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New relationship, pulling back...
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Hi quitespirit,
I can sense the frustration in your writing. Relationships are tough...or are they? I am in my first relationship, and it will be 10 months in a few days. It feels more like 10 years, because every day we are together so many things happen to us. Why? Because we spend over 4 hours together, every day.
That is now, when we first got to together it was over 8 hours per day because neither of us had jobs. And it was tough last night to let her go. I sat in the back seat of her car, refusing to move, but it was 11 pm and she had to get home.
My heart cries as I'm writing this because I miss her so much even though she lives just 8 minutes away. I know I will see her today, and we'll go to church together tonight. Even in church, we will have to tone down our love, but our love is so great that every one knows we are together the moment we enter, even if we come from opposite entrances, and at different times.
That is what love is. People say that the beginning is your "honey moon phase" but we never had a honey moon phase because it was tough from the beginning. In the first 2 weeks, I did not even know if I was going to be with her because she was going through so much. She was depressed and confused, but I just focused on her. I didn't care about myself. If after 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 4 months, or 4 years, she leaves me it will be for her own good, not because of my selfish desires.
My job is to make her happy, plain and simple.
Your boyfriend is depressed because he has to go to court. I understand that, and everyone's pain is relative. Matthew 5:10 reads Youre blessed when your commitment to God provokes persecution. The persecution drives you even deeper into Gods kingdom.
This verse applies to love as well. When you are persecuted, it drives you deeper into each others arms. We were persecuted by friends and family, and our fight isn't finished yet. But the more we struggle, the stronger our relationship becomes.
You're 8 weeks in. I knew this was the woman I was to marry on day number 2. We were friends for 6 weeks before. She was the one that made me believe in God and brought me to Christ, way before I realized I was in love with her.
The very fact that you are worried tells me that you do not trust God. Confess your problems and lay them at the feet of Jesus. Things will work themselves out. You should not have to seek advice to anyone except God. Once you begin speaking, the words will come out. You will know how to comfort him. You will know how to read him. In those first 2 weeks, I have no idea what I said to her, but God spoke through me to help her through her depression. Then, at a convention we both went to, God brought a pastor before us that healed her completely on the spot.
If the words do not come naturally then you need to pray. Trust God, and all will be good
- God Bless
P.S. Genesis 2:18 - The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
You are God's representative on Earth to man. It is not a relationship, it is a marriage made in heaven, and God will take you to the right man.
Sorry, quick one last bit: When I moved to a different town, she moved into that same town, that same school all the way from India. When I moved 4 years later, she too moved, only 3-4 blocks away from me. I used to jog by her house every morning, not knowing that in that house lives the girl I was to marry.
There are many such instances in our lives. This stuff doesn't just happen in movies. It's real.
I can sense the frustration in your writing. Relationships are tough...or are they? I am in my first relationship, and it will be 10 months in a few days. It feels more like 10 years, because every day we are together so many things happen to us. Why? Because we spend over 4 hours together, every day.
That is now, when we first got to together it was over 8 hours per day because neither of us had jobs. And it was tough last night to let her go. I sat in the back seat of her car, refusing to move, but it was 11 pm and she had to get home.
My heart cries as I'm writing this because I miss her so much even though she lives just 8 minutes away. I know I will see her today, and we'll go to church together tonight. Even in church, we will have to tone down our love, but our love is so great that every one knows we are together the moment we enter, even if we come from opposite entrances, and at different times.
That is what love is. People say that the beginning is your "honey moon phase" but we never had a honey moon phase because it was tough from the beginning. In the first 2 weeks, I did not even know if I was going to be with her because she was going through so much. She was depressed and confused, but I just focused on her. I didn't care about myself. If after 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 4 months, or 4 years, she leaves me it will be for her own good, not because of my selfish desires.
My job is to make her happy, plain and simple.
Your boyfriend is depressed because he has to go to court. I understand that, and everyone's pain is relative. Matthew 5:10 reads Youre blessed when your commitment to God provokes persecution. The persecution drives you even deeper into Gods kingdom.
This verse applies to love as well. When you are persecuted, it drives you deeper into each others arms. We were persecuted by friends and family, and our fight isn't finished yet. But the more we struggle, the stronger our relationship becomes.
You're 8 weeks in. I knew this was the woman I was to marry on day number 2. We were friends for 6 weeks before. She was the one that made me believe in God and brought me to Christ, way before I realized I was in love with her.
The very fact that you are worried tells me that you do not trust God. Confess your problems and lay them at the feet of Jesus. Things will work themselves out. You should not have to seek advice to anyone except God. Once you begin speaking, the words will come out. You will know how to comfort him. You will know how to read him. In those first 2 weeks, I have no idea what I said to her, but God spoke through me to help her through her depression. Then, at a convention we both went to, God brought a pastor before us that healed her completely on the spot.
If the words do not come naturally then you need to pray. Trust God, and all will be good
- God Bless
P.S. Genesis 2:18 - The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
You are God's representative on Earth to man. It is not a relationship, it is a marriage made in heaven, and God will take you to the right man.
Sorry, quick one last bit: When I moved to a different town, she moved into that same town, that same school all the way from India. When I moved 4 years later, she too moved, only 3-4 blocks away from me. I used to jog by her house every morning, not knowing that in that house lives the girl I was to marry.
There are many such instances in our lives. This stuff doesn't just happen in movies. It's real.
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