If a should is required than it is a must.
Um, it isn't a "should", then. "Should"s are conditional. If they're required they're required
in order to or prerequisite to or in consequence of another condition. That condition being universal, they would be "is".
There are things that will happen and there are thinks that should happen, but are there thing that must should happen?
Sure. Why would someone tell us to do something that must happen, though?
I am in full agreement with: everything God does being consistent. I do not have any issue with the God of the Bible being: able to do all things that are possible to do, having all knowledge that can be known, being totally just, being righteous, being sovereign and having selfless/agape/Godly Love.
The problem only occurs if you say: God is self seeking.
Ps 91:14, Is 42:8, 43:7, Is 52:5-6, Jr 7:12, 34:15,16, Ez 20:9,14,22, Mal 1:11.
There is a great deal of design work in each individual, including the design of just the right free will in order to allow the individual to accept or reject Gods Love and the free will needed to Love like God.
Find a Scripture that says so. It's simply not the case that each person is tuned to have "just the right free will" for allowing the individual to be the critical component in accepting or rejecting God's love.
Paul did want to do what he was doing, when he found out about coveting?
Yes. He was simply doing as he wanted, until he found out differently. Then he pressed up against his own inability to avoid coveting, even knowing it was wrong.
Could a sovereign ruler that did not want to remove the free will from his subjects still be sovereign and the subjects have free will?
The issue's an ambiguity in the term "free will". But now, certainly, a sovereign ruler can permit free will.
A creator of that will cannot create something independent of his creation, no.
How does this relate to discipline?
Discipline is a redeeming action. Punishment need not be, it need only be a just action.
Is Gods Love (agape) not defined by Christs words and actions?
All His actions, sure.
How was Christ self seeking?
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He came to His own", He did what would ultimately end in His Personal glorification, He claimed special relation to God in ways that scandalized people who would reject the idea out of hand.
We seem to agree that we are to be selfless, so if Christ was selfish or self seeking is Christ a poor example and one we should not follow?
No. We operate in a different status from Christ, the Son of God. I can't heal paralytics. Can you? If so, I have a list ....
The Bible defines agape or Godly type Love even without using Christ, so where does it say Gods Love is different from these definitions of Love that define it as selfless?
To demand absolute selflessness is well beyond the terms defining agapae love.
Christ could have portrayed the father in the story of the prodigal son anyway he wanted, but to portray him as being like the best earthly example He could (not to mislead us or deceive) of an earthly representation of God as father, Jesus presents a very unique father especially for that time. Does Christ do an excellent job of presenting Gods Love in the unconditional, selfless Love of the Father?
I assert that's not exactly what even this parable displays on an absolute scale. In the parable, whose inheritance is the father using to lavish on the younger son? Is that selflessness?