Non Christian SO?

[Songspinner]

Anyone else in a relationship with a non-christian? If so, How do you deal with it and how does he take it that you are?

 

[Iggster]

Some may take it for what it is, some may not.....But my toughest battles when it came to my spiritual life was being with a non-christian g/f. There are some things we consider sin and would not partake in, which to them, is not sin; thefore, it's totally deplorable.

Picture yourself on top of the table and he's down there. Which is easier? To pull him up? Or for him to pull you down?

 

[Cherub8]

I wouldn't want to base our relationship on anything other than our mutual faith. Thus, I wouldn't ever get involved with a non-Christian. I do not see what the value would be in having such a relationship.

Also, think of the kids. My mom married a non-Christian, and while he is saved now, we all had to pay the penalty for his lack of spiritual leadership. I would not want my kids to be raised by a non-Christian woman. An important role of parents is to teach their kids to love God -- how could a non-Christian do that?

Those are my thoughts.

 

[TJMan2050]

I agree with you Cherub, with me and my SO, one of the most important things is the fact that we are both christians, albeit we haven't yet made it into the full swing of things, perspective on life is radically different so a lot of the things I mention or say would be considered ludacris (don't know how to spell it) and so things just wouldn't work out.

 

[Cherub8]

Exactly. I do not see how I could fall in love with a non-believer, or be intimate (spiritually, emotionally, physically) with her. It just wouldn't work.

My ex-SO is a God-fearing girl. God did not intent for her and I to be together yet she did paint a portrait of the kind of lady I want to marry. I still love her, pray for her, and I adore her in every possible sense of the word -- and that love is based on who she was as a fellow believer. I simply cannot imagine it being any other way.

 

[TJMan2050]

Yes I definitly agree, even if you aren't meant for each other, you can still love her, and pray for her as a sister in christ, it maintains unity in the body of believers

 

[Chajara]

My boyfriend's not a christian... but I believe that he's the one God's given to me. So, I'm thinking that either he might eventually become a Christian, or if not God will work things out some other way. I have faith in both of them, and I love my boyfriend with everything I have.

 

[loved]

My boyfriend's not a christian... but I believe that he's the one God's given to me. So, I'm thinking that either he might eventually become a Christian, or if not God will work things out some other way. I have faith in both of them, and I love my boyfriend with everything I have.

Be careful............. God clearly says in corinthians not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers.

Why go against that?


It doesn;'t make sense.

 

[hugnluvable]

My boyfriend's not a christian... but I believe that he's the one God's given to me. So, I'm thinking that either he might eventually become a Christian, or if not God will work things out some other way. I have faith in both of them, and I love my boyfriend with everything I have.

I can agree with you on that one. I've had debate after debate on this one on CF and have come to the same conclusino as you Chajara!

I know God will work things out the way HE wants them to. And I know that I'm learning everyday through my relationship with my boyfriend.

Erica
xxx

 

[Cherub8]

I do not believe it's wise to marry a non-believer. He will not be able to properly lead you nor the family you have together. I know this from experience, because my dad wasn't a Christian until I was 16. The family has paid for his inability to provide spiritual guidance.

Please consider what I've said.

 

[PurpleBunny]

I am the same way as you, Chajara and hugnluvable. Through much exposure to the Word and much prayer on the part of my family, my fiance has changed from being a devout atheist to an agnostic who is pretty sure that Christianity has got it right but doesn't want to be pushed into anything--however, he believes it's right enough that if my pastor gives us a hard time during premarital counseling, Chris will convert to Christianity. A year ago he would not have said that--it's very exciting to see God working in his life!

 

[Larry Chi Sing Lai]

Just have a principle in my mind that you can have a relationship with someone until he or she is willing to accept God as his/her Lord in his/her life. That's because the Love is patient and you can wait the true love that the Bible tells us very very often.

That's I think we can deal with 'the situation' easily.