Not marrying a sin?

MattMMMan17 · Jul 17, 2004

"My question is, would it be a sin to not get married because of the fact that you don't want kids? I want to become Catholic, and I know about contraception, and how it is a sin. So my question would be if I choose not to get married because I don't want kids, would that be a sin?" - a friend

So, a friend asked me this today and I told her about NFP and the openness to children in marriage, but her real question at its core is , is it a sin to NOT marry just because you don't want children? In all honesty I couldn't really give her the Catholic position on this, which is what she wants (She wants to come home!). She'll be checking in on this thread for your responses, thanks all!

Aaron-Aggie · Jul 17, 2004

Some people are called to ramin un marryed and chaste for their entire lifes.

Now wether or not that is this person calling or if it be a sin is a hard thing to tell and one best desterned through prayer and spirtual advice.

Rember even becomeing a priest could be a sin.

MattMMMan17 · Jul 17, 2004

Aaron-Aggie said:
Rember even becomeing a priest could be a sin.

Great, just great. WAY to cast doubts on my vocation, buddy!

stray bullet · Jul 17, 2004

I think the issue is why DON'T they want to?

As I recall people here saying, you should either raise a saint or be one yourself. I wonder if they feel called not to have children, or what? Hmm.

Aaron-Aggie · Jul 17, 2004

MattMMMan17 said:
Great, just great. WAY to cast doubts on my vocation, buddy!

Well are you becoming a priest out of pride or greed or othe semmler thing or you doing it out of love and humility?

ukok · Jul 17, 2004

Well, i think that your friend may feel differently about their objections to parenthood when they fall head over heel's with the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with...i was never a 'baby person'..in fact, i got baddly bitten by both a dog and a baby when i was young, i vowed to have neither, and then i had a houseful!

Perhaps the sin would be not marrying someone that God led them to, if the person desired to start a family with her, after marriage...would she be prepared to deny God's will for her life or would she only date a man who like her, didn't want to have children.

Being closed to the will of God is a sin, after all.

stray bullet · Jul 17, 2004

ukok said:
Being closed to the will of God is a sin, after all.

Hopefully, quite a forgivable one though.

Aaron-Aggie · Jul 17, 2004

stray bullet said:
Hopefully, quite a forgivable one though.

all is forigavable except for not accepting the forgivenes

ukok · Jul 17, 2004

stray bullet said:
Hopefully, quite a forgivable one though.

Hopefully... if we are repentant, but for those who remain resolutely sinful so as to blindly obey their personal will as opposed to the will of God...i don't see it

stray bullet · Jul 17, 2004

Aaron-Aggie said:
all is forigavable except for not accepting the forgivenes

Yeah, won't go into it, but God certainly seemed to need to knock me upside the head on that one.

Aaron-Aggie · Jul 17, 2004

stray bullet said:
Yeah, won't go into it, but God certainly seemed to need to knock me upside the head on that one.

The imporant thin is that you finnaly got it

Lifesaver · Jul 17, 2004

No, it is not a sin to remain unmarried.

In the past it was not uncommon for there to be already old unmarried women, usually very religious too.

JeffreyLloyd · Jul 17, 2004

MattMMMan17 said:
"My question is, would it be a sin to not get married because of the fact that you don't want kids? I want to become Catholic, and I know about contraception, and how it is a sin. So my question would be if I choose not to get married because I don't want kids, would that be a sin?" - a friend

So, a friend asked me this today and I told her about NFP and the openness to children in marriage, but her real question at its core is , is it a sin to NOT marry just because you don't want children? In all honesty I couldn't really give her the Catholic position on this, which is what she wants (She wants to come home!). She'll be checking in on this thread for your responses, thanks all!

Matt. 19:29 - Jesus says that whoever gives up children for the sake of His name will receive a hundred times more and will inherit eternal life. Jesus praises celibacy when it is done for the sake of His kingdom.

1 Cor 7:7 - Paul also acknowledges that celibacy is a gift from God and wishes that all were celibate like he is.

Benedicta00 · Jul 17, 2004

Strange, I was asked the same question in a PM last night.

Rising_Suns · Jul 17, 2004

MattMMMan17 said:
"My question is, would it be a sin to not get married because of the fact that you don't want kids? I want to become Catholic, and I know about contraception, and how it is a sin. So my question would be if I choose not to get married because I don't want kids, would that be a sin?" - a friend

In many cases, to not want children means you are called to have them.

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