Do you guys think its wrong to go to night clubs? i love to dance and im kinda old for community centre-church dances and i feel like if i wanna dance it up thats the only place im to go.. is that un-christian like? what d o u think?
-
Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
-
CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
Night clubs
- Thread starter melmelmel
- Start date
Personally, I think there is nothing good in nightclubs for Christians. If your passion is dancing, then maybe you should look for dance parties sponsored by places who offer dancing lessons. I can't explain, I can just say that the atmosphere in a club is not one that will draw anyone closer to God.
Upvote
0
melmelmel, have you been to night clubs before? I'm asking because I don't think night-clubs are un-christian like, but I've never been in real nightclubs.
I almost went to a night club when I met a christian guy who loved dancing and had learned to dance by beeing bored in a night club and being dragged there by his friends... he found himself a corner and started to invent his own technique. Because there were no romantic ties between us, and because he was perfectly at home in clubs (knows how to find that corner, how to defend a girl) I felt very safe about going with him.
However, it didn't work out. Notice that the motives were pure and the way he generally goes to clubs is pure, so there is nothing un-christian like about it.
However, what we did get around to doing, was bringing some really good dance music to church, and after the young adult's meal, we cleared out the area and danced an hour or two untill we were tired. We did dance improves, taught each other stuff, and gave each other feed back. It was really great! Too bad the guy couldn't come back to Paris where our adventure had taken place.
So you see there are other alternatives to dancing in nightclubs if you find that you aren't mature enough or have the right people to go with to a night club.
For many years I didn't go with my friends to night clubs because I wasn't mature enough. I didn't have pure reasons for going. Today, if I went, it would only be to go to a place where I can improvise freely without being stared at like I'm crazy, and a place where the music is there. But back then, I would have been tempted to go in order to be "in" to be "cool" to fit in, and that isn't pure motives.
By the way, this subject was already discussed 5 months ago and you might get a really wide range of reactions, and pages and pages of people arguing between themselves if you can be a christian witness in a place "as bad as that"
I almost went to a night club when I met a christian guy who loved dancing and had learned to dance by beeing bored in a night club and being dragged there by his friends... he found himself a corner and started to invent his own technique. Because there were no romantic ties between us, and because he was perfectly at home in clubs (knows how to find that corner, how to defend a girl) I felt very safe about going with him.
However, it didn't work out. Notice that the motives were pure and the way he generally goes to clubs is pure, so there is nothing un-christian like about it.
However, what we did get around to doing, was bringing some really good dance music to church, and after the young adult's meal, we cleared out the area and danced an hour or two untill we were tired. We did dance improves, taught each other stuff, and gave each other feed back. It was really great! Too bad the guy couldn't come back to Paris where our adventure had taken place.
So you see there are other alternatives to dancing in nightclubs if you find that you aren't mature enough or have the right people to go with to a night club.
For many years I didn't go with my friends to night clubs because I wasn't mature enough. I didn't have pure reasons for going. Today, if I went, it would only be to go to a place where I can improvise freely without being stared at like I'm crazy, and a place where the music is there. But back then, I would have been tempted to go in order to be "in" to be "cool" to fit in, and that isn't pure motives.
By the way, this subject was already discussed 5 months ago and you might get a really wide range of reactions, and pages and pages of people arguing between themselves if you can be a christian witness in a place "as bad as that"
Upvote
0
i asked the same question to my friends...i really love dancing and stuff....and where i live there arent any 'christian' dances or anything like that.
i think it isn't wrong for you to go...seeing as how your motives seem pure, but keep in mind that other people in that club are not going with pure motives, and you could wind up in a very unsafe situation. i've heard a lot of bad stories about clubs and things happening to girls and if you do end up going, i would stick close to your girl friends and stay away from guys there.
i guess what has stopped me from going thus far is i know that even if i went just wanting to dance, there are a lot of people who are there for different reasons and won't know that i'm not there for the same reasons as them. you could def. end up getting the wrong attention...or even seeking the wrong attention.
and that's where it would become sinful.
hope that helps
i think it isn't wrong for you to go...seeing as how your motives seem pure, but keep in mind that other people in that club are not going with pure motives, and you could wind up in a very unsafe situation. i've heard a lot of bad stories about clubs and things happening to girls and if you do end up going, i would stick close to your girl friends and stay away from guys there.
i guess what has stopped me from going thus far is i know that even if i went just wanting to dance, there are a lot of people who are there for different reasons and won't know that i'm not there for the same reasons as them. you could def. end up getting the wrong attention...or even seeking the wrong attention.
and that's where it would become sinful.
hope that helps
Upvote
0
bill'swife
let peace rule...
- Jan 23, 2005
- 40,206
- 19,383
- 57
- Faith
- Baptist
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- US-Democrat
Are there any Christian Clubs to go to where you are...I have heard of them, they play Christian contemporary dance music and don't serve alcohol...
Upvote
0
sunshinejennii
Pierced, Purple, Hippy, Happy, Laughing Lass
- Mar 20, 2004
- 5,058
- 117
- 38
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- In Relationship
I think at 16 you shouldn't be going to clubs. But it definatly depends on your intentions, I go and have a great time, but it's important to be with a group of mates and to have agreed that you will stay together, otherwise as I discovered on saturday guys started dancing with my mate and I just wanted to enjoy myself and couldn't when they were coming onto me.
Upvote
0
HeyJupiter
Veteran
I don't think going to nightclubs is nessecaryly WRONG, but i dont like them because as had been said there are people there who dont have the "right' motives...
Upvote
0
SparkyMaddie
Luceat Lux Vestra
not allowed to go to dance clubs just school dances.we have about 10 of those a year. when i'm older i may do a club.with a handful of friends though.
melmelmel said:
Upvote
0
sunshinejennii
Pierced, Purple, Hippy, Happy, Laughing Lass
- Mar 20, 2004
- 5,058
- 117
- 38
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- In Relationship
I should think not! My mum said to me last time I went out "I won't to tell you to be careful and ask exactly where you're going, but theres not point, I'll have no information in a few weeks time." cos I'm moving away in 4weeks to go to uni. She would have kicked up a fuss a year ago, but I'm 18 now, I can legally drink and she just has to trust me. I don't WANT to get drunk, I don't WANT to do drugs, I just want to dance with my friends.sparks_will_fly said:
Upvote
0
Tsarina
Most Holy Theotokos save us!
- Aug 13, 2005
- 5,405
- 188
- 38
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- CA-Conservatives
VickiY said:
I definatley agree. Nightclubs make the nicest people act like horrible men. The drugs, the alchohol, the behavior is twisted.
Night clubs consit of dancing, but most of the time people dont go there for the purpose of dance, but to pick up people or get drunk.
Upvote
0
ZeroXero
Jesus Rocks!
- Aug 3, 2005
- 271
- 9
- 41
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- UK-Liberal-Democrats
Agreed, most people who frequent nightclubs dont have the most christian attitudes in this world. Makes being a DJ hard sometimes. The clubs in Cambridge, UK suck anyway. Full of people wanting fights, not fun.
Upvote
0
It all really depends on what kind of night club. If it is the kind were u can sit in and eat and there not playing bad music and theres no dirty dancing then hey. But certainly NOt the ones with secular music and dirty dancing and alcohol and so forth, the atmosphere is not for christians and you'll be tempted to do some unGodly things...
Upvote
0
icbeckyc
Well-Known Member
- Mar 9, 2006
- 3,772
- 130
- Faith
- Presbyterian
- Marital Status
- Married
- Politics
- US-Republican
I use to goto clubs when I was in college. Actually where I met my husband. I would have to say it is very hard to not get sucked into some of the things that are going on. Either type of dancing, or drinking excessivly, or other things. As long as you are able to control yourself it's ok. Just be careful. Maybe you should have some parties at home with your friends. Then youare with friends with similar beliefs, and don't have all the pressure.
Upvote
0
I don't think night clubs are un-christian like. I know I'm only 12, but I don't have bad feelings about dance clubs. Some people don't like to dance to a routine, but love to dance. As long as you don't drink or anything like that I think night clubs are fine. It's all in what you do, not where you go.
Briana Sawyer
Briana Sawyer
Upvote
0
cloggergirl2010
Regular Member
- Jul 13, 2005
- 161
- 4
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- US-Others
Even thought I have never been to a nightclub I have been to 2 school dances, and have many friends who go to clubs all the time. I see nothing wrong with going out a club to go dancing with your friends as long as you don't drink, do drugs, or hook up with someone. My friends who go to clubs say that they see much worse stuff at school dances sometimes. Mind you these clubs are underage clubs so yeah but I don't see anything wrong with going to a club to go dancing
Upvote
0
The Julikenz
God is not a misogynist
If your convictions as a Christian do not allow you to go out with friends and dance in an environment that threatens what you believe, then nightclubs probably aren't for you. If your beliefs are more flexible and allow room for other people to live their own lives how they want, and you how you want, then I don't see how they could be an issue. No-one ever asks you to participate in what other people may choose to do: hooking up, drinking, drugs. It is entirely your choice - and definitely an option - not to partake in any of those things while out.
In my experience, the main thing to understand about clubs, is that there are all different kinds and stereotypes are often misleading. Each attracts it's own crowd and activities based on the type of music it plays, the purpose it serves (dancing, for example), and other factors such as location (a club in Kings Cross is very different to a club in Town Hall). Before anyone pool-holes all clubs into one ditch, consider that you get a whole spectrum of flavours with life, and it's a matter of finding something that suits you.
I have a few regular club nights I go to purely for dancing because the general crowd are not a pretentious bunch of manikins fishing for partners of the opposite sex, but people who are genuinely interested in getting into the music, doing their own thing, and getting down with some funky beats. These clubs generally don't have a dress code, you won't find lots of girls in heavily applied makeup, skimpy outfits and heels, but regular outfits of comfort, and practical footwear. Men who go to pickup are generally in a minority, and you won't see alot of designer wear, ironed pants or leather shoes.
I have no problems with saying "okay, I'm not going to drink alcohol tonight." or "I am not going to hook up with anyone" if that's what I personally have decided, exercising a bit of self control is easy when the real reason you want to go to a club (as you say) is to dance. As someone else said, look at your motives. If you really want to go to dance, then you'll likely find it's very easy to go and just do that.
In my experience, the main thing to understand about clubs, is that there are all different kinds and stereotypes are often misleading. Each attracts it's own crowd and activities based on the type of music it plays, the purpose it serves (dancing, for example), and other factors such as location (a club in Kings Cross is very different to a club in Town Hall). Before anyone pool-holes all clubs into one ditch, consider that you get a whole spectrum of flavours with life, and it's a matter of finding something that suits you.
I have a few regular club nights I go to purely for dancing because the general crowd are not a pretentious bunch of manikins fishing for partners of the opposite sex, but people who are genuinely interested in getting into the music, doing their own thing, and getting down with some funky beats. These clubs generally don't have a dress code, you won't find lots of girls in heavily applied makeup, skimpy outfits and heels, but regular outfits of comfort, and practical footwear. Men who go to pickup are generally in a minority, and you won't see alot of designer wear, ironed pants or leather shoes.
I have no problems with saying "okay, I'm not going to drink alcohol tonight." or "I am not going to hook up with anyone" if that's what I personally have decided, exercising a bit of self control is easy when the real reason you want to go to a club (as you say) is to dance. As someone else said, look at your motives. If you really want to go to dance, then you'll likely find it's very easy to go and just do that.
Upvote
0
CJF
...love alters not...
- Feb 26, 2002
- 6,147
- 172
- 37
- Faith
- Pentecostal
- Marital Status
- Single
- Politics
- US-Republican
I would say, absolutely not. What kind of witness is that? Even if you don't drink or do drugs or smoke, you're still hanging out in a place where that's all that most of the people there do, so in a round about way, you're supporitng it all.
Upvote
0
Similar threads
