not being attracted to someone because of race is racist or wrong?

[ReformedChapin]

I have a friend who is hispanic like myself and we were discussing this very briefly. Is not being attracted to a specific race for example he likes white, asian and hispanic girls but he isn't attracted to african american girls wrong? Is this infact racism? He holds nothing against them, hes just not attracted to them so he has no reason to date them. I didn't know what to say to him considering I never thought about a race. What do you guys think? Remember he has nothing against them because of their skin color. He has never said anything bad against them hes one of the nicest christians guys I know. He's just not attracted to them.

 

[Treasurer]

Only the person themselves can truely know what is in their hearts (and God of course). I believe racism to be hatred. So you have to look within yourself and see why.

(*But looking at anyone can be a two edged sword . Make sure to put on your full armour of God ).

 

[BushwigBill]

I don't think it's racist. Some people find certain body shapes or complexions or hair colours or various other things more attractive than others. I guess race determines most of those. I don't think that's really discrimination.

 

[Harlan Norris]

I have a friend who is hispanic like myself and we were discussing this very briefly. Is not being attracted to a specific race for example he likes white, asian and hispanic girls but he isn't attracted to african american girls wrong? Is this infact racism? He holds nothing against them, hes just not attracted to them so he has no reason to date them. I didn't know what to say to him considering I never thought about a race. What do you guys think? Remember he has nothing against them because of their skin color. He has never said anything bad against them hes one of the nicest christians guys I know. He's just not attracted to them.

I suppose it could be deemd racism.But one thing I have learned is no one comes without friends and family.Maybe he is not prepared to deal with the issues he will shurely face,not just with her friends and family but his also.If he was to make a point of dateing an african american,that would seem just as wrong if race was the only consideration.

 

[ub4me]

As far as being racist, I don't think so....
Just as when we choose our clothes, and paint colors...we all have different taste in what is attractive to us.
But though attraction is good...it is what is on the inside, that truly makes someone beautiful.
I have seen beautiful people with nasty attitudes...and it makes them ugly
And plain people with sweet and kind dispositions...that made them beautiful

 

[undecided]

i agree with most of the above posters hey....
i think its just expressing what your attracted to

but it should be easy enough to be friends with anyone ( :

 

[allieisme]

I dont think being or not being attractive to someone is racist.. I think only if you talk about them in a derogitory way would be considered racist.
Does that make sense?

 

[A2597]

I don't see that as being racist, just a part of personal preferance. I have a couple african american friends, but I'm not physically attracted to them, but none of them would consider me racist for it.

 

[~Nikki~]

I don't see it as being racist.

If a guy generally preferred brunettes to blondes, would that make him a blondist???

It's all just down to personal preference...

 

[ephraimanesti]

This is a rather strange question, to say the least. i think that attraction is a function of the flesh, while racism is a disease of the spirit. Attraction is physical and has to do with our personal preferences--i am, for example, attracted more to strawberry ice cream than to chocolate. Racism, however, is a belief that one person is better than another--like me stating that strawberry is the only ice cream people should eat and that anyone who likes chocolate is morally inferior or mentally defective in some way. Stupid analogy, i guess, but hopefully it is clear.

FEELING STUPID FOR GETTING INTO THIS,
ephraimanesti

 

[Victory of the Cross]

I dont think being or not being attractive to someone isn't racist.. I think only if you talk about them in a derogitory way would be considered racist.
Does that make sense?

 

[beehoney]

I wouldn't say that he is racist just on that basis. Attractions are born of complex subconscious desires which we don't fully understand.

 

[Ann Doupont]

I have a friend who is hispanic like myself and we were discussing this very briefly. Is not being attracted to a specific race for example he likes white, asian and hispanic girls but he isn't attracted to african american girls wrong? Is this infact racism? He holds nothing against them, hes just not attracted to them so he has no reason to date them. I didn't know what to say to him considering I never thought about a race. What do you guys think? Remember he has nothing against them because of their skin color. He has never said anything bad against them hes one of the nicest christians guys I know. He's just not attracted to them.

I wouldn't consider that racist. God gave us eyes and desires. I'm not especially attracted to men who are very short, or very thin, or bald. That doesn't make me prejudiced toward them, but I wouldn't want to marry someone I'm not at all attracted to.

Ann

 

[simpletrust]

Nah, not racist. We can't help what we find physically attractive anyway. I mean, if I said I found myself more attracted to blondes than brunettes, am I hairist? Or if I tended to like taller people am I heighist?

 

[truezeta]

Nothing wrong with having a preference.

 

[GoldenTruth]

There is nothing wrong with having preferences. However, I think that preferences have the ability to rule out people that could be good friends. I have seen it happen to a friend of mine. It's not that this person does not like a certain group of people. I just see that her preferences hinder her ability to befriend certain people. It's not being racist however I do think that preferences can cause barriers.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

No, it is not racism.

Main Entry: rac·ism
Function: noun
1 : a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race
2 : racial prejudice or discrimination

Webster's

DIANE

 

[BOJAX]

Maybe he's not fond a a certain trait or stereotype that is common in black women? Some black guys aren't attracted to black girls. I don't mean to generalize but is usually the ones who feel that black women are too judgemental and non accepting, understanding. Based on the way they are portrayed on TV and films as being really tough, unreasonable, with big egos and attitudes.

 

[SpeakLife329]

yeah like the others said ..it's about preference ...you may not think a certan person is attracive and they just might be that african american, asian whatever...doesnt' matter we all are attracted to certain people.no big deal


blessings
Kimberly

 

[Sketcher]

Not racism, just physical preference. I mean, you could say "I don't like redheads" but that can't be racist. Generally, I like certain races and looks better than others, but there's always an exception to the rule.

Maybe he's not fond a a certain trait or stereotype that is common in black women? Some black guys aren't attracted to black girls. I don't mean to generalize but is usually the ones who feel that black women are too judgemental and non accepting, understanding. Based on the way they are portrayed on TV and films as being really tough, unreasonable, with big egos and attitudes.

That's more personality and culture than race. It's the ghetto subculture that turns me off, and I've seen plenty of non-blacks exhibit that.