New Baby, what room to ut the basinet in?

[Macx]

I brought the basinet up from storage and we'll have a bundle of joy to put in there soon. Right now we have a daughter about to turn two. She sleeps in her own room in a crib. We have two bedrooms and a living room. We'd thought about keeping him in our room so when he cries it won't wake our daughter, but have also heard toddlers can learn to sleep through. Our space is really limited, but we want to do what is best for the kids. What do ya'll think?

 

[mont974x4]

kids sleep in the kids room. That is my hard and fast rule.

 

[b.hopeful]

We coslept...so I obviously don't have a problem with kids in our room or even our bed. I think it's an old wives tale that kids will learn to sleep through a crying baby. Even with the babies in our room...if they were loud enough, siblings woke up. It would depend on the kid I guess. Also...at the beginning it can be easier to have the baby in your room for night feedings and diaper changes. Even if the crying didn't wake them...having mom or dad in the room feeding and soothing an infant can..as well as diaper changes in the night.

 

[mont974x4]

having our first kids in the bedroom with us was a huge reason my first wife and I had issues. Also, there are serious issues later on that can be avoided by establishing solid bounderies in the early days.

Get a good monitor, have the baby sleep in the kids room, and work hard to share the duties as much as possible.

 

[b.hopeful]

I think it's more about what works for each family. If having children in your room puts your marriage at risk, don't do it. However, it worked wonderfully for ours and we have no boundary issues with our 12,9 and 6 yo. They also now enjoy their beds and bedrooms and had no problems transitioning.

 

[mont974x4]

That is a good thing. I am glad you were blessed in that.

 

[tansy]

We always had our newborns in the same bedroom as us...I felt happier having the baby close by, and being able to respond immediately to the slightest cry. Also, a I breastfed, I didnt have to drag around, half-asleep, to see to the baby's needs. And it didn't present any problems when they came to sleeping in their own rooms later.
But it really depends what you and your husband feel happiest with, and what works best for you.

 

[MLEN]

Although our son sleeps like a rock, when our daughter arrived on the scene we kept her in a bassinet in our room so that I could breastfeed as it was much more convenient. Also, our son had a great sleeping routine at night and we did not want to take a chance on breaking that up since he needed good rest to get through preschool during the day.

When training our daughter to sleep through the night (which took me about 2 weeks), we transferred her to a crib in the kids' room and my son and I swapped beds (i.e., he slept with daddy and I slept in his single bed) - so that her waking and crying through the night would not wake my son while she got used to her new bed.

My husband was happy to not be disturbed nights and my son was still able to keep his routine. We all knew it was a temporary arrangements, so we toughed the 2 weeks until she was sleeping through, after which both kids were sleeping right through peacefully in their own room in their separate beds.

Hope this helps. But in the end you have to go with what works with you and your family.

Blessings

 

[CrystalBrooke]

Although I was a bit older when my sister was born (5) when my parents put her in my room it was a nightmare for me..of course, she was a nightmare baby. Whenever she cried during the night (which was most of the night) it woke me up and I could NOT get back to sleep. Some kids can sleep through anything..my 3 year old won't budge for anything when she's asleep..trust me, I've tried to wake her before and I can't.

As far as putting the baby in your room..I think that's fine. Emily was in our room for the first 6 weeks, then she got moved into her own room with a monitor. I NEVER put her in bed with us and I will NEVER put any of my children in the bed with me, I see no need in that (not condeming those who do it, this is a personally choice) and it can create bad habits later on for everyone involved.

 

[GolfingMom]

We placed our youngest in the same room as his sibling. It wasn't an issue. Sibling slept through the night.
I'm also a parent who didn't whisper or keep the house very quiet while the babies napped. I made sure to have noise around and live MY normal life so my children got used to there being noise.

 

[Assisi]

The risk of SIDS has been shown to be decreased when Baby sleeps with mother for the first 6 months. The recommendation is that Baby sleeps 'separate but proximate' to the mother, so the bassinet in your room sounds ideal.

 

[tiredwalker]

We kept DD in a bassinet then crib right next to our bed for the first 8 months. It worked wonderfully for us. For me personally, she just seemed to small and new to put all the way across the hall where I couldn't check on her. Then, she started waking up more during the night (she had been sleeping 8 hours through from 1 month), so we moved her into her room. She seemed to sleep better in there with her sleep sheep and monitor, and we slept better too. We're planning the same type of thing with our next baby here in May.

 

[Scottish Joy]

We're in the exact same boat! We have a brand new baby and a 2 year old with his own room (across the house).

We have a co-sleeper next to my side of the bed right now. I feed and change baby in the living room, but that way I can grab him before he really starts howling and wakes the house. We'll probably move him over to big brother's room somewhere between 1 or 2 months- when he can start sleeping through the night.

Personally, I like having my baby close by right at first. DH would be happy to plop him across the house right from the get go, but as long as there's not too much hollering going on in our room at night, he's ok with this arrangement.

 

[TheSerenityPrayer]

We tried co-sleeping with my now 2 1/2 week old DD. It didn't work out for us, now she sleeps in the living room in her playpen until I can fanagle the DH to put the crib together. She does just fine, i hear her when she starts to cry even without a monitor. My 14 month old son sleeps through most of the time during her crying during the day/night. It just depends on what you want to do.. There really isn't a right or wrong answer. Good luck to you guys!

 

[ThinkingMom]

We also have a two bedroom apartment. One room is the bedroom and the other is the playroom. Our 15 month old son cosleeps with us. Actually he moved to a toddler bed in our room when he was nine months. Our new baby will also cosleep. I just feel safer with them close by at night and there is a lot of good research about the benefits of cosleeping.

 

[Jilly123]

We're in the same boat. I will do what we did with the first baby and keep this one in our room in a bassinet for the first 2 or so months and then move them to the other room with a baby monitor.