newbie needing grief support...

[Mimi305]

hi all...i'm mimi,and my mom passed away suddenly on dec. 18, 06. i am devasted. i am having meltdown moments thru out eachday and i don't know that i'm handling things in the best way possible. i have my moments where my faith is strong, and others where i desperately cling to whatever little remaining shred i might have b/c sometimes it feels like it's not there.

i am slowly but surely getting past he shock stage into the bargaining stage, and at the same time trying to come to grips with the knowledge that god is ultimately in control and knows what he allows when he allows it.

i'm hurting tho. desperately. and am so glad i found this board you have no idea...

mimi

 

[FrauleinElsa]

hi all...i'm mimi,and my mom passed away suddenly on dec. 18, 06. i am devasted. i am having meltdown moments thru out eachday and i don't know that i'm handling things in the best way possible. i have my moments where my faith is strong, and others where i desperately cling to whatever little remaining shred i might have b/c sometimes it feels like it's not there.

i am slowly but surely getting past he shock stage into the bargaining stage, and at the same time trying to come to grips with the knowledge that god is ultimately in control and knows what he allows when he allows it.

i'm hurting tho. desperately. and am so glad i found this board you have no idea...

mimi

Dear Mimi,

First, I want to express how sorry I am to hear about your loss. I've never lost a parent, but I can imagine that it's the worst thing that could happen to you. I can bet it's unimaginable. Are attending any kind of grief counseling? Sometimes churches will sponsor grief support groups. I would recomend getting together with people who have had similiar experiences. I think it would be good therapy for you. My heart really goes out to you and I'll be praying for you. If you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me anytime. Keep posting and welcome to CF.

God bless,
Elsa
P.S. There is no right or wrong way to handle grief. It is what it is and the best thing to just bend to it. The willow tree survives life's storms by bending, not resistig. So, don't worry that you're not handling it right. It's still fresh and new. I know something about grief and as trite as it sounds it will get better. Like I said, if you want to talk, I'm available.

 

[Mimi305]

FrauleinElsa, thanks so much for your sweet response. yes...this is seriously unimaginable, i am struggling with it desperately. i'm not currently in any grief counseling, but have considered it..altho it's tough b/c my church doesn't offer it and i honestly don't even know where to begin to search for that sort o thing in my area. (i guess google would be a good place to start?) i'm a little lost in that regard.

i want yo uto know that i truly appreciate your prayers. aside from the fact that i am in desperate need of them, it means a lot to me that somene who doesn't even know me would choose to aswer to my post and pray for me. may god bless you always.

thanks (more thanks than i can possibly express),
mimi

 

[FrauleinElsa]

I'm glad I was able to help. I was reading somewhere and I hope it's true, that when we cry angels hold us. I think that sounds nice. It's another example of how much God cares about us. It's my prayer that you will feel God's prescence now more than ever. God bless you as you deal with this terrible loss. I'm here in case you want to talk.

Hugs,
Elsa

 

[madison1101]

I am also sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my younger brother in October, and he was only 40 years old. It was sudden, and I am healing but not where I want to be yet in my grieving.

What helped me was the prayers of believers, as well as spending time in God's Word. I also found that I had to accept God's will for my brother. Psalm 139 talks about how much God knows about us, and how He formed us, and He knows the number of our days. His will is perfect, though it hurts sometimes.

Keep crying, as that is good for you. Stay in the Word and cry out to God, as David did in the Psalms. He will comfort you.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[wintersnow]

Sweetheart, my arms are around you hugging you. I'm so sorry you lost your mother... but I'm so glad you are alive.

I'm sure your mom was so very proud of you. I'd love to talk about her with you if you like.

Hardest thing about this forum is there is nobody here to "forum" with.

 

[rushingwind62]

I too would recommend some type of counseling or group therapy. If your church doesn't have it then you can call any counseling center in the yellow pages and they may be able to direct you to one.

I feel for you because I too know what it is like to lose a parent. I lost my dad back in 2003. Unlike you though we had several years to prepare as my dad was in poor health. So it didn't come as quite a shock. Just be glad your mom didn't suffer. I know there are things you probably wish you could have told before she passed but she probably already knew what you wanted to say, she was your mom.
Praying for you and God Bless You!!!