No GF any longer

[dayhiker]

Since most of you knew I had a GF. I thought I should mention that the relationship is now friends, not BF/GF. Over the last couple of years, somethings weren't sitting well with me. I still had a love for her but also knew somethings were bothering me quite a bit.

She has always cut off and had no contact with past BFs. She needs some help and I told her I'd still like to be there to help her with those things. So she said she would try being friends.

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

Awwww ... how do YOU feel about it? You sound fine but ... I wonder.

 

[dayhiker]

Well, there is a little feeling of loneliness.
I'm sad that I know she is hurting.

I generally don't have very strong negative feelings, so I'm doing OK.

 

[blackribbon]

((hugs))...

 

[power2theweak]

s

 

[NorwayUnn]

dayhiker hope all will be ok.

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

Dayhiker just know that God probably has someone even better for you. Keep praying for her too.

 

[dayhiker]

Thanks for the hugs.

I am still praying for her ...

 

[edwardfsmith]

I am sorry to hear that your girl friend is pulling away from you a little. That is great that you can still be her friend and help her out if she needs it. I am praying for both of you.

 

[dayhiker]

Thanks, Edward

 

[singlewv2011]

I hope this all works out for you!

 

[dayhiker]

I suspect it will. Thanks

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

So are you saying she broke up with you? Or you just mutally agreed to try being friends. (you know I'm blond right?). Hope you are doing OK. Well the weather is warming up so now you can start doing your hiking that you love and maybe meet someone new.

 

[dayhiker]

I was the one who initiated the break up. I didn't want to break up with her now. As I wanted to wait till her health improved. But she saw that my heart wasn't completely in it and so we talked. I still have a love for her but I'd come to realize there was no way I could have lived with her if it was time to take it to the next level.

So I don't see any reason to say bye and not see each other again. So lets be friends. But she has never done that before. So she will define what our relationship will be.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Oh I see. Will she be able to fully recover from her health issues? Just curious. I think you are a good guy for being honest and for wanting to stay friends. I hope that you can show her that it can be done and change her view of not being friends with ex's. Some people think it has to be love or hate and I agree with you. Sometimes people aren't meant for each other, but they could still be a good friend.

 

[dayhiker]

I don't know how her health issues will turn out. I saw last night she dropped me from FB. I knew she wanted a little time to let her emotions calm down (my words). But I was surprised she dropped me. I was being careful to be neutral in what I was saying. So will see where it goes from here.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Wow some people just don't know how to be friends. Or maybe she wants to rant about how hurt she is and doesn't want you to see it? IDK I hate it when people unfriend me on FB but that's just probably something in my make up that makes me feel unwanted or something.

 

[dayhiker]

I have been praying for her more since we broke up ... I would like to know how she is doing to help me continue to pray.

Well, the ball is in her court as the saying goes. She knows the plan and was willing to try it. But her hurt might not be allowing her to go there. darn.

 

[blackribbon]

Dayhiker...I just wanted to check on you. You had said that you talked to your GF every night so I suspect that you have an empty spot every day. And since I know you said you saw each other on the weekends, well, this weekend might be a bit difficult. Just know you are not alone... Even when you know you have made a good decision, it doesn't mean that it is easy or doesn't hurt.

Mostly, I just wanted to check in and let you know that there are people who are thinking about you.

(PS...How is the living room coming?)

 

[dayhiker]

Hi Black,
Thanks for checking.
I've been keeping pretty busy. Last Sat. I had a men's meeting from there to a walk with a meetup group. Then did some work on the house in the afternoon. In the evening, I went to a club for dinner and listen to a good band. But didn't get motivated to ask anyone to dance.
Some evenings it is a little lonely at my house, i do agree with that.

The GF stopped by unexpected Wed. night. She wanted to swap keys back ... it was interesting to talk with her for a while, she has this idea in her mind that I had a GF all lined up to move to as soon as I dropped her. Not true at all.

The LR is coming along. The floor took longer than I thought. I'm almost done with it. It looks really good. I tried a couple other shades for the paint ... didn't like those at all. So I'm think I'm going to keep the Caribbean look. Will give my visitors something to talk about ... LOL

So this Sat. is looking busy. Working on my LR in the morning. Have a lunchen date. Then will in the evening I'm going to a dance. Will be a bigger group I think. So I may get out dancing if only to get the exercise.

So I'm busy! But ya, I do feel sad at times that the relationship ended.