Normal Guy Behavior?

[coolbeans]

My boyfriend tells me about his conversations at work, some of which are with women and the topic is joking about sex. Not about them together but just stupid jokes in general. He doesn't do it around me because he knows I would not appreciate it. He says everyone does this, even at work, and it shouldn't bother me.

Is this normal? Does everyone other than me engage in such conversations with coworkers (particularly of the opposite gender)? They have asked him about details about what we do or do not do together and he refuses to share anything but will engage in other related discussions.

 

[waxlion10]

Normal? Maybe.
Respectful? No.
It doesn't matter if everyone else does it. If it bothers you, he should respect you enough to cease such conversations. If he's unwilling to do so, he will disrespect you in other areas in your life.

 

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General joking is normal. Personal details aren't.

 

[peanutbutter12]

General joking is normal. Personal details aren't.

Agreed, especially for males. If he's not discussing his own personal experiences or including you in this, I see no disrespect to you as long as he doesn't do it around you if you've asked him not to.

 

[Luther073082]

This is why I don't like to spend my time with groups of a bunch of people who are all of the same sex.

With a bunch of guys the jokes often become just crass, graphic, and/or inappropriate and I don't like them at all.

With a bunch of women the same thing happens but in a different way.

Its interesting how among a bunch of people all of the same sex, no matter how much the people don't know eachother, there is a comfort talking about certain topics that in the presence of someone of the opposite sex (no matter how well they know them) certain topics arn't discussed.

 

[peanutbutter12]

Its interesting how among a bunch of people all of the same sex, no matter how much the people don't know eachother, there is a comfort talking about certain topics that in the presence of someone of the opposite sex (no matter how well they know them) certain topics arn't discussed.

You've obviously never been a stagehand or worked on shows before.

There is no such thing as sexual harassment where I work.

 

[explodingboy]

From my experience it is certainly normal. If he isn't sharing personal information about you and him, and is staying strictly in the sense of joking among friends and co workers, I'm inclined to agree with him that you shouldn't let it bother you.

If such talk between you and your Bf is upsetting, its highly likely that everyone else realizes this and therefore won't talk to you about/concerning it. Also just to add, the office where my fiance works does this too, and its is far from normal guy behavior its perfectly normal for the ladies too.

 

[The Nihilist]

Sex is hilarious. Get over it or adopt 5 cats and live alone the rest of your life.

 

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Sex is hilarious. Get over it or adopt 5 cats and live alone the rest of your life.

Where were you 14 years ago?

(That probably needs some explantion, I have eight kids and the oldest I'm guilty of is 13)

 

[The Nihilist]

Where were you 14 years ago?

(That probably needs some explantion, I have eight kids and the oldest I'm guilty of is 13)

You should probably think about getting a hobby

 

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You should probably think about getting a hobby

I have one. Check out my post count.

No new kids in the last few years,