Man, I have had enough. There is not ONE person who believes that my body can do what God designed it to do.
I've been told I'm having a 'trial of scar/labour' so the docs won't let me labour for long...why? because they're scared, which will lead to more interventions and another c-section.
Today I said to the midwife that I wanted to avoid a c-section if possible because Benjamin has never been away from me for more than a few hours, so five days of me in a hospital would be hard for him. Her reply? "Well, your babies might not fit out of you the normal way, so you'll just have to do what you have to do." I KNOW that, but I was just saying I'd like to avoid it as much as possible. Way to inspire confidence in the mum-to-be. And it's not like I'm giving birth to an elephant or anything.
I *just* want someone who will help me to avoid any unecessary interventions, and who trusts that my body can birth its own babies. Obviously if there's an emergency then I have to do what's necessary, but why intervene and create an emergency before there needs to be one?
I've been told they like to break waters early (which is what caused the problems last time)...from then on they'll be clock watching and if my labour doesn't progress quickly they'll put me on a drip, which means contrax will be more painful and I'll need an epi, which will put me on my back and possibly slow labour down, then they'll panic because I'm not progessing enough and do another c-section which will put paid to having loads of children or natural births in the future.
I've just about had it with all the scaremongering and negativity...I'm sorely tempted not to go for any more check-ups, and not to go to the hospital for the birth but just to do it all by myself at home. Or at least wait until I'm ready to deliver and turn up just in time for them to catch the baby.
Anyway, just wanted to get all that off my chest. Rant over for now...
I've been told I'm having a 'trial of scar/labour' so the docs won't let me labour for long...why? because they're scared, which will lead to more interventions and another c-section.
Today I said to the midwife that I wanted to avoid a c-section if possible because Benjamin has never been away from me for more than a few hours, so five days of me in a hospital would be hard for him. Her reply? "Well, your babies might not fit out of you the normal way, so you'll just have to do what you have to do." I KNOW that, but I was just saying I'd like to avoid it as much as possible. Way to inspire confidence in the mum-to-be. And it's not like I'm giving birth to an elephant or anything.
I *just* want someone who will help me to avoid any unecessary interventions, and who trusts that my body can birth its own babies. Obviously if there's an emergency then I have to do what's necessary, but why intervene and create an emergency before there needs to be one?
I've been told they like to break waters early (which is what caused the problems last time)...from then on they'll be clock watching and if my labour doesn't progress quickly they'll put me on a drip, which means contrax will be more painful and I'll need an epi, which will put me on my back and possibly slow labour down, then they'll panic because I'm not progessing enough and do another c-section which will put paid to having loads of children or natural births in the future.
I've just about had it with all the scaremongering and negativity...I'm sorely tempted not to go for any more check-ups, and not to go to the hospital for the birth but just to do it all by myself at home. Or at least wait until I'm ready to deliver and turn up just in time for them to catch the baby.
Anyway, just wanted to get all that off my chest. Rant over for now...
So sorry you're having to put up with that. Do you have anyone whom you can take with you when you go into labor who can be your advocate? Someone who can encourage you and at the same fight for the labor and delivery that you want?
