and a mix of all the above lol.

I wouldn't let "hair style" be a determining factor in dating a guy I liked.

On the age, again, maturity has nothing to do with age, though typically it may...also 19-20 is pretty much the same age.

Oh, there are drawbacks w/the guy being older to, I have typically dated older guys but there are some issues I have w/them in general.

 

[RonnyRulz]

If he's like any other guy in the world, I'm sure if he ends up liking you and you two get together, you can easily get him to cut his hair

hahahaha

Girls have such power over men.

 

[eugeneandbobo]

I have quite good ideas as to what I want in a guy:

1. Christian
2. Short hair (just a personal thing but really annoys me)
3. Someone I couldn't walk over so quite confident and older than me
(as well as all the usual; funny, kind, smart)

However I've been getting a tiny crush on this guy in my cell group. He has long hair, younger than me by a year and he's quite quiet. Should I quash this crush or wait and see?

yes quash the crush and get a new one on me...i'm all of the above

 

[eugeneandbobo]

was that a little to bold of me..?

 

[BoarderDave]

Nope.. sorry. I fit them better.. she wants older than her..

BrokenDancer; How you doin?

 

[RonnyRulz]

hahahaha, you guys are hilarious

You know she lives in england right? haha

 

[BoarderDave]

haha..

Yes.

 

[Annova]

Actually I do think you should pass him up. Find someone who fits your list.

Wondering though, what would happen if you found someone who ended up having longer hair? Would you lose him?

 

[RJB78]

Well, okay, here's the thing...

I concur with those who say you might be being a little too picky, especially about the haircut. BUT... what you have to do is ask yourself honestly, how big a deal are those other things to me?

Because if you think you could like this guy in spite of them, by all means, give him a chance. But if your heart's set on those other things, and you're only telling yourself to consider another type because that's what you think you "should" do... then you could end up leading the guy on, and that would be worse than not trying at all.

So... the question, as always, is: What do you really want from your guy, and can this fellow realistically offer it?

Good luck and God bless, whatever you do.

 

[eugeneandbobo]

hahahaha, you guys are hilarious

You know she lives in england right? haha

i love england...especially this time of year. i think its time to take a trip...

Nope.. sorry. I fit them better.. she wants older than her..

BrokenDancer; How you doin?

i am older than her...not as much as you grandpa...

 

[RonnyRulz]

Just like always, nobody has given the best advice you can get.

Pray about it and ask God about it. He alone knows the perfect answer to even the smallest of problem.
Bringing the small things to God is one way of how you truly get to know Him as more than just a God, but as a friend.
No man can help you make the right choice, give you the right advice, or tell you if this guy is worth it or just a waste of time. God knows though, and He knows fully and best.

What is our advice compared to His? What do we know compared to Him? Who wrote your life out before you were even born, us, yourself, or God? Whose wisdom is higher than HIS?

People need to stop giving their own advice or taking their own advice. God is here for a reason, and the small things of life is one of those reasons to seek Him more.
Get an answer from HIM. And only HIM. (If God uses a vessel to tell you, then that's fine, but only if the vessel knows the message is from God, or God tells you the message is from Him)

 

[BrokenDancer]

Thank you so much guys
I have been praying about it and I think I might just wait and see how things go.

And bless you guys fighting over me, lol! So sweet!

 

[BoarderDave]

i am older than her...not as much as you grandpa...

Hey.. you need to respect your elders sonny..

Dang whippersnappers, think they know everything.. with their rocking and rolling.. and their hippity hop music. *fist shaking*

 

[eugeneandbobo]

Thank you so much guys
I have been praying about it and I think I might just wait and see how things go.

And bless you guys fighting over me, lol! So sweet!

its my pleasure to fight over someone as beautiful as you...


and as for that socal washup...he's not worth your time.

 

[2LivIsChrist]

I would say pray about it and give him a chance. My courting with a guy that she thought she would never date. Her type is guys with a little bit of chub, and short curly hair. Well, that didn't happen; her boyfriend is skinny and has shoulder length straight hair. When she met her boyfriend, she only liked him as a friend. But, when she got to know him more, she started liking him, and then later on knew he was "the one." So, I don't think that hairstyle or age should be a factor.