New at this

[beet]

ok - i'm new at this. I've recently met a guy i knew online a while back - we chatted online a bit but then we lost touch for a couple of years. He called me out of the blue the other day saying he was passing by my way did we want to meet up? I said sure. Well we met, he's a nice guy.

After he arrived at his destination (he was passing through my town on long drive) he called me to let me know he'd arrived ok

Called me again next day to see if I wanted something dropped off as he passed through town again on his way home.

I said fine, so we met up again on his way through.

What would YOU think if you were me? could there be something in it? does it seem strange that he would contact me out of the blue (he called the place i was pretty sure i worked at) after losing touch for a couple of years

 

[wvmtnkid]

If I were you, I would certainly wonder what was up (and would probably think something was), especially after not hearing from him after so many years. Did he tell you how to contact him since he has reconnected with you? Or has he even contacted you since? Are you in a position that you can directly ask him what his intentions are?

Welcome, by the way!

 

[Talie]

misposted, sorry

 

[Talie]

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[beet]

I have his number, he has mine - he's called me since writing the first post - but for some reason my phone didn't ring and i didn't get his message until i went to use the phone to call him! The signal was bad though and i kept getting cut off so we didn't reallyg et to talk at all

 

[Stanfi]

I would say something is up. My guess is that something has happened in his life to turn his thoughts towards you.

 

[wvmtnkid]

I have his number, he has mine - he's called me since writing the first post - but for some reason my phone didn't ring and i didn't get his message until i went to use the phone to call him! The signal was bad though and i kept getting cut off so we didn't reallyg et to talk at all

My guess would be that something is definately up! And I would think it is perfectly alright for you to ask what is up, assuming you ever get to talk to him again!

 

[beet]

Well, like I said, I’m "new at this" - although I'm hardly young, I've never had a guy interested in me before...and I’m not quite sure how to go about things. Of course, he's also living quite some distance away from me so if things go anywhere it'll be at a very slow pace. During our few phone calls over the last couple of days, we haven't talked about anything except extremely trivial stuff - I'm falling over myself not knowing what to say because I don't want to sound like an idiot or be embarrassed if I’ve read things wrong



Any advice for a newbie?

 

[wvmtnkid]

Not that I am an expert by any means, but guys usually don't call for no reason at all or just to shoot the breeze. My guess is the fact that he is calling signifies that he is ready or at least willing to renew something with you, if nothing else at least the friendship. I would also venture to say he is testing the waters, seeing how you will react to him. I don't know how you parted ways before, if it was mutual or if one of you decided to end things, so maybe he is just seeing how and where you are in life at the moment and how open you are to picking up where things left off.

Personally, if it were me, I would be curious as to why he was calling and making contact again. If I were interested in renewing the relationship, I think I would let him know that it has been great to hear from him and I have enjoyed talking with him, but that I am curious as to why he has contacted me after not hearing from him for awhile. I would certainly think that you have the right to ask what is going on with the renewed interest. If he doesn't intend to pursue you, then you need to know that so that your heart doesn't go places he doesn't intend to fulfill. And if he wants to pursue you, then you need to know that so that you can have time to pray about it and see if this is a direction the Lord would be leading you in as well.

Just keep the lines of communication open. That way there is less likely to be misunderstanding and hurt feelings along the way.

But I must say, it does sound interesting! Are you glad that he has contacted you again?

 

[LynneClomina]

you dont need to worry if "something is up". if God has plans for it, it will happen and nothing can stop it. if God doesnt have plans for it, then nothing will happen. God is in control of finding you a guy, you dont have to go a-huntin'!