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Eh? You did me a disservice with that cherry-picking quotation and the preachy response following after.
I wasn’t speaking to you directly. The you was figurative.
What is your biggest deal-breaker when it comes to
relationships?
What about alcohol and cigarettes?I mean, shouldn't the first answer for everyone just be, if they're not a believer of God?
After that, then, Faithfulness, Morality, Doesn't use any drugs including pot, would never have an Abortion. I'm a Conservative that lives in a very liberal state, so I'm screwed in general. lol.
I was in a long term relationship that started within weeks of 9/11/2001. We both lived in the DC metro area. It fell apart, then irreversibly split during the Great Financial Crisis. She wanted to marry, I did not. My loneliness comes and goes. Six years ago I moved to a 55+ community. I heard a woman’s welcome at a community function and decided to try online dating. I wrote to, called and met women in person, at a Starbucks, or waterfront seafood restaurant. Two came to my home for lunch. I visited one who had children at home. That lasted a year or two. One on disability wrote to me once in awhile asking if I was interested in marriage. I wrote back, “No.” I am only interested in friendship. This past year or two she wrote she found someone who wants to marry her. She must have written to a lot of men. I broke my hip and am not attending social functions as the surgery was not successful. I use a walker with wheels in my home and crutches for stairs. I had a homecare worker clean once a week. Celibacy seems logical to me. I have been in this way a long time. Paul preached against premarital sex (fornication). Part of Deuteronomy has warnings against perversion. I use online groups for fellowship and have family yet alive. We met several times a year. We called each other nearly once a week. God found things for me to do. I like Jesus.I’ve been walking with the Lord for 13 yrs now and I can say that I’ve learned if my Spirit is grieved consistently by someone I can’t continue on. I will give them a chance (they have to be a believer though- I’m done evangelical dating!) I’m learning that the more I walk w Christ the more discerning I’m becoming and I’m more blessed alone with Him than with someone and my Spirit grieving. At 52 I still believe He is preparing the one He has for me in order to walk our days out glorifying Him and doing His work, but if not, He is my forever true Love and I’ll get on just fine without an earthly love. Now that’s hard to say in the lonely times but I’m done doing things in my own strength and will. This has to be done by Him.
Just saw this thread and I enjoyed reading you people's standards. The biggest for me is that he is a Christian(of course)and that he has a bigger heart and vision for missions work than I do.What is your biggest deal-breaker when it comes to
relationships?
I've had my share of relationships before coming to the LORD and none of them were blessed.a lot of you are instantly rejecting the idea of being with an unbeliever. Perhaps you are not seeing an opporunity to witness or plant fruit per say in someone's life? Unbelievers are often people who are mad at God, not truly denying his existence. (This has been my experience). Perhaps a believer reels in and saves an unbeliever allowing them to become born again and having a great amount of trust and faith in you. My mother's friend did this. She married an athiest and they are still together 45 years later and ran a Christian academy together before retiring. He obviously became born again and look what that turned into. I understand most of you all's position though. From a short thought, it seems a bad idea.
That is an awesome story. Its proof that God is good.a lot of you are instantly rejecting the idea of being with an unbeliever. Perhaps you are not seeing an opporunity to witness or plant fruit per say in someone's life? Unbelievers are often people who are mad at God, not truly denying his existence. (This has been my experience). Perhaps a believer reels in and saves an unbeliever allowing them to become born again and having a great amount of trust and faith in you. My mother's friend did this. She married an athiest and they are still together 45 years later and ran a Christian academy together before retiring. He obviously became born again and look what that turned into. I understand most of you all's position though. From a short thought, it seems a bad idea.
That is an awesome story. Its proof that God is good.
I feel strongly convicted from certain verses in the Bible that I should not enter into a romantic relationship with an unbeliever. I live in an unreached area in Europe so all my friends are non Christians. I love these friends so much but am unwillingly to enter into a romantic relationship with them. I hold to this conviction not just because the Bible teaches us to be equally yoked but also because God is the love of my life and my defining characteristic. I need someone who can understand this side of me and resonate with my love and desire for God. Does this make sense?
God bless
Yeah, I agree with that. Building a loving, trusting, friendship can be so important to establish before stepping into sharing the gospel. And even if they reject the gospel I think it is still very important to keep up a loving friendship with them because we never know how God will use us in their life in the future.I certainly agree. Perhaps a way to go about this would be to pursue friendship first, become committed with the future intent of romance and possibly marriage and during that time before, allow them to gain your trust and understanding and let you show them in a non-confrontational way how good God is and perhaps then, they may come to an understanding and choose to walk the same path as you.
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