NO Romance

[latteda]

. Secondly, whenever he makes ANY little effort (even the little things, holding doors open...even a tiny-bit-thoughtful christmas gift or something 'expected' like this) praise him for it. Let him know TRULY how much it means when he does the little things for you. Find out his love language, and reciprocate to ANY sort of romantic gestures he makes with a response in his love language (if he's anything like most men, that would be "words of affirmation" and "physical affection")

Good advice.

My fiancé offered to take me to a chick flick the other day. And he at least semi enjoyed it. I laid it on really thick, and even the next day I told him how much I appreciated it and how much it had meant to me. It made him really happy to know that such a little thing had made me so happy.

I don't know about the OP's fiancé, but if he is a decent guy he will want to make you happy. Sometimes it might be easy for us to assume that the lack of romance means he doesn't care, but sometimes it means that he just doesn't understand the importance of it. My fiancé is extremely logical, so it's been hard for him at times to lay that aside to do something that doesn't make sense to him. All of that to say, don't assume that when he resists your hints about romance that means he doesn't love you. Maybe he just truly doesn't understand why it is so important to you. There are some rare gems out there that grew up enjoying romantic affection, but for a lot of men, romantic expression doesn't come naturally.

 

[RuthD]

The last man with whom I had a serious relationship was romantic. I came to find out he had an extraodinary bad drinking problem. He got really mean with me and I had to bow out. He was the only man who was romantic and I loved it. I still look back and enjoy the good memories.

 

[YoDude]

I don't like hugs (most of the time).

I don't like Romantic comedies.

I don't like mushy sentiments.

But, I do love my wife, and I do get the cards and gifts, if it is important to her, it is important to me. Don't give up your need for these things, take an apologetic posture and explain your needs to him; If this guy can't get with the program then you got a lot of training to do, that does not mean the marriage won't work, but your patience may be tried as you attempt to change him.

He is just being lazy, that line he says is bogus, does this guy not know how to keep a woman, tell him to go get some flowers.