Nice Guys CAN Finish First

[exitstageright]

Well,I am finally convinced that a nice guy can be appreciated by a nice woman.

My singles cruise consisted of 105 women and 71 men.All of the women were were very friendly towards me.They were also glad to see me.Most of us chatted online since last August,and have been posting comments on Facebook since last May. One Lady,K told me that I am a sweet man,and that she enjoyed my posts. Yes,many ladies asked me on the first night,"When are you going to wear your white tux dinner jacket?" On the last night of the cruise,a few men told me that they are going to wear a tux on next year's over 40 cruise.

K was interested in me for the first two nights,then she lost interest. I thought to myself,"Here I go again,time for plan "B". Plan "B" was for me to see one of those bar girls in Puerto Rico for some company. One woman,S, told me,"I do not have a boyfriend,and I do not want a boyfriend." My cabin mate warned me about S. Therefore,I did not try to pursue S.

Now,here is where everything gets interesting. While on the Lido Deck,M,who always "liked" my facebook comments,was supposed to meet S. A thought came to me to ask M if she ever had been to Puerto Rico. M said,"No". I asked M if I could give her a walking tour of PR,as I have been to PR many times. M said,"Yes". We spent tour hours waliking in PR.
The next day,more than one person told me that was nice of me to show M on a walking tour to Puerto Rico. The next day,in St. Marteen,M asked me to walk the beach with her. The waves were very rough.She put her arms aroung me and kissed me. Then the very strong waves knocked us down. We held on tightly to each other,as we were thrown down to the sand. We continued holding and kissing each other. Yes,it was just like that famous beach scene with Deborah Kerr and Burt Lancaster,from that classic movie,"From Here To Enternity".

Granted,that scene looks so romantic on the big screen. But,in real life,there is nothing romantic about being on the beach,lying on the sand,and the very rough waves forcing sand in your swimming trunks,in your ears,up your nose,and up your butt. It took me two days to get all of that sand out of my orifices.

During our last cocktail party,M was holding my hand. As we walked past one of our group members,this guy told me,"Man,that woman is very much in love with you!"
Yes,we had a wonderful,a romantic,and a magical five days and nights together on that cruise. The best thing is that I did not have to use plan
"B".

 

[Life2Christ]

Well Happy Monday to you too! Didn't expect to read that bit of news this morning.

 

[dayhiker]

Exit .. that's great. I'm like you never thought the beach was that romantic with sand everywhere and the sun just seems to sap the energy right out of me.

Now a nice walk on a nice day that I like and do find romantic, be it a beach or other scenic place.

Welcome back.

 

[power2theweak]

Congrats, exit!!! I've always liked "nice guys!"

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

looking forward to seeing how the future plays out. Does she live near enough to you to have a relationship?

 

[exitstageright]

Well Happy Monday to you too! Didn't expect to read that bit of news this morning.

Thanks,I just got home on Sunday night. With turbulance on the plane going to Miami,the ship rocking while sleeping,the van rocking on the roads of Saint Thomas,and the turbulance on the jet from Washington,D.C. to San Francisco,it was so nice to sleep in my own bed last night without me rocking back and forth!

 

[exitstageright]

Exit .. that's great. I'm like you never thought the beach was that romantic with sand everywhere and the sun just seems to sap the energy right out of me.

Now a nice walk on a nice day that I like and do find romantic, be it a beach or other scenic place.

Welcome back.

Thanks,Dayhiker. M has been to that beach on St.Marteen three times before. She said that the water was never that rough before.Maybe the water was rough as a result of the remnants of hurricane Sandy. It is ironic that the lady,who said that she was not interested in any man,is named...Sandy.
Now,on Saint Thomas,the waters were very beautiful,as always,and calm.
When you leave your valuables on the beach,there is always a concern about thieves. There were no security people on the beach. However,whenever someone got up to leave,they were approached by a cab driver,waiting to take you back to the ship. So,it seems that there was no need for security,as the cab drivers were watching our stuff. This made great sense.If someone stole our money,we would not be able to pay the cab drivers to take us back to the ships.

On the way to the aquarium and Coki Beach,our cab driver stopped by a man who was selling bottled water along the side of the road.We bought some water.As we continued on our ride,the cab driver said,"That man is an ex-cab driver. He had a stroke.So,this is our way of helping him out,by letting him sell bottled water along side the road." This seems typical of how nice the people in Saint Thomas are.
M and I saw sea turtles and many beautiful fish. We we returned to the ship,I had fish for lunch and dinner. M,was teasing me by asking me,"How in the world can you have fish for lunch and dinner after seeing all of those beautiful fish this morning?"
That is one thing that I like about M. It is her sense of humor. By the way,M lives in Florida. I live in California.Why can't I find someone like her here in California?

 

[dayhiker]

A great time Exit. Ya, too bad she is clear across the country.

Did you give the massages that you had set up before the cruise?

I lady I know had a birthday last week, so I gave her a massage for her BD gift.

 

[exitstageright]

Congrats, exit!!! I've always liked "nice guys!"

Thank you,power. My cabin mate was being a jerk to many of the women in our group. Yes,he drank too much,alsn a Sunday night,he introduced me to two women in our singles group. One of the women is a nice lady from Russia.Well,P asked the women if they would join us at the bar for drinks.( I do not drink alcohol,just Diet Coke) He later invited them to see the view from our outside balcony cabin. The ladies said that they had an inside cabin. Things where going well until P started to say crazy things. Now, before the cruise,he would post things on Facebook that made good sense.As we got closer and closer to the sailing date of 11/10/2012,his posts got more and more bizarre. At the bar, he told the ladies that he works for the CIA, yes, the CIA!. He begins to insult the Russsian lady.Needless to say,the ladies left.

On the following Thursday,on the way to dinner,the door across the hall from our cabin opened. It was the same two ladies! Later on,when I told P this,he had a look of disbelief. Later on the night,I asked one of them,"I am curious,if P had not been such a jerk,would you two have went to our cabin to see our balcony view?" She said......,"YES!" I then asked her,"Would you like to still see our view?". She said,"Yes!,as soon as I finish this(her cigarette). Well we walked down to my cabin. P was there.
The lady and I just went to and stood out on the balcony for about five minutes. After she left,P had a surprised look on his face. P asked me,"How did you get her to go with you?" Without preaching,I just said,"Simply by just being nice to her."
What was so ironic about the Russian lady and I, was on that Monday,we
talked on the beach for about an hour. We danced that night. I am 58 years old. I was just 8 years old during the Cuban Missile Crisis.We,at the time,thought that this was going to be World War III,between the United States and Russia. We had air raid drills at school.My teacher told us,"If the United States wins,there will be no more Russia.If Russia wins,there will be no more United States!" I was afraid of the Russians at that time. Yet,I did not know that 50 years later,that I would be talking to and dancing with a beautiful Russian woman.

 

[exitstageright]

looking forward to seeing how the future plays out. Does she live near enough to you to have a relationship?

Thanks,Michelle,please see my first and secound responses to Dayhiker.

 

[exitstageright]

A great time Exit. Ya, too bad she is clear across the country.

Did you give the massages that you had set up before the cruise?

I lady I know had a birthday last week, so I gave her a massage for her BD gift.

Good for you,Dayhiker! Now I do admit when I am wrong and/or when I screw something up. Yes, I am very organized,and I plan things well.
However,I screwed up big time! I either forgot,or misplaced the names of the three women that I promised to give a massage!

I did give one lady a massage,while we were on the Promonade Deck. I massaged her shoulders,her neck,and her arms. She said that she really enjoyed it. While I was massaging her,she said,"S......I can't imagine why anyone would want to divorce you!" I informed her that I was the one who wanted a divorce. She told me,"Good!,because you deserve better!"

Now,when M and I were on the beach in St.Marteen.one lady asked me if am I still taking appointments for massages on Friday.(we are to be at sea all day Friday and Saturday).Before I could give her an answer,M told her....."NO!"
Or,could it be that M was one of the ladies that I promised to give a message? I did messaged M's feet and lower legs one day aboard ship.

 

[dayhiker]

Too bad you forgot your list.
Ya, that would be trick to be hanging with a new woman and give massages to other ladies.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Congrats! I will say I was always a nice guy then I had my first seizure and brain injury. It felt like nice guys finish last. Then as time went on I got mad at God because no matter what I tried I was always last. After I took a step back and changed my attitude and life though I got an amazing proverbs 31 woman in my life.

I actually have other guys contacting me to tell me they are jealous because she is a rare christian woman that the bible speaks of. So now I do agree nice guys CAN finish first! God is good!

 

[blackribbon]

Maybe the distance thing can work in your favor...it gives you time to build up a solid friendship....and if there is something to this, moving really doesn't have to be that big of a deal. You already know there is the "attraction" thing, so you don't have to worry about that. (PS....she isn't "in love" with you, she is intense "like"...love takes a bit longer. )

 

[exitstageright]

Maybe the distance thing can work in your favor...it gives you time to build up a solid friendship....and if there is something to this, moving really doesn't have to be that big of a deal. You already know there is the "attraction" thing, so you don't have to worry about that. (PS....she isn't "in love" with you, she is intense "like"...love takes a bit longer. )

Thanks for sharing your opinion and your input.

 

[renewed21]

Well,I am finally convinced that a nice guy can be appreciated by a nice woman.

My singles cruise consisted of 105 women and 71 men.All of the women were were very friendly towards me.They were also glad to see me.Most of us chatted online since last August,and have been posting comments on Facebook since last May. One Lady,K told me that I am a sweet man,and that she enjoyed my posts. Yes,many ladies asked me on the first night,"When are you going to wear your white tux dinner jacket?" On the last night of the cruise,a few men told me that they are going to wear a tux on next year's over 40 cruise.

K was interested in me for the first two nights,then she lost interest. I thought to myself,"Here I go again,time for plan "B". Plan "B" was for me to see one of those bar girls in Puerto Rico for some company. One woman,S, told me,"I do not have a boyfriend,and I do not want a boyfriend." My cabin mate warned me about S. Therefore,I did not try to pursue S.

Now,here is where everything gets interesting. While on the Lido Deck,M,who always "liked" my facebook comments,was supposed to meet S. A thought came to me to ask M if she ever had been to Puerto Rico. M said,"No". I asked M if I could give her a walking tour of PR,as I have been to PR many times. M said,"Yes". We spent tour hours waliking in PR.
The next day,more than one person told me that was nice of me to show M on a walking tour to Puerto Rico. The next day,in St. Marteen,M asked me to walk the beach with her. The waves were very rough.She put her arms aroung me and kissed me. Then the very strong waves knocked us down. We held on tightly to each other,as we were thrown down to the sand. We continued holding and kissing each other. Yes,it was just like that famous beach scene with Deborah Kerr and Burt Lancaster,from that classic movie,"From Here To Enternity".

Granted,that scene looks so romantic on the big screen. But,in real life,there is nothing romantic about being on the beach,lying on the sand,and the very rough waves forcing sand in your swimming trunks,in your ears,up your nose,and up your butt. It took me two days to get all of that sand out of my orifices.

During our last cocktail party,M was holding my hand. As we walked past one of our group members,this guy told me,"Man,that woman is very much in love with you!"
Yes,we had a wonderful,a romantic,and a magical five days and nights together on that cruise. The best thing is that I did not have to use plan
"B".

Sir, did you use protection?

 

[Life2Christ]

Sir, did you use protection?

Its sad. The young single christians are all about purity and marriage and we're all like "did you use protection." Lol. Please don't hate us, Jesus!

 

[dayhiker]

Personally, I think its wise to use protection. Even when I was young and some Christians would argue that we shouldn't teach how to use protection, it didn't make any sense then before AIDS, it sure doesn't make sense to me now!

 

[Life2Christ]

Personally, I think its wise to use protection.

I do too. But that wasn't my point. Sorry, didn't want to come off sounding self-righteous. I was just pointing out the irony of being Christian and having sex outside marriage. We all have different opinions on it, it seems.

 

[dayhiker]

Life .. yup, we have different ways of understanding what the Bible says and what God wants of us.