new group member

[Zita123]

When I went to my group we had a new member. He wanted to tell us his back ground. He shot ad klled he girlfriend 3 times because of te 3 daughters the had. he walked in on her cheating on him. he spent 13 yrs in jail and I pray for him, he had since then found GOD . He seems very nice.
it's just noe sl of our regular memebers are afraid Any suggesting

 

[NewCovenant]

Wow. That's heavy duty stuff. I dated a guy for over a year that had murdered his 3 month old baby girl (it took a while for me to find this out). My doctor and I believed he had something called Intermittent Explosive Disorder, but he was not taking anything but an antidepressant. IED is treated like BP, with mood stabilizers AND antidepressants, as well as counseling. While I was dating him, he killed a cat that we had together and he also beat my dog (I think he's a serial killer in the making). He never got appropriate help for this, and I think he is still a danger to society. (He served 13 years in prison for his crime.) Often folks like this have an occassional violent or rage-filled outbursts, but otherwise lead normal lives. Very scary.

I completely understand your group being afraid of this character.

 

[heatherq17]

WOW....

 

[DLX]

Wow indeed! At least he is being open and honest with you. He didn't have to tell you that stuff about himself. So it is worth giving him a chance I think. I would be careful though.

Lexi

 

[Zita123]

My Goodness!!! Has he contacted you at all??

Zita

Wow. That's heavy duty stuff. I dated a guy for over a year that had murdered his 3 month old baby girl (it took a while for me to find this out). My doctor and I believed he had something called Intermittent Explosive Disorder, but he was not taking anything but an antidepressant. IED is treated like BP, with mood stabilizers AND antidepressants, as well as counseling. While I was dating him, he killed a cat that we had together and he also beat my dog (I think he's a serial killer in the making). He never got appropriate help for this, and I think he is still a danger to society. (He served 13 years in prison for his crime.) Often folks like this have an occassional violent or rage-filled outbursts, but otherwise lead normal lives. Very scary.

I completely understand your group being afraid of this character.

 

[Zita123]

I feel that he paid his dues and was out for good behavor ,although he did say he had to hold his own in jail!.

I ask him straight out, " If I give you constructive criticism will you be very angry with me?" He told us all not to worry. He then went to a phyc. hospital where one of the social workers made a love affair with him. She then left him cold so now, he is sueing her. He has notes and gifts and the whole nine yards! I feel sorry for him and I will pray for him!
Thanks!
Zita

Wow indeed! At least he is being open and honest with you. He didn't have to tell you that stuff about himself. So it is worth giving him a chance I think. I would be careful though.

Lexi

 

[s_gunter]

Yes, he is being open and honest with everyone, and that is a good sign. However, still be cautious about him. Don't think for a moment that he is dating material. He's not!!

He's been hurt by those that are supposed to help him. I would be on the lookout for a man like this to 'snap' and take it out on someone innocent. I don't think you'd wanna be in his path.

Also, just because he has served his time and was release back into society doesn't necessarily mean that he is deemed safe. It only means that he either managed to persuade a parole board he was (he could have told lies that they believed), or that he had done his complete sentence and they were forced to release him.

You are right to pray for him, whether he's found God or not. But that doesn't mean you have to completely trust him. He has the potential to forget about God completely and act out violently again. Please, be on your guard, and don't get too involved with this man.