New christain dealing with the thought of abortion

[somescarsneverheal]

I am a new christian I was save 6-29-2012 and baptized 7-15-2012, I also just found out that im 5wks Pregnant...I know what God thinks about abortion...but my boyfriend is not a christian and he wants me to get rid of the baby.....im afraid to go against him becosue he can be controling/abusive but I want to do whats right in by christ. I love this baby I do but im scared becosue im currently liveing with my boyfriend so if I dotn get rid of it then im gonna have to find somewhere else to live not to mention deal with him comeing in and out of the babys life...I just dont know what to do? I want to keep the baby but If I dont get the abortion im afraid for how my boyfriend will react...any advice?

 

[dobson67]

Seek help with Women's Shelters and leave the Boyfriend! If he's controlling and Abusive, you shouldn't be with him anyway. Put your faith in Jesus. He's there for you and always will be. Pray on what to do. You are now a Child of God. Find a womens shelter in your town. but PLEASE do not give in to the boyfriend. I know women who had abortions before becoming Christians and they live in literal TORMENT at the thought of what they've done with the abortion. Please don't go that route.

If you need help, I'm sure others here would back me up and help you. But remember this..Abortion is PERMANENT and the wrong answer!

 

[dobson67]

Regarding your Boyfriend, Your Answer may be found in 2 Timothy 3:1-8....

But know this, that in the last days grievous times shall come.

For men shall be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, haughty, railers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, implacable, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, no lovers of good, traitors, headstrong, puffed up, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God; holding a form of godliness, but having denied the power thereof: from these also turn away.

For of these are they that creep into houses, and take captive silly women laden with sins, led away by divers lusts, ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. And even as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also withstand the truth. Men corrupted in mind, reprobate concerning the faith.

 

[Nails74]

Perhaps a good conversation to have with your pastor.

 

[Leap]

Good advice from the previous two posters...

 

[jpcedotal]

praying for you and your unborn child...

Who do u look up to as a female Christian role model? That's where I would start, along with prayer, to look for help and clarity or God's Will in your life.

God Bless and I will be praying for you all day.

 

[somescarsneverheal]

Please pray for me...my boyfriend is wanting me to go get an abortion tomorrow...

 

[Eddie L]

Then leave him and find a shelter (and a pastor) today.

 

[jpcedotal]

do u not have family u can move in with temporarily?

 

[americanvet]

I have very strong feelings regarding both of those issues and I will give my advice backwards.

Abusive BOYfriend: Notice boy is in all caps. Men do not abuse women! Additionally, he is already wanting to abuse your child by pushing the abortion.

Your baby: A child is a gift from God. If you are old enough to do what causes babies then you know that can and does cause them. Therefore the people who did that were asking (some might read risking) for a child. The baby did not ask for life but the two of you choose to give it life. Christ died for the sins of this child.

This is all my opinion and how I interpret the Bible. I hope and pray you will keep your child and get away from this abusive relationship. If any of this comes/came across as harsh I am truly sorry.

 

[timf]

I have counseled many teens about wanting an abortion because of fear of parents, boyfriends, or regular friends. I usually ask them to close their eyes and imagine that they were over 21 years old. That they had no parents and were living on their own. That they had no boyfriend. That they were rich and had millions. Then in that situation, if they were to find themselves pregnant, would they want to have their baby. They would almost always answer, yes.

The problem becomes more, "How can I have my baby and deal with all of the people yelling at me" rather than, "How can I get an abortion".

If you are getting pressure to have an abortion, you need someone to help you withstand the pressure. If your boyfriend is not going to be on your side, you need to find someone who does care about you and will be on your side.

You may feel alone and helpless now, but if you can get connected to people in your church family, pastor, or pro-life clinic, you may find the help you need.

 

[parsley]

Look up Catholic Family Services/Charities in your local phone book. They will have women's shelters. You can also find temporary shelter with a local center for battered women; they will keep your location confidentiality from your bf if needed.

Some cities have homeless shelters for women and children. But you might be surprised -- some of your relatives might want you to move in with them.

If you are intimidated by your boyfriend now and fearful of what he might say or do, imagine what it might be like ten years from now when the newness of the relationship wears off, and times are tough. It doesn't mysteriously get better.

Many people who work for charities like crisis pregnancy centers do it because they love it, and want to help people. You are not imposing on them by requesting ideas on a place to stay. Allow them to help you.

Pastors will also be helpful, by referring you to local resources.

The problem becomes more, "How can I have my baby and deal with all of the people yelling at me"

(-; So true.

 

[Sketcher]

Ditch the guy, keep the baby. He's abusive, you deserve better than that. And aborting will haunt you for the rest of your life. There are Christian women's shelters which can help you through this situation. If my city has one, yours will.

 

[thesunisout]

I am a new christian I was save 6-29-2012 and baptized 7-15-2012, I also just found out that im 5wks Pregnant...I know what God thinks about abortion...but my boyfriend is not a christian and he wants me to get rid of the baby.....im afraid to go against him becosue he can be controling/abusive but I want to do whats right in by christ. I love this baby I do but im scared becosue im currently liveing with my boyfriend so if I dotn get rid of it then im gonna have to find somewhere else to live not to mention deal with him comeing in and out of the babys life...I just dont know what to do? I want to keep the baby but If I dont get the abortion im afraid for how my boyfriend will react...any advice?

Welcome to the faith, sister. I think you can see already that being a Christian means making some hard choices in your life, but that is what it takes to follow our Lord. You are facing a trial, and I think you know in your heart what the right thing to do is. What you need to do right now more than anything is trust in the Lord because He will make a way for you.

Read Psalm 23. He is your ever present sufficiency for every need. He will guide you step by step. Just take a step out in faith and don't worry about what your boyfriend might do; God is in control. Stay in prayer and look for His leading in this situation. Your boyfriend sounds like bad news..I think you definitely need to get away from him for now. He needs to be radically saved by Jesus Christ. Pray for him as well. We are here for you sister. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless.

 

[Ark100]

I am a new christian I was save 6-29-2012 and baptized 7-15-2012, I also just found out that im 5wks Pregnant...I know what God thinks about abortion...but my boyfriend is not a christian and he wants me to get rid of the baby.....im afraid to go against him becosue he can be controling/abusive but I want to do whats right in by christ. I love this baby I do but im scared becosue im currently liveing with my boyfriend so if I dotn get rid of it then im gonna have to find somewhere else to live not to mention deal with him comeing in and out of the babys life...I just dont know what to do? I want to keep the baby but If I dont get the abortion im afraid for how my boyfriend will react...any advice?

Hi OP,

I hope you read this and have not aborted your baby?
Please PM me if you need someone to share a personal testimony with you. DO NOT ABORT your baby please for the sake of Christ JESUS.
Wish I'd read this earlier.
praying for you. Jesus does not want you to abort, never, ever.
God is your strength when you go through all odds to keep what you have.

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I love my baby i really do but part of me wonders if things would be better if i just got rid of the baby.

 

[thesunisout]

I love my baby i really do but part of me wonders if things would be better if i just got rid of the baby.

Your child is heaven sent. God has a plan for your life and it doesn't necessarily involve some of the elements which are now creating issues in your life. You need to trust God and follow His ways; that is how your situation will improve.

 

[ElainaMor]

I'm praying for you....please go to 180movie.com

 

[Eddie L]

I love my baby i really do but part of me wonders if things would be better if i just got rid of the baby.

That part of you that is wondering is really questioning God, isn't it? If you weren't a new creature in Christ, you'd be listening to that part of you all the time. Well, now that you are born again into the family of God, you don't have to listen to that part of you anymore. You can trust what God says now. He's your Provider, your Salvation, your Redemption, and your Way Maker. Trust Him. He really does know what He's doing.

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I know that abortion is wrong its just hardd im just afraid i cant do this on my own or im gonna screw it up...or idk i just never saw myself getting pregnant this young...