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[StLGirl]

I never thought I'd see a Childfree forum existing on a Christian forum. I'm still learning so much about religion, and so many times I have felt I can't be both. But I've never felt so strongly about something. I have no maternal feelings. I don't think I have the right stuff to be a mom. I've never felt like it's what I was "meant" to do or "supposed" to do. I've had so many prayers about this, and nothing ever changes in me. I'm now 30 and I still don't have feeling in me that I should be a mother.

My husband used to want several kids but changed his mind. So that was just another sign as I don't believe in tricking him or divorcing him either.

 

[HeyHomie]

Good on you for admitting your limitations. Too many young women believe that they have to have kids, whether they want them or not.

 

[fuzzymel]

Welcome to the boards!!!

Finding a section like this brought me to the boards. Its good fun! Its nice to know you are not the only one.

 

[snoochface]

Welcome, StLGirl!

The people in this sub-forum are some of the best I know on the whole of CF (and if you like the TV show "Lost", those are the other best, come visit us over on that sub-forum too ). I think you'll feel right at home here. I'm glad you found us!

 

[bluebug83]

Another "welcome" from me! I'm happy you found this board.

And I totally understand how "Christian" and "childfree" often seems like an oxymoron. I actually found this board while intentionally trying to find a group of Christians who don't want kids. I'm not sure whether or not I want kids, and nobody I know in real life has the same mentality. It's nice to know you're not alone

 

[StLGirl]

Thanks everyone!

Oh I so LOVE Lost but I don't think I can go discuss it as I am behind! See I just happen to not watch it until Hubby borrowed Seasons 1 and 2 from a co-worker back around February/March I think. So I was skeptical but started watching and before I knew it I was so addicted you would not believe. I live in the UK now and Season 3 is on but I didn't finish 2 in time so I couldn't start it. I don't know how I can wait for it to be on DVD. I was going to buy from iTunes. I know they show it free on ABC.com but not for anyone outside of the US so what a bummer! Anyway I can't believe it's been months since I saw it.

Ok a bit off topic there! I'm glad I found this forum it sure seems like a great place!

 

[Rebekka]

Welcome! Yes, I, too, struggle with the fact that many christians think that being childfree means you can't be a christian. But it is possible. We're here!

 

[Amélie Unbound]

Welcome, StLGirl!

I can relate to what you said about having no maternal feelings. I'm the same way. And my husband used to think he wanted kids, but he too has changed his mind, which I'm very thankful for! I was actually willing to try to have kids for his sake, but thank God I didn't get pregnant before he changed his mind! (It actually turns out that I'm infertile anyway, which I'm also thankful for!)

 

[Epoh99]

WELCOME! I've been a bit behind and not posting much lately. I'm basically on the computer all day at work and so exhausted by the time I get home that the last thing I want to do is get on the computer again. So, that's why my welcome is a couple days late! I think you'll have fun posting here & feel free to bring up any and all topics you need to discuss.

...I actually found this board while intentionally trying to find a group of Christians who don't want kids...and nobody I know in real life has the same mentality. It's nice to know you're not alone

Same here!

 

[Meep]

If having NO children was fine for Jesus, then it's fine for me.