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[rentanaardvark]

I was diagnosed with "quiet" BPD and cPTSD. I have found a lot of help and understanding in forums for sufferers, but they are not Christian forums. As I have gotten further down the path of healing, I was hoping to talk with people who have their healing rooted in their faith. It's hard to talk about God's role in my healing with people who don't believe and He helps so much ... hoping this forum will be easier to talk about such things

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

Welcome. What is "quiet" BPD". I have bipolar 2 and BPD. You will get lots of support here. Make sure you check out the depression part of the this form. A lot of talk happens there, with checking in and stuff.

 

[rentanaardvark]

Welcome. What is "quiet" BPD". I have bipolar 2 and BPD. You will get lots of support here. Make sure you check out the depression part of the this form. A lot of talk happens there, with checking in and stuff.

Quiet BPD means that the Borderline rage is turned on myself exclusively and not expressed towards others. Also tends to be a much higher rate of self-injury and suicide.

Will check out the depression part, thanks

I think cPTSD is currently my biggest struggle with flashbacks and doing memory work ... yuck

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

Quiet BPD means that the Borderline rage is turned on myself exclusively and not expressed towards others. Also tends to be a much higher rate of self-injury and suicide.

Will check out the depression part, thanks

I think cPTSD is currently my biggest struggle with flashbacks and doing memory work ... yuck

That is how I am. I self-injury. It is horrible to deal with. I had not done it in sometime till a few weeks ago, and it was very bad.

There is a self-injury board to. Lots of great people that will bless you.

 

[rentanaardvark]

My T. has been using IFS therapy with me and it has helped me to stop having the urge to self-injure ... started to have an urge today, but was able to work through by using DBT skills ... you do either one of those?

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

I just starting using DBT. Hard work but I know it will be worth it.

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

DBT Self Help
This is a great site with all kinds of things that you may find that help you.

 

[madison1101]

Hi there,
I have been in therapy, with a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, licensed Ph.D. psychologist for over 20 years, and went from being an acting out borderline to an acting in borderline. That is how my therapist identifies the difference between raging toward others vs. turning the rage on myself.

God used a mature, loving Christian sister in the Lord to mentor me, and she helped me experience God's unconditional love and grace. I would share what I learned in therapy sessions, and she would identify scriptures I can hang my hat on to see how God was using my secular therapist.

I encourage everyone in therapy to get a mature Christian to mentor them, and help them learn God's love and grace and how it applies to the journey of healing as you go through psychotherapy.

God bless.

Trish

 

[rentanaardvark]

Lily: DBT is hard, but SOOOOO helpful. I bought a book about DBT that I have been using along with the skills T. is teaching me. Very helpful! Thank you for the site .

Trish: I have an amazing Christian counselor. We pray quite a bit in session and there are certain things that T lets God do when she knows that I need to stop and pray through something. I can't imagine trying to get through counseling without Jesus involved! He has gotten us over many a rough patch during session!

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

Hi there,
I have been in therapy, with a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, licensed Ph.D. psychologist for over 20 years, and went from being an acting out borderline to an acting in borderline. That is how my therapist identifies the difference between raging toward others vs. turning the rage on myself.

God used a mature, loving Christian sister in the Lord to mentor me, and she helped me experience God's unconditional love and grace. I would share what I learned in therapy sessions, and she would identify scriptures I can hang my hat on to see how God was using my secular therapist.

I encourage everyone in therapy to get a mature Christian to mentor them, and help them learn God's love and grace and how it applies to the journey of healing as you go through psychotherapy.

God bless.

Trish

I am very blessed because I do have a Christian therapist, but didn't seek one out.

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

Lily: DBT is hard, but SOOOOO helpful. I bought a book about DBT that I have been using along with the skills T. is teaching me. Very helpful! Thank you for the site .

Is it the green workbook? That is what I use. Learned a lot of self-soothing in the first part and now I need to read the second chapter before I see my therapist Tuesday and do what I can in it, and then we will dig into it.

 

[rentanaardvark]

I'm not sure if it is green or not. I have it on Kindle. It is called The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay? I'm still in the self soothing stuff too. Haven't given as much time as I should be to it!

 

[Dianna_Child of God]

Yes that is the green one. There is an older one that is red and black, so this one is usually called the green book. Self soothing can be hard. Sounds and smells sooth me the most, so uplifting music is a big help. I love the smell of fall. So I have a pot on the stove with water in it that has vanilla,allspice and cloves.I just let it simmer all day and add water as needed. I love also taking the time when I need a distraction or whatever and just search the internet for pictures of what I find beautiful. I save them. I always have them to go back and look at.

 

[rentanaardvark]

I live in the house where I was raped and abused ... same bed room and all that ... stuck here for a while. I have an area at the foot of my bed that is for my IC. Has a pillow, teddy bear, pumpkin pie candle, children's books, coloring books, toys and that sort of thing. Also, my T. has me writing letters to my IC every night and sometimes letting my IC write as well. It seems like when I pay attention to my IC this is very good for me in the self soothing department.

In public I have a purple bouncy ball that I play with ... or if that won't work then I fall back on the skills in the DBT workbook ... which, again, I really need to be more diligent with.