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[profmom]

I just found this site - have been looking for a year for some kind of support online.
I just passed the one year mark as a widow. My story is a bit different - bear with me. I had been married for 25 years when my 1st husband decided he wanted a different wife so I started out this recent journey as a divorcee. God then dropped a great guy into my lap and after a whirlwind romance, we were married in June 2006. He died of a heart attack at the age of 49 just before our 11 month anniversary. I have suffered these two losses and some days are ok and others are awful. I have a great support network of friends but they are all married. So here I am, at the age of 51 both a divorced woman and a widow. Not sure what God's plan is here but trying to be faithful.

 

[kaykay537]

Sorry for your loss. ( Personally, I am not a widow but we lost our only child 6 years ago and I am currently involved in grief ministry at church.) Therefore, I don't have first hand knowledge of all that you're going through as a widow, but I DO understand deep, intense grief.

I hope that reading the other people's stories will be of some help and comfort to you just to know that the range of your emotions are so totally normal and to be expected.

Again, my condolence and prayers for you~~

 

[joelsgirlkathy]

Hi,
I noticed that we are the same age and widows, I am so sorry that you had to do both I did the same too,My husband and I were married for 13 years and he died 9 weeks ago to cancer,I am lost and lonley.I hate the weekends I wish I had to work all the time just to keep busy.I too wonder what GOD has in store for my life.

Hope to chat with you soon
Kathy

 

[profmom]

Kathy,
I'm sorry you're new to this journey. 9 weeks really isn't very long at all. I know what you mean about weekends - date night, sitting alone at church, so much spare time on your hands. But you need to fill it with friends and stuff. I had a dear widow friend who challenged me to 'do the next thing', whatever that was. Some days it was simply getting out of bed, other days it involved some kind of fun. It does get easier - not better but more doable. Have a good day and go 'do the next thing'.
Sue

 

[IBLuke226]

Hi Ladies,

My wife went home two years ago this past February. We had been married for and had renewed our vows on our 25th anniversary Sunday May 8th 2005 just three years ago. Know one can give you a time when you will 'feel normal' again. It seemed as all our friends was also couples so I withdrew from social interactions with them, imersing into 'busy work' to fill the time. I was nearing one year after her passing when I realized I had not taken the time to deal with it and my own internal feelings. Though I had spiritual backing from my church & Pastor, they could not relate to my emotional feeling. I had been harboring a lot of emotions, including feelings of anger towards G-d. I had to come to terms with all those, and you will also as you go though this. My prayers are for you for comfort in this time

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

My husband died in January of 2005 from head and neck cancer. He had a tumor behind his eye. In October of 2005 would have been our 25th wedding anniversary. I am now raising 2 boys by myself. All my friends are married, but I have found one dear friend. She is married, but her husband is a fireman, and she and I have become very close. It is by the grace of God that we push on and continue in faith. We can't see the reasons now, but I'm confident that God has good reasons and a plan for our lives. I can't imagine (nor would I want to) going thru this or any other tragedy without God. Even though it's hard losing my husband, I would not want to face life without God. I'm so sorry you had to go thru divorce and death. That's alot to deal with. One is bad enough. I pray that God would comfort you and that you will lean on Him.

 

[ThinkJesus]

Seems we're all about the same age. I recognize the feelings in these posts. I'll pray for you all.