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[luv4godremains]

I begin to wonder, is it any question that I can't be bothered to stop when I have no support at home, mum just shouts at me when she sees anything that remotly resembles me cutting, it's really bugging me now, if she saw, she would flip and probly send me to the doc again!
I'm getting really sick and tired of this now! any one got any ideas how I could get her to understand, I've tried talking to her, tried telling her how I feel and why, but nothing seems to work!
please, I need help, I'm really hanging onto threads now, threads that may break soon! I don't know how much longer this is gonna keep me! please, someone help me find a way to make her understand!

 

[catgarden]

Hi,
I am sorry to say that there really is no way to make her understand. Unless you want her to stop caring! I can almost guarntee that she freaks out because she cares! I used to have the same problem, I quit doing what I did and she started to understand!! Try to stop please !!!

Sincerly
Julie

 

[luv4godremains]

I have tried to stop, but it's soooooooo hard, I can't see any way out anymore.my past catches up on me, the things I sis and what others did to me, everytime, and it crashes my attempts because I don't know any other way to deal with things!I have councellors and psychiatrists to see in like 6 months, but untill then, this seems to be what's keeping me going now!
thanks, I guess I'll just have to deal with it and put up with it for now, I mean my mum, I won't stop trying tho, I jst wish she wouldn't shout at me for it! I sopse I only have a year left till I move away from college!
thanks

 

[raihna]

lean on God...............with all your heart

 

[TheMainException]

Sometimes the only way is something drastic.....but I don't suggest that....I suggest that you get her to go with you to a counselor or such so that s/he can sort of moderate between the two of you so that you can explain it all.....you can write her a letter...but it won't be as effective. If you don't have the money....there are places you can go.... but I suggest calling some numbers in your area to find someone who can help you with this...maybe a 1-800 number? I don't know where there are any...but I KNOW there are a bunch on this site....somewhere....talk to Erwin or one of the other big wigs on the site and see what can be done to get some numbers or places to help with this.

much love, Lauren

 

[Cat59]

http://www.nshn.co.uk/about.html
This is a link to a UK based organisation- you could try looking at it and seeing if there's anything for you locally
Can you talk to your school nurse or (as school's nearly over for the summer) go to see the nurse at your GP's, sometimes they can help as well. Especially if you feel your waiting too long to see someone to talk to about this, the nurse may be able to help hurry the appointment along for you.

 

[pockleberry]

keep chatting to the ppl who care about u

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Well, stop and try to look at things from her point of view.
I don't know your mom. But I do know that her daughter, you, is cutting herself.
A parent is protective of their children. Seeing your self-inflicted wounds I'm sure creates a conflict and confusion in your mother's mind that I can't even understand.

Her first reaction is going to be to freak out. You have to put up with that. If you can't get past the freaking out part, then you'll never get to the dialogue that can come after.

Counseling. For both of you. Learn to communicate with one another and learn what things may be preventing that from happening.

 

[luv4godremains]

well, I was gonna chat to her again about it, but before I even said I wanted to talk to her, she turned around to me and said that if she thought I was still cutting, or even had the slightest hint from someone, that she would phone the clinic and tell them I'd tried killing myself! argh, I dunno how to deal with this stuff, all I want is to be able to tell my mum what's goin on, but she sez I close myself off, is it really any wonder when she overreacts so much/ this is only a little of it, and I just can't trust her!