Newly Weds Doomed

[pixie green]

I need to vent and I need advice.
I'm scared. We've been married 2 months. We just told everyone and made it official yesterday.. And I already contemplate divorce... Is there something wrong with me? Do I feel the need to flee because of normal conflict? Or is this relationship seriously unhealthy?
How do I find out?
I have no one to compare with... Plus, every couple is different...
I feel like its just a series of dissappointment after dissappointment..
Right now I feel like I made a HUGE mistake
He's not a spirtual leader
He will never make the effort I crave to have us do our devotion.
He's been home a week and we haven't done it a single time.
He just doesn't care about things.
When hes at work, I feel like I miss him.
But I must just be lonely
Because the second he gets home, we fight, I hide for a few hours and then we go to bed.
I never actually see him.
We never spend quality time together.
We're either busy doing stuff
Or we're at home doing one of two things
Fighting, or ignoring eachother for our phones.
If its this bad this early on can you imagine how it will be in 10.20, 30 years?
Usually these types of disfunctional marriages happen after years of bottling up feelings.
What is our problem?
How do I fix this before it ruins us?
I do love him...

 

[jsimms615]

That doesn't sound very promising. I wonder what things were like before you got married? Did you fight like this? Sounds like some marriage counseling might be in order to help you all get to a better place

 

[SkyWriting]

I need to vent and I need advice.
I'm scared. We've been married 2 months. We just told everyone and made it official yesterday.. And I already contemplate divorce... Is there something wrong with me? Do I feel the need to flee because of normal conflict? Or is this relationship seriously unhealthy?
How do I find out?
I have no one to compare with... Plus, every couple is different...
I feel like its just a series of dissappointment after dissappointment..
Right now I feel like I made a HUGE mistake
He's not a spirtual leader
He will never make the effort I crave to have us do our devotion.
He's been home a week and we haven't done it a single time.
He just doesn't care about things.
When hes at work, I feel like I miss him.
But I must just be lonely
Because the second he gets home, we fight, I hide for a few hours and then we go to bed.
I never actually see him.
We never spend quality time together.
We're either busy doing stuff
Or we're at home doing one of two things
Fighting, or ignoring eachother for our phones.
If its this bad this early on can you imagine how it will be in 10.20, 30 years?
Usually these types of disfunctional marriages happen after years of bottling up feelings.
What is our problem?
How do I fix this before it ruins us?
I do love him...

You're one of the two fighting, you're one of the two people
on the phone when in the room together, and you have
control over you. Of the two of you that can change
you have control over one. Just imagine how much
better you can be after 30 years of improving yourself!
If your spouse changes too, then so much the better.
If he changes you might notice. But if you change, then
your entire world changes, not just your marriage.

Great you can open up so much with your first post ever.
You sound like a promising communicator and leader.