No longer want to be bi

[Kusanagi]

I have looked in an article that there is a possibility to change one's orentation. I am still a closet bi and dont wish to come out anytime soon. Eversince I have rediscovered God, I felt that I do not want to embrase my bisexuality and want to be streight.

I just find myself as an abomination in the eyes of God for being bi. I find this being a struggle in my own path to reverting back to christianity. I have hope that God would help me become streight.

I was a bit hesitant on posting this because I am afraid of being juudged because of my oriantation and my desire to change it.

 

[Kutl3ss]

I don't think people will judge you. Just hope that God will help you in becoming straight.

 

[styl]

i am not a great expert in this stuff.but anyway...
"your thougts will become words;words will become actions;actions will sign your destiny."
the fact is that you have to start to believe WHAT GOD SAYS(He doesn"t lie):
-He wanted you to be born....He thought of you in every single detail....you are so important to Him!He knows you better than anybody else.and He loves you not because you did anything in particulary,but for who you are(His child);
-He says that His plan for you is to be straight.He "designed" you this way. THE ONLY WAY TO BE HAPPY IS TO BELIEVE HIS WORD(i had some ovarian problem and my doctor said to me that i HAVE to start the sexual life,in order to be healed.....OR i WON"T BE ABLE TO HAVE KIDS EVER.i was so scared.i love kids,but i knew also that God says NO.no matter the circumstances or my feelings or my ideas...the answer was still NO.
it was so hard ,but i chosen to listen to Him.
and it came a moment in which i got healed by Him,during a prayer.and you know what? doctors don"t believe me when I tell them i had this sickness,because the screen doesn"t show anything wrong in my body.)there is hope for everything!you should start believe His version!and to make HIS ideas your own ideas.and HE will make the things go right in your mind,actions,life--that is a promisse!don"t be scared!

 

[Manicmarauder]

Keep reading the word of God, praying to Him, and relying on Him to help you through

I'll keep you in my prayers as well

Feel free to PM me if you need/want to.

 

[KTskater]

Many on this forum have confliction ideals about sexuality. Some are okay with the openly gay thing and think it doesn't matter to God, and some think it's a horrible abomination and that you are evil.
About a year ago, I discovered I had bisexual feelings myself. I was scared to death.
It was right after I came back to God.
As of late God has really began to change my heart, and it feels wonderful. Being bi feels natural and it doesn't fell wrong usually, but feeling God change my heart and not being attracted to my friends who are girls is a truly incredible experiance.

It's hard to know how to get started though. You going to have to develop self-discipline and never allow your mind to wonder in to forbbiden areas. You also need to pray and ask God to work on your heart. Ask him to show you why you have these feelings, what were you lacking in your youth or childhood that caused this need?

Don't listen to anything but the Bible for guidance (in the ways of God an morality). If I've said something here that is contrary to the Bible, don't follow it.
Thousands of homosexuals have changed, and that out of the 2% that they are of our population is I wonderful mircle in it's self. There are people on this website who have changed. Also remember that, your will never be tempted by a sin that's not common to man.

I pray the Lord's Mercy and blessings on you brother,
KTskater.

 

[Cristiano]

I have looked in an article that there is a possibility to change one's orentation. I am still a closet bi and dont wish to come out anytime soon. Eversince I have rediscovered God, I felt that I do not want to embrase my bisexuality and want to be streight.

I just find myself as an abomination in the eyes of God for being bi. I find this being a struggle in my own path to reverting back to christianity. I have hope that God would help me become streight.

I was a bit hesitant on posting this because I am afraid of being juudged because of my oriantation and my desire to change it.

Kusanagi,
This is a common struggle with Christians. I have same-sex attraction. But you need to realize that YOU are not an abomination to God. He has called you HIS CHILD and loves you unconditionally. ACTIONS are an abomination. Attractions are natural. What we do with those attractions a what defines us. Are we creatures that seek to satisfy the desires of the flesh or those of the spirit? God's word is clear that the flesh desires what is contrary to the spirit, and the spirit, what is contrary to the flesh. Having attractions, in my opinion, is what a normal human being has. It doesn't matter to whom the attraction is. What matters is what you do with that attraction. As I have posted before, God has the power to completely change you, but you have to be okay if he doesn't. Paul asked God to take away his thorn three times, and God replied "My grace is sufficient. For in weakness, my power is made more evident." As soon as you realize God will never give you anything you cannot handle and will never allow you a "no way out" situation, then you can understand that maybe God has allowed this thorn in your side so that he can be glorified in your life in some way. I hope this is some encouragement to you. Remember, that whatever happens, it is God's will, not yours. We don't always get what we want because God knows better. God bless.

 

[Bonhoffer]

I have looked in an article that there is a possibility to change one's orentation. I am still a closet bi and dont wish to come out anytime soon. Eversince I have rediscovered God, I felt that I do not want to embrase my bisexuality and want to be streight.

I just find myself as an abomination in the eyes of God for being bi. I find this being a struggle in my own path to reverting back to christianity. I have hope that God would help me become streight.

I was a bit hesitant on posting this because I am afraid of being juudged because of my oriantation and my desire to change it.

You are a mighty fine Christian Kusanagi.

You are not an abomination at all. If you feel a voice in your head telling you that you are an abomination then that is a lie from Satan. He wants you to hate yourself and think God hates you. But God loves you and accepts you for who your are.

A sin is something that you have to choose freely. If you cannot help being bisexual and feeling attracted to members of the same sex then it cannot be a sin. But of course you can help embracing that sexuality and being involved in a wrong way of living.
When the Bible uses the word "abomination" in Leviticus you must note that He is reffering to the act, not the person. He says "that is an abomination", not "they are an abomination". The Devil twists scripture to attack Gods children. There is even a reference to that in the Bible. And if you read the Bible there are many things the Lord finds abominable, and these are things we all do.

Of course by the power of God (and not your own) it is possible to become straight. But this is very rare. God is not asking for heterosexuality, He is asking for obedience. Concentrate on being Godly and Christlike, rather than on trying to change your sexuality.

By the way if the passage in Romans about gays being 'worthy of death' disturbs you, get someone to explain it to you.
Sure he says what they (practicing homosexuals) have done is worthy of death, but he also says "the wages of sin is death". In other words we all as sinners deserve to die. He even includes himself. I deserve death,Billy Graham deserves death,Tom Hanks deserves death and even Mother Terisa and the Pope deserve death!!
However scripture tells us that it is "Gods will that no one should perish" and God does not enjoy anyones punishment. Then, here comes the good bit--"the gift of God is eternal life" because "God so loved the world that He gave His son so whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life".
God doesnt want you to die. He wants you to live with him in joy forever. And this isnt dependent on your good works or sexuality. This depends on how you respond to God. As long as you desire Him He will never let you go!

 

[apologia25]

Dear Friend,
What in essence is God's will for your life? In 1 Thessalonians 4:3 it tells you that the will of God is your sanctification. For us to be sanctified it needs to be an outer(which you dont seem to have problems with) and an inner. If you really want to change you have to have the right motive. If your motive is to be straight so you can fit in with society, that is the wrong motive. There are many motives to choose from like for marriage, to fit in(be the same), to please your friend. The only successful focus of someone who wants to become straight is for the purpose of glorifying God with your body. I learned that in the Door of Hope course. You can sign up for the 60 day course at Settingcaptivesfree.com. They will in 60 days deal with the issues that will help you to have the right reasons(not that you don't).

 

[jenniferstell]

First off, bless you for your wisdom! I am bi, but have decided not to act on it. I have almost succeeded in not even *thinking* about other women! I don't allow myself to touch because it promotes thoughts of other women for me. Whenever I find myself starting to fantasize about a woman, I immediately start a prayer to God to take those thoughts from me or help me to ignore them. It seemed like it wasn't working at first, but it's getting easier and easier!! I don't think I've changed my "orientation", but I can certainly choose my actions and capture my thoughts! It takes work, but it does get easier!

 

[KTskater]

First off, bless you for your wisdom! I am bi, but have decided not to act on it. I have almost succeeded in not even *thinking* about other women! I don't allow myself to touch because it promotes thoughts of other women for me. Whenever I find myself starting to fantasize about a woman, I immediately start a prayer to God to take those thoughts from me or help me to ignore them. It seemed like it wasn't working at first, but it's getting easier and easier!! I don't think I've changed my "orientation", but I can certainly choose my actions and capture my thoughts! It takes work, but it does get easier!

Amen!!!

 

[erin74]

Here in Australia there is a really helpful ministry being run called Liberty Christian Ministries (http://www.libertychristianministries.org.au/), for people who have unwanted homosexual/bisexual feelings. It was startd by a guy who used to be homosexual and is now very happily married. He has also edited a book called "What some of you were" (which is a quote from corinthians). It is a compilation of chapters written by people who are/were homosexual, parents of, siblings of, children of, spouses of, etc, as well as some very helpful statistics, theological information, etc.

It is published by Matthias Media, who I believe have a US based website at www.matthiasmedia.com
I think it is a really helpful and important book and ministry. They may be able to provide you with a referal to someone in the US if you contact them.

It is something you can work through. It is not easy, but it can be done.

erin

 

[Kusanagi]

I have not gotten the time to check this thread, but thanks to the advices you have .